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Cunnilingus; A How to Guide for Oral on a Female

5/28/2005

What is cunnilingus?
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Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the
female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the
outer and inner areas of the vagina, and most often involves
direct stimulation of the clitoris. Some women find cunnilingus
to be the most satisfying sexual act. Indeed, a great number
of women report that oral sex is the only way they can achieve
orgasm. The mouth can create a uniquely intense range of
sensations which many find unrivaled.
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Here's How:
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1. Get yourself ready. Make sure your hands are clean, and
your nails are trimmed as you'll probably want to use
your hands as well as your mouth on her. Shave your stubble–nothing
kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts.

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2. Consider bathing. If you're anxious about her taste
or smell, suggest a romantic bath or shower together and
then go down on her. You can also try a flavored lubricant
or a dental dam (good for safe sex), which will mask her taste
if you find it unpleasant (but try it first!).
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3. Turn her on. A lot of women prefer to be pretty excited
in order to enjoy cunnilingus. Take your time about it.
Use your mouth all over her body–this will send her a message
about what will follow. When she’s good and excited–her
hips are thrusting and the moans pretty regular, head south.

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4. Get comfortable. She can lie on her back, or sit back in
a reclined position, with her knees bent and her legs spread.
You can lie on your stomach with your head poised over her
vulva, your arms hooked underneath her thighs.
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5. Get the lay of the land. Take a good look at her genitals
so you know what you’re doing. (Brush up on female anatomy
first if need be). Your goal during cunnilingus is to stimulate
her clitoris, but not at the exclusion of the rest of her
genital anatomy. Use your fingers to spread her lips and
take a good look at her clitoris, her labia, her mons, her
vagina, her perineum and her anus.
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6. Ease into it. A lot of women have very sensitive clits,
so don’t attack her vulva as if it were a juicy ripe peach.
Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore
her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris.
Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum
and lick up and around her clit and back down the other side.

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7. Check the hood. Most women prefer to have their clitorises
licked through the "clitoral hood." This is
a fold of skin that covers the actual glands of the clitoris,
which is extremely sensitive.
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8. Clit strokes. In general, women tend to like firm pressure
and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the
clitoris can be irritating. If you’re not sure, ask her
to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes–circular,
side-to-side, up-and-down. Don’t take it personally
if she flinches–discovering what pleases is often a process
of trial and error–just try something else.
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9. Let her give you a hand. If you've ever seen her masturbate,
you have some idea how she likes her clit to be touched. Ask
her to show you now, or you can offer her your hand and ask
her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing
hers on top of yours.
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10. Use your mouth. Take her clit in your mouth and gently
suck on it. Use your mouth to suck on or nibble her labia.

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11. Insert your fingers or a toy into her vagina (optional).
When she’s good and excited, add some lubricant to your
fingers or toy and gently insert it into her vagina. Move
them in and out using short but firm strokes. Put your mouth
back on her clitoris and lick her while you penetrate her.

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12. Don’t stop. Women like steady stimulation, so don’t
stop unless you need to come up for air. You’ll see the signs
when she’s getting ready to go over the top–her moans, her
thighs pressing against your head, her body arching, her
hands tightening on your head! When the orgasm washes over
you, she’ll let you know when to stop.
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13. Come again. If you’re up to the task, you might want to
ask her if she wants more, as some women can move into another
orgasm with steady stimulation. You can always try a vibrator
or masturbation if your tongue is too tired.
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Tips:
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1. You can also incorporate the perineum and vaginal opening
into your oral sex. Let your tongue travel down and pop in
and out of the vagina occasionally.
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2. She might prefer to work the dildo or vibrator inside
her while you're licking. This allows you to concentrate,
and her to get the rhythm she likes best.
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3. If your mouth or tongue tires, give it a rest, but replace
the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator (unless she
wants a rest too).
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4. It can take women longer to come than men, and many women
are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make
her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in
there for the long haul. She will be forever grateful if
you do.
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Techniques to better cunnilingus
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The clitoris is central to female sexual arousal, as it
contains most of the sexually charged tissues in the body.
The logical first step for many lovers, therefore, is to
directly stimulate the clitoris right off the bat. The
catch is many women will not be very responsive to this jump-for-the-clitoris
approach. Take things slow at first, kissing and licking
her stomach and thighs, then the area around her clitoris.
Build her arousal level slowly, gradually increasing
pressure and speed with your mouth. Once you know she’s
aroused (i.e. if she’s told you or motioned so) you can then
move to the clitoris.
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Many women enjoy a massage of the mons. The mons in the mound
of skin which is found on top the pubic bone above the vaginal
opening. Take one or both of your hands and carefully move
the mons and surrounding area much the same way you would
massage someone's shoulders. Be careful not to press
too hard or make too wide a circular movement. As you manually
stimulate the mons, you can move your mouth to the vulva.
When soothing her vulva with your tongue, you may wish to
concentrate solely on the clitoris after some stimulation
of the labia or you may wish to lick the surrounding areas.
Some women need constant clitoral stimulation to reach
orgasm so ask your partner what she would have you do. Clitoral
stimulation can be exciting but don't be too eager.
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Spend some time kissing, licking, caressing, and nibbling
her body, all over, avoiding her genital area at first.
Spend some time tracing her body, with your mouth and hands,
exploring, all over, with your lips, tongue, and hands,
using your teeth to gently nibble on parts of her anatomy,
every now and again. Get her use to your touch, while you
become accustomed to how she feels and to the aroma of her
skin. Gently discover what she likes and dislikes. Be sure
to read the cues of her excitement, if she responds well
to certain things, certain place, areas, spots, being
licked, kissed, caressed, nibbled, whatever, continue.
Getting her aroused is important, before any genital stimulation
begins.
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When you’re ready to transition from foreplay to cunnilingus,
take a moment a moment for you both to adjust to the feel of
having your face near her genitalia, gradually narrow
your attentions to the entire area of her vulva. Slowly
begin, perhaps, with gentle kisses, gradually getting
firmer, as you feel her lips tense from arousal. Slowly
trace the outskirts of the vaginal lips, with your tongue,
working your way from its outer lips to the inner one, as
she begins to open up more and more for you, employ some long,
slow, languorous (lazy), licks, gradually increasing
your rhythm and speed as the vagina begins to adhere more
to stimulation. Vary your motions between circular and
side-to-side movements, between quick flicks of your
tongue and furious humming (shaking), with your lips.
Note, if you find that she is responding positively to being
licked, kissed, touched, sucked, in certain areas, spots,
then, spend extra time there.
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The way that you use your tongue is important. Provide different
textures by altering the natural flex of your tongue. When
your tongue hangs limp and flat, it provides a soft caress.
When your tongue is flexed and rigid it provides more direct
and firm stimulation. Try some of each and determine which
your partner prefers. Some women will want rapid motions
of continuous licking while others prefer long, slow caresses.
When you’ve found, a rhythm that works, that she likes,
continue with it, most especially, if she is on the crest
of crescendo. You don’t want to stop something working
really well. You can go away from it for a bit to prolong anticipation
and further built her tension for an ultimate release and
a more intense orgasm, but make sure you go back to it.
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Lubricants are usually thought of in terms of penetration
only, but they can add excitement during cunnilingus as
well. You can try a nice water-based lubricant, such as
Astroglide Strawberry. Lubricants come in a wide variety
of flavors and help protect the sensitive tissues of the
vagina during stimulation.
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When a woman becomes sexually aroused her vagina balloons
and her uterus rises. Women often enjoy the feeling of penetration
during oral sex. This penetration can be well-lubricated
fingers or a dildo. While there is a wide selection of dildos
on the market, some men may feel uncomfortable using a dildo
that resembles a penis. A great solution to this problem
is the E-glass line of dildos. The elegant design of these
glass products allows them to double as inconspicuous
art that can be kept on the shelf as opposed to hidden in a
drawer. Gently follow the natural curvature of the vagina
for smooth entry. If you find that it's a little difficult
to coordinate everything you should try the Accommodator.
You've got to see this one to believe it. It's a
chin-mounted dildo. What will they think of next?
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Positioning for better cunnilingus
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Before launching into a detailed discussion of techniques,
let's consider the range of possible positions for
cunnilingus. Each position will be uniquely satisfying,
so it is best for you and your partner to experiment and determine
which one(s) you prefer. Most couples begin with the woman
sitting in a chair or on the bed. This gives full access to
the genitals and support to the back so that the woman is
relaxed and her hands are free to stimulate herself. The
partner performing oral sex can lie or sit facing the woman,
free to use his or her hands for stimulation with the fingers.
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Another popular position is for the woman to squat on all
fours over her lover's face as she or he is lying down.
Some people prefer this position because it allows a woman
to move her pelvis to accentuate the stimulation. This
position also allows a couple to mutually stimulate one
another (the so-called ‘69’ when it is performed each
partner at opposite ends. If you are a more meticulous giver
of oral sex, you may not like this position because it is
difficult to place your tongue right where you want it.
Couples who wish to engage in playful dominance-submissive
role playing might like to try standing while the other
partner performs oral sex on his or her knees.
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In recent years, toys have been produced to mimic the sensations
of cunnilingus. Introduced by Lady Carlston, The Tongue,
is probably the most popular of these toys. The Tongue can
be the perfect addition for couples who want to add to the
sensations of regular cunnilingus, or for women who want
to continue when their partner is not around.
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Remember all, that there is not one proven method, technique
that works for all, so it is important to communicate, ask
her what she likes prefers. Try different techniques,
rhythms, tell you find what works the best, and remember
to read your response cues, if you find that she like something
continue with that. Always start slow, avoiding direct
clitoral stimulation at first, unless otherwise directed,
and remember it is not quickness of your tongue that counts,
but how well you respond to what her actions tell you.
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More Notes on Performing Cunnilingus
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Eating a woman's @#%$ is about the most wonderful thing
you can do for her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy,
and of course it makes her cum like crazy. Many women prefer
it to intercourse, and for most, it is the easiest way to
cum with a man. You may have the littlest dick on the planet,
but if you give great head, you will be appreciated as a fabulous
lover. Yes, it's that important. Besides, lots of
women expect it these days - you might as well know what you’re
doing.
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First off, guys seem to have a strange love/hate relationship
with women's genitalia. Guys that can't wait
to get their dick into one are often reluctant to put their
face "down there". For every guy who says he
loves to eat @#%$ there's another one who's squeamish.
Women know this, and it affects their ability to lay back
and enjoy the experience. There is nothing more exciting
to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious.
Don't be coy; tell her. When a guy fingers a lady and
then smells, licks, sucks the juice off his finger and sighs
as if in heaven, she knows this is her lucky day.
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What if your sweet lady doesn't smell or taste very
sweet? Don't suffer. (Don't complain, either.)
Take a nice hot shower or bath together. Lather up both of
your bodies and slide them together. It's like a whole
body @#%$. Soap up her vulva, washing between her outer
and inner lips. Spread her lips apart and gently wash her
clitoris. Hey, don't stop - this feels great! Run your
soapy hand down the crack of her ass, and rub a finger all
around her anus. You can stick one finger in and wash around
inside too, if you anticipate any anal play, and I suggest
you do. But don't put those soapy fingers up her vagina.
Instead, rinse them off well and stick one or two inside,
making a circular motion. Think about washing the inside
of a tall glass - same thing. Now wasn't that fun? And
now you can feel free to let your tongue wander anywhere
it pleases...
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So now what? You've found a comfy spot to play, you've
been kissing passionately, your tongues darting around
each other's mouths like playful otters. You've
moved down to nibble one of her hardening nipples and she's
starting to groan, grinding her pelvis against your stomach.
STOP. I know it was just starting to get good. But was she
really groaning and humping you, or was it your own excitement
you were detecting? I strongly prefer to be excited before
a guy starts plunging his tongue into my inner recesses.
Use your judgment, and kiss, lick, and fondle your way down
her stomach, up her thighs, until she's arching up
her back trying to get you to eat her. Of course, if she really
was groaning and grinding, go for it...I also don't
particularly enjoy a guy endlessly nibbling my inner thigh
while my clit is quivering in anticipation.
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POSITIONS
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If the woman you are with is somewhat hesitant about your
going down on her, start off with her lying on her back, perhaps
half-sitting. Lay down between her legs, with her legs
over your shoulders. She may enjoy laying or sitting at
the edge of the bed with you kneeling. She can also straddle
your face, but be prepared to get very wet. There are endless
varieties of positions where you can press your face up
to her @#%$, some of which strike me as more acrobatic than
erotic, but feel free to experiment. And then there's
69...
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69 is one of my favorite positions. On the plus side, you
both get to enjoy the sublime sensations of getting head,
simultaneously. The upside down positioning of a woman's
@#%$ and your mouth is an easy fit and there's more room
for your hands. On the negative side, it's a less than
ideal position for a woman to give head. Plus, if you need
to read this article, you may be better off concentrating
your energies on pleasing her, without too much distraction.
But even for experienced 69'ers, it's easy to
short-change your partner. "It feels soooo good,
I'm just gonna stop for a second and concentrate on
what you're...aaaarrrgghhh". Get the picture?
Some show of will-power is in order.
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69 can be done male on top, female on top, or side by side.
The latter two are easier, though it's more restful
with both partners lying down. Some women love being licked
on all fours, so if female-on-top 69 drives her wild, take
the hint and find some other ways to eat her in this position.
I happen to enjoy male on top, but for many women this is a
sure choking position. If a woman can, or wants to try, to
deep-throat you, this is THE position. When her head is
thrust back you can really slide your @#%$ all the way down
her throat. But don't forget what you're supposed
to be doing!
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So there you are staring at it - the mysterious hole from
whence you came, and into which you hope to cum again...
First, an anatomy lesson...
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THE CLITORIS
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Before I go any further, a few words about the clitoris,
accent on the first syllable. Most of you know it, but for
those who don't, it is THE woman's sex organ, period.
It may feel great to be @#%$ vaginally, anally or otherwise,
but if the stimulation is not right there, on the clitoris,
you're ignoring the place that's going to make
her cum, and presumably that's why you're reading
this, right? It's right there at the top juncture of
her inner lips, a small knob of pink flesh. This is where
it's at boys, and don't forget it. Almost any licking
and sucking of the labia or vaginal entrance is going to
feel just dandy; just remember that this is pleasurable
teasing, not the main event. I can't tell you how many
guys have thrust their tongues up my vagina thinking that
this was going to make me cum. They were wrong. Of course,
with a little manual stimulation....but I'm getting
ahead of myself.
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Women feel differently about how much direct stimulation
they can take on their clitoris. Some women will adore it
if you suck hard on their exposed clits, others will shriek
in pain. You may encounter a woman who is completely unable
to take direct stimulation of her clit; the goal is still
the same, but you'll have to stimulate it indirectly,
such as through her labia. IMPORTANT NOTE: Often, what
is unacceptably rough at first may be fine after she's
very excited. The fact is, most women really need a good
bit of stimulation before a targeted attack on their clitoris,
but once they're there, that's where you want
to devote your attention.
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The key here is go slow, ask questions, and if she's
comfortable with it, leave the lights on and really explore.
Body language often does tell what feels best, but I promise,
she will appreciate your attentiveness if you ask outright.
If she seems shy, get her to guide your hands and mouth with
her own hand, and pay attention. If she starts bucking up
against your mouth and gasping in ragged little breaths,
for God's sake, don't use this opportunity to
try something different. Just keep doing exactly what
you're doing.
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THE TONGUE
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I want to reiterate, there is almost nothing you can do that
won't feel terrific, so relax! I promise, you may be
confused and uncertain, but she's in heaven. Any licking
and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris,
or anal area is going to feel just great, and I'd no sooner
tell guys to "do it exactly like this" than I
would tell every chef to follow the same recipe. But for
those who are compelled to RTFM, here are a few techniques
that you might like to try:
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• Try lapping her @#%$ from vaginal entrance up to her clit,
leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed. This is a good
way to start your tonguing.
• Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one
side, while holding the two together with your lips. Good
job, now do the other side.
• @#%$ her @#%$ with your tongue with your tongue - in and
out, around and around, etc. This feels nice. Not wonderful
or incredible or earth-shaking; nice.
• Spread her outer lips with your hand. Then, with your tongue
pointed and stiff, gently flick here and there. Feel free
to roam, but keep coming back to her clit. This drives some
women wild, and others can't take it. Some may prefer
that you always leave your tongue soft, so when you try this,
pay attention to whether those moans are ecstasy or pain.

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The following techniques should not be introduced until
your partner is really hot (i.e. she's no longer coherent).
These are very intense actions which may be "too much"
for some women, even when nearing orgasm.
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• With her clit still exposed, give it a quick little suck
- pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This
is a lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky.
This feels incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you feel
like torturing her (see PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER below).

• Take her exposed clit into your mouth and gently (at first,
anyway) suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue
over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very
aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually
rapidly produce an intense orgasm.
• Another choice technique involves rolling your tongue
into a tube. If you can't do this with your tongue, you
can't learn it - it's genetic. For those who can,
this works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your
tongue into a tube around the shaft of her clitoris. Slide
it up and down; in effect, your tongue makes a tiny @#%$ for
her clit to @#%$. This also is likely to bring her over the
edge.
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FINGERS
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Fingers are a valuable adjunct to eating @#%$. Most women
masturbate by pressing a finger or fingers over their clit,
possibly "thru" the skin of their inner or outer
lips, and vigorously rubbing in a circular or back-and-forth
direction. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to
ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done.
You will never be a good lover until you can bring your woman
to climax with your hands. When you @#%$ her from behind,
or up her ass, or really in any position which doesn't
allow her to simultaneously rub her vulva against your
body, reach down or around and rub her clit. I know it's
distracting, but just do it anyway. One important point
to note: make sure that your fingers are well lubricated.
There is nothing more uncomfortable (and sometimes downright
painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across one's
clitoris.
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Of course, that's not all you can do with your fingers.
One technique which is very exciting is to spread her lips
wide apart with one hand, and with your index finger straight
like a pencil, flick the side of it rapidly across her clit.
This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Combining
this with the addition of some tongue action elsewhere
is nothing short of bliss.
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Sticking one or more fingers inside her vagina is also wonderful.
You can simply move them in and out (this feels best with
at least two or three fingers, pushed in hard), or wriggling
them around. A particularly intense motion is to face your
hand so that you have two fingers inside her with your palm
facing the front of her body. Now move your fingers rapidly,
as if waving hello. You are aiming to stimulate a particular
part of the woman's vagina - namely the lower anterior
(front) part. When combined with sucking her clit, this
is nearly certain to bring her to a fast and intense climax.

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An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick
one (and later two) fingers inside her, with your palm cupped
over the mons area. I'm talking about that fleshy "mound"
over her pubic bone. Your finger goes in and out and the ball
of your hand is pressed hard against her vulva. You may want
to rub or even shake the entire area with your palm.
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Fingers also do nice things to tight little butt holes,
but that's a whole other story...
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ANAL PLAY
<br>
This stuff is purely optional. If anal play doesn't
turn you on, don't do it. If you're uncomfortable,
she'll pick up on your feelings and start wondering
if it's her @#%$ that's turning you off. Don't
feel that you can't be a good lover without anal play;
you can.
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Cleanliness is of the essence. (remember that nice soapy
shower?) Scoop out some luscious juices (from a very wet
@#%$) with your finger and rub it around her anus. (If she
isn't well lubricated, saliva works too.) If that's
all you or she feels comfortable with, fine - it still feels
great. But I think most women enjoy the feel of a finger pushed
up their ass while they're being @#%$ or eaten. You
need to be gentle, possibly even leaving your finger still.
Try moving it in and out a little, or around in a circle. If
she starts moaning, you know you're doing something
right.
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It's really fun to feel a woman's anus rhythmically
squeezing your finger as she cums. (And it's great
for her, too) You're probably thinking about what
that would feel like around your dick, and it's something
you should certainly explore. Ass-@#%$ is somewhat out
of the scope of this article, but suffice to say, if she doesn't
like a finger up her butt, she sure as hell won't want
your big dick up there. Even if she does enjoy this sort of
play, she may still be somewhat apprehensive about putting
something so large up there. The keys to success are sufficient
(i.e. copious amounts of) lubrication (a water-soluble
type such as K-Y, which is safe for condoms), relaxation
on her part, and a slow, gentle, approach. She'll certainly
tell you if she wants you to thrust harder or deeper. And
remember, if you want to feel that delicious squeezing
around your @#%$, reach around and diddle that clit!
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As for anallingus - why not? Don't feel like you HAVE
to do it to satisfy your woman, But if the idea turns you on,
great. Let your tongue rove as it pleases. It's not
necessary to actually put your tongue inside her butt to
stimulate the area. Back and forth, around and around,
you get the picture.
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One hygiene note: once that finger (or your penis) has been
inside her ass, don't even think about putting it anywhere
else. Carelessness in this regard can cause a horrendous
infection.
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MENSTRUATION
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I haven't met a lot of men who are completely comfortable
going down on a woman when she has her period. But some are.
Most women are at their horniest before and sometimes during
their period. You should definitely find a way to make her
cum when she's bleeding, be it thru intercourse, manual,
or oral stimulation. If you feel comfortable going down
on her, great. It's perfectly safe. You may suggest
that she insert a tampon, and then wash up. (As you now know,
you don't need to get anywhere near her vagina to make
her cum.) Or you could lay down a few old towels, turn out
the lights, and forget about it.
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PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
<br>
I think variety is crucial. Some guy posted an article detailing
a road map of kissing and licking (first here, then here,
etc.) Much better to do the unexpected; sometimes a hungry,
aggressive approach, other times a laid-back, leisurely
one. You can even include your nose, or your chin into the
act. Start slow, that's the key, and let your lover
guide the speed of the crescendo. In all cases, start gently.
Roughness and clumsiness are big turn-offs. As she gets
more and more excited, pay more attention to her clitoris.
When she's three breathes away from cumming, moving
your mouth off or away from her clit is agony. That's
fine if you're intentionally torturing her, just
understand that this is what you are doing. The only prohibition
is to be reasonably gentle with her clit. Nibbling or biting
is fine elsewhere, but we're talking about a sensitive
spot.
<br>
Speaking of prolonging the agony... I think this is great
fun. Bring your partner just to the edge of orgasm, and stop.
This is not easy unless you really know your lover well.
Instead, just have her help you. Say, "Grab my head
and stop me just before you think you're gonna cum."
Then take your sweet time. Blow on her clit, take it into
your mouth just briefly, flick it just the very slightest
bit. You will have this woman squirming and moaning like
she's dying. Finger her deeply, enjoy the ecstasy
you are imparting, and finally, have pity. Let the poor
woman cum.
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UUUUNNNNGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!! (or, I'M COMING!!!)

<br>
Okay, she's practically suffocating you, she's
pressed so hard against your face; she's screaming
and bucking up in the air; you feel her @#%$ contracting
wildly - how long should you keep it up?? The simple answer
is, until she makes you stop. Some women may stop you after
five seconds from the start of their climax, others may
be able to roll right into another orgasm if you keep going.
Do come up for air, but remember, her excitement does not
drop off as sharply as yours does. Play it safe by continuing
the stimulation.
<br>
How many times does she need to cum? Some women are very content
to have one orgasm. A whole lot of women would really like
to cum again, but need about five minutes to recoup. Many
women are so sensitive right after they cum that they may
push your head violently away. This doesn't necessarily
mean they've had enough, only that you need to stop
for a few minutes. In fact most women, given a short rest
between, are capable of cumming again and again. A smaller
percentage of women are able to cum repeatedly with continued
stimulation. This is the much-touted multiple-orgasm
that is experienced by a minority of women. I know this makes
it difficult to know when enough is enough, but there's
a simple answer: ask her.
<br>
GOD I'M SO EXCITED IT FEELS GREAT BUT I JUST CAN'T
COME
<br>
It happens to all of us sometimes - distraction, embarrassment,
anxiety, or just an inability to "let go". What
do you do about it? The first question is, can she easily
bring herself to a climax in the privacy of her own home.
If the answer is no - then she needs to do some homework. There
are two books on the subject that I know of: For Yourself:
The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach,
and Sex for One: The Joy of Self loving by Betty Dodson; pick
up one. Then tell her to read it, study it, and practice,
practice, practice!
<br>
Now if your partner is orgasmic only when alone - ask her
point blank: "Is there something different I can
do?" Many women are shy about criticizing their lovers,
but if asked outright will surprise you with a very specific
answer. It may be a simple matter of mechanics, like a little
to right please, or not so rough, or more pressure and faster.
Ah... perfect.
<br>
But suppose everything is wonderful. She says you're
doing everything right but she just can't cum. There
are two probable causes: self-consciousness and/or self-loathing.
For women who can't help watching themselves, the
best approach is to eliminate anything that focuses her
attention on what the two of you are doing. This is a "be
here now" kind of thing - definitely not an introspective
activity. Get that mirror off the ceiling. Dim the lights
or turn them off completely. Put on some soft music. Share
a glass of port. (I said A glass - getting drunk will definitely
not help). Have her lay on her back, or propped up comfortably
with some pillows. This is not the time for her to sit on your
face, or the edge of the bed, or standing up against a wall.
Arrange a time when you can devote a long period to eating
her @#%$, and then just keep it up. Forget everything I said
about asking her questions - just close your eyes and get
into it. I know this can be a difficult and exhausting exercise,
but she will be extravagantly thankful for your efforts.
It gets easier each time. If all else fails, get accustomed
to masturbating together. Gradually begin to add your
stimulation to her own, right before she's about to
cum anyway. Over time, you can take over completely.
<br>
For women who themselves feel that their cunts are dirty
or distasteful, all of the above methods may be helpful,
but the underlying issue must also be addressed. I am amazed
at how many women are ambivalent about their own genitals.
They don't love "that part" of their body,
and they can't believe that you would either. Yes,
it is important to be clean. But clean means a daily shower
which includes washing the vulva. It doesn't mean
vainly attempting to remove every trace of smell or taste.
The natural fragrance and secretions of a healthy woman
are beautiful and erotic. Hopefully you agree (and if not,
try hard to cultivate this attitude). When she learns to
love her @#%$, she will be infinitely more comfortable
with your loving it too.
<br>
<br>
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Section 2 - "How to Eat @#%$" from grind.isca.uiowa.edu
<br>
Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you guys who like to eat
@#%$ because there are too few of you out there. And I'm
not the only woman who says this. Furthermore, some of you
guys who are giving it the old college try are not doing too
well, so maybe this little lesson will help you out. When
a woman finds a man who gives good head, she's found
a treasure she's not going to let go of too quickly.
This is one rare customer and she knows it. She won't
even tell her girlfriends about it or that guy will become
the most popular man in town. So, remember, most guys can
@#%$, and those who can usually do it satisfactorily, but
the guy who gives good head, he's got it made.
<br>
Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you've
got the world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you,
she's going to worry about how you like her body. Tell
her it's beautiful, tell her which parts you like best,
tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let
you down between her legs.
<br>
Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn't
it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than
her @#%$. I know. I've seen plenty of them. They come
in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked
inside like a little girl's cunnie and some have thick
luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested
in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent
fuzz. Appreciate your woman's unique qualities and
tell her what makes her special.
<br>
Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during
love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which
means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get
her off, So all the time you're petting and stroking
her beautiful @#%$, talk to her about it.
<br>
Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look
at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread
the tops of her @#%$ up until you can find her clit. Women
have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have
different sized cocks. It doesn't mean a thing as far
as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is
hidden underneath her foreskin.
<br>
Whenever you touch a woman's @#%$, make sure your finger
is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside
her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her
clit because it doesn't have any juices of its own and
it's extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick
to it if it's dry and that hurts. But you don't want
to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before
she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.

<br>
Approach her @#%$ slowly. Women, even more so than men,
love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most
tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the
tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her @#%$,
then float away. Make her anticipate it.
<br>
Now lick the crease where her leg joins her @#%$. Nuzzle
your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without
pressing down on it to further excite her. After you've
done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from
her seat and she's straining to get more of you closer
to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit.
<br>
Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate
her @#%$ lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and
down between the layers of @#%$ flesh. Gently spread her
legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman
you're about to eat must be done gently.
<br>
Tongue-@#%$ her. This feels define. It also teases the
hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given
to her clit. Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard
enough to peek out of its covering. If so, lick it. If you
can't see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath.
So bring your tongue up tot he top of her slit and feel for
her clit. You may barely experience its presence. But even
if you can't feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise
by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press
into her skin.
<br>
Gently pull the @#%$ lips away and flick your tongue against
the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should
cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she's getting
up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take
the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch
your lady's face for her reaction. If she can handle
it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder.
Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the
tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't
fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don't
let go. That's what she'll be saying too: 'Don't
stop. Don't ever stop!' <br>
There's a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just
like with @#%$ sucking, this is something worth learning
about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who's
a lousy @#%$, simply lousy, but he can eat @#%$ like nobody
I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are
falling all over him.
<br>
But back to your @#%$ eating session...There's another
thing you can do to intensify your woman's pleasure.
You can finger-@#%$ her while she's enjoying your
clit-licking talents, Before, curing or after. She'll
really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding
her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area
at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against
when you're @#%$ her. Well, since your @#%$ is pretty
far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the
@#%$.
<br>
Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide
and therefore can't get deep enough. Make sure they're
wet so you don't irritate her skin. Slide them inside,
slowly at first, then a little faster. @#%$ her with them
rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her
breathing.
<br>
She'll let you know what to do. If you're sucking
her clit and finger-@#%$ her at the same time, you're
giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving
her with your @#%$ alone. So you can count on it that she's
getting high on this. If there's any doubt, check her
out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one
who's nipples get hard when she's excited or only
when she's having an orgasm. Your girl might flush
red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll
be a more sensitive lover.
<br>
When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes,
don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration.
When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press
your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your
lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her
@#%$. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too,
gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.

<br>
If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple
orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after
she's had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact
of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked
at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you
would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She'd be
yours as long as you wanted her.
<br>
The last advice I have for you is this: After you've
made her come, make her your slave by giving her the best
head she's ever had, don't leave her alone just
yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep
making love to her quietly until she's come all the
way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath
and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature
requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first
few moments after sex.
<br>
Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you
can have. But it's what you make it. Take your time,
practice often, pay attention to your lover's signals,
and most of all, enjoy yourself.
<br>
<br>
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Section 3 - "Female Oral Sex Techniques" from
alt.sex.wizards
TASTE:
<br>
In my experience, one of the main reasons that partners
avoid female oral sex is due to a perceived or even experienced
poor taste. While it is true that women run the range from
pleasant (tasty!) to sour or uric tasting, there are easy
steps to ensure that your partner will be tasting her sweetest.

<br>
First and most obviously, a good vigorous shower will do
much to neutralize the taste of your partner. In fact, oral
sex in the shower, while not a favorite method of mine, has
a completely neutral taste if you stick to the upper regions
of your partner's sex. If your partner has not showered
recently, or has physically exerted herself recently,
her taste will be much stronger. This, however, can be a
good thing!
<br>
Secondly, foreplay will improve upon both the taste and
the experience in general if your can get her juices flowing.
I have never found an extremely aroused, wet woman to taste
unpleasant. Quite the contrary!
<br>
FOREPLAY:
<br>
Do it! Take your time! Have fun! Experiment! A common male
misunderstanding is that females are aroused most through
physical contact. Not true. I have aroused women greatly
simply by acting sexy. Tension is a wonderful tool, use
it. If you can build tension to the point where the barest
touch sends electric shivers through both of you, you can't
lose! Similarly, even the best love techniques will not
turn on a woman who isn't in the mood. (If you can get
her in the mood, well then you're talking.)
<br>
Take your time, explore your partner (there's a lot
more there than nipples and a clitoris!), build tension,
have fun.
<br>
POSITIONS:
<br>
There are two basic positions that I have found very versatile
and successful. For a very comfortable session, have her
lay on her back with legs spread and knees bent slightly.
Lie on your stomach between her legs, put your right arm
under her left leg and your left arm under her right - somewhat
of an intimate hug. Now you should find your head situated
conveniently and comfortably near the center of your attention.

<br>
Less comfortable, but a bit wilder is the following. Lay
on your back, prop a couple of pillows (or fold one over)
under your head. Have your partner kneel facing you with
one knee on each side of your head, above your shoulders.
The sexy part of this position (IMH is that your partner
can look down at you and watch you eating her out. (Yum) Versatility
and comfort are reduced for the giver, so I only occasionally
partake in this position.
<br>
These are by no means the only positions. Again, experiment,
have fun. If you can find a bed where your partner can lie
down with her legs dangling off the bed and resting flat
on the floor, you're in luck. Now you can have her sit
just at the edge of the bed, lie back, and give you plenty
of access while you kneel/sit in front of her sex.
<br>
GEOGRAPHY:
<br>
Women are very different in some respects of their genitalia,
but the major parts are the same. A woman's sex from
the oral sex point of view consists of two sets of lips (outer
and inner) that meet just below the vaginal opening and
some variable distance above the clitoris; the vaginal
opening (immediately above the nether meeting of above-mentioned
lips), a smooth section of skin between the vaginal opening
and the clitoris (I have no clue as to its technical name,
hereafter it will be referred to as the "scav")
and the clitoris and its surrounding folds.
<br>
If you get the chance, explore your partner in a location
with decent lighting. Use your hand to spread her sex and
explore her, find out what's where and what's
what. Like I said earlier, women are different, Especially
the location and shape of the clitoris. It can be buried,
protruding, surrounded by many folds of flesh, or hanging
out it the open. The best method I have found for finding
your partner's clitoris (If all else fails, ask!),
is to place a finger at the very base of her sex and gently
run it up her scav until you feel a slight bump. That's
it.
<br>
OK, ENOUGH OF THE DETAILS, NOW THE NITTY-GRITTY:
<br>
So your partner is showered, excited and feeling sexy.
It's the big moment, what to do? Don't simply dive
in. Take your time, excite her. In my opinion, I can usually
tell how good my partner is at oral sex by how she "goes
down" on me. By "going down" I mean the
process by which she goes from kissing my lips to sucking
oh-so-wonderfully on my sex.
<br>
Depending on your partner, different methods of going
down will work more effectively. If you've gotten
to this point with your partner, you should have a fair idea
of what she likes. Take advantage of that knowledge. One
thing that I highly recommend however, is a sexy look. Sexy
looks can make all the difference, and the best place to
throw one in is as you're licking, sucking and kissing
your way down her stomach stop, look up and smile devilishly.

<br>
Unbutton your partners’ jeans, pull the tabs back and kiss
her newly exposed flesh. Unzip her pants, pull the tabs
back as far as they can go and place light, tender kisses
on her abdomen and around the top of her panties. Watch it,
some women are very ticklish here!
<br>
(Note the above doesn't work so well if she doesn't
have jeans on but you're all smart enough to figure
it out...) Once you've removed everything but her
panties, stop. You have a unique opportunity for further
arousal. Kiss her legs and inner thighs with gentle kisses.
Work your way up each leg and make a point of stopping at the
line of her underwear. Kiss again along the top of her underwear,
and along the other two borders.
<br>
Now move to her cotton (silk? lace? latex?) covered sex.
Plant firm, dry kisses through her underwear on her sex,
low and right around the vaginal entrance works best for
me. If your partner is really excited, often her underwear
will be damp and will smell (pleasantly) of her sex.
<br>
Removing the underwear is again a matter of choice. You
know your partner best, I prefer either gently sliding
it all the way off with my fingers, or pulling it part way
down with my teeth first.
<br>
DIRECT KISSING:
<br>
It is not unusual for your partner's lips to be closed
together. A very excited woman's lips may be slightly
spread already ("pouting"). Again, building
tension can be accomplished by light kisses on either side
of her sex as well as light blowing. (Do not inflate your
partner! This can be very dangerous!!) Spreading her lips
can be accomplished by placing your tongue first at the
base of her sex, and then firmly running your tongue all
the way up. Continue with a few long licks from the base of
her sex all the way to the top past her clitoris. Vary the
firmness of your tongue from hard and pointed to broad and
soft.
<br>
THE BIG "O":
<br>
The best and most proven method of making your partner cum
through oral sex is by repeated, rhythmic stroking of her
clitoris with your tongue. The tongue is uniquely suited
for this purpose because of its texture, versatility,
and pliability. It is difficult (and tiring) to apply too
much pressure to your partner's clitoris. Some women
are much more sensitive than others however. Be receptive
to any sharp gasps, you could be being too affectionate.
If this is the case, move away from direct contact or adopt
a gentler technique.
<br>
Repeated, rhythmic stroking can be accomplished in a variety
of ways. I prefer either rapid, repeated vertical licks
with a firm, pointed tongue, or planting your tongue firmly
against your partner's clitoris and vigorously shaking
your head back and forth. (Tiring, maybe. But it's
worth it!) If you are having trouble finding the correct
angle or method for rhythmically and languidly caressing
her clitoris, or if you want to try something fun and new:

<br>
Tongue the ABC's. No seriously! This is a great oral
exercise on any part of the body. Tongue the ABC’s starting
with lower case, and moving though upper case. (Heck, you
could do the whole ANSI ASCII set if you'd like!) Be
especially perceptive while you do this, vary your speed
and watch for sharp intakes of breath - chances are you've
hit the right angle. The ABC’s give a large variety of different
strokes, so come back to this exercise as often as you'd
like.
<br>
A general rule of thumb (tongue?) is to start slow and pick
up the pace as you go along. This is definitely a general
rule, though feel free to break it by varying your rhythm,
both slowly and predictably as well as quickly and startlingly.

<br>
OTHER FUN THINGS TO DO:
<br>
Lick between the inner and outer lips; penetrate the vagina
deeply (a much stronger, iron-like taste here); "tease"
the entrance to her vagina with rapid pokes of your tongue
at varying depths; don't forget your hands, often
a woman will feel a need or ache for something inside of her
while very aroused, oblige her with a finger or two. Both
kissing and manually manipulating your partner is tough,
anyone with successful methods is welcome to pipe in.
<br>
Talk to your partner, ask her what she likes. Experiment
(if you can) with many different partners. What excites
one woman a lot may not excite another as much, but may still
be well worth trying. On the other hand, you may not notice
a subtle pleasurable technique on one woman that can be
easily learned on another. The better you know your partner,
the more effectively you can please her. Have fun!
<br>
<br>
<br>
Advanced Cunnilingus Techniques and Special Secrets
<br>
<br>
Basic Guidelines:
<br>
• "Less" is always the best way to start out if
you don't know exactly what a specific person likes.
It's much safer to build up from "not enough"
than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being
too rough. The final argument to ensure that you always
apply this rule is this -- If you start out "too"
gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your lover
more, even in the rare cases that it frustrates her a little.
But if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost
always turns her off to the whole thing.
• The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough
-- no matter what you have encountered so far, always assume
that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely
possible to have had many lovers, and think
A. They are all pretty much the same or
B. You've learned all of the variations, and can tell
who's what.
But this can be (and usually is) just a matter of random chance...you
happened to get several similar lovers. Eventually you
will run into someone, or many people, who are completely
different than those you've known before.
• Don't start by going down on her. Work your way up to
it. Exceptions may be if you're in a hurry before your
Press Secretary shows up, or other situations where you're
expected to act more directly. It's worth observing
that "work your way up to it" remains true no
matter how many times you've been with that lover.
With a long-term lover it may seem like you can get right
to the direct stuff, but working your way up still has the
same effect of increasing her excitement, with most women.

• Along the same line of reasoning, don't start licking
her clitoris immediately, when you do get there. Start
with the area around it, which can be pretty sensitive with
some women, even if it doesn't seem to cause the same
dramatic response.
• Even more important is to not immediately start inserting
fingers in her vagina. With most women, that really needs
to be built up, first. It usually doesn't hurt to build
up a little, even if she's already excited.
• Remember this -- Most often, the tongue works best with
the clitoris, the fingers with the vagina/g-spot. Someone
else's fingers on her clitoris tends to be a little
rough, no matter how careful they are...and almost all
of the excitement she gets from attempting to lick into
her vagina is psychological; she can't really feel
much that way.
• Hand Care: It's best to be sure your fingernail edges
are very smooth, and preferably cut all the way down to where
they connect to your skin. No matter how careful you are,
they are likely to cause her to get a little sore inside,
or even really hurt, feeling like a knife cutting her. This
can even be the cause of soreness that she doesn't realize
is being caused by your nails. Being a guitarist, I have
the nails on my left hand trimmed back as far as I can cut them,
anyway. Guitar also gives one's fret-hand amazing
endurance and finesse, for g-spot stimulation and other
tricks.
<br>
Interesting note -- A little noise on your part usually
doesn't hurt, and sometimes it helps. Some women are
very hung up on cunnilingus, determined to believe that,
no matter how much you say otherwise (and she claims to believe
you), it may be at least a little unpleasant for you. If you're
excited by her responses, or by the act itself, don't
try to stay quiet about it. The same kind of sounds that will
reassure and excite a lover when they're pleasuring
you will often work when you're pleasuring them, too.
This could be considered a secret weapon in sex in general,
because most guys are rather quiet, and yet women almost
always find responsiveness very exciting. The contrast
between someone who's responsive and most of the other
guys makes it even more effective than it would already
have been.
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
More Advanced Techniques:
<br>
<br>
The G-Spot
<br>
This does exist. And in over half of the women out there,
it works better than anything else you can do to cause a strong,
prolonged orgasm. The original name is the Grafenberg
spot, after a doctor, Earnest Grafenberg, who documented
the area (which may have been known by people here and there
throughout history) in the fifties.
<br>
This "spot" is a small "mound" of
tissue inside the vagina, between a penny and quarter in
size, which responds to being pressed upon. It's almost
certainly not the skenes glands, (which are located around
the urethra, which is behind the G-spot area), as has been
suggested by a few people. In fact, the G-Spot is the tissue
in that raised area of the vagina, which has a higher concentration
of sexual nerves, and produces hormones similar to those
made by the male's prostate gland.
<br>
A sort of map to the area -- Imagine your lover lying on her
back, legs spread. Your position is between her legs. You
would slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. With your
finger straight back, middle finger is best, you would
curve it toward yourself, gently, as if you were gesturing
to someone to "come here". In doing so, the area
you press on should be pretty near her "G-Spot"
area. If you know enough to follow the urethra (the tube
that leads from the bladder to where the pee comes out),
along the inside of her vagina, you may feel a slight swelling
(if she's excited) at the point where the g-spot is.

<br>
She must be excited, especially if either you or she is new
to the g-spot, for the g-spot to have any real effect at all.
It's not the ideal area for getting your lover aroused.

<br>
But when she is excited, this area (more often than not)
is the best way to bring her to orgasm. You work your way back
to it gradually, teasing her (typically, this works best)
with your fingers, slowly and gently. It's easier
to hit the right area with two fingers, but this may not be
comfortable for her, depending on how "tight"
she is at that moment. When you have your fingers around
the right area, try gently pressing, not too quickly. The
movement should be fairly rhythmic. It's typically
best if you're licking her clitoris (or near it, depending
on the woman) at the same time...don't make a big deal
out of the "quest", this will often make her
feel self-conscious, or distracted. The licking should
seem to be the primary activity.
<br>
When you find the right area, she should respond by getting
more excited. Most of the vagina's inside surface
isn't really that sexually sensitive, believe it
or not...most of the excitement of randomly inserting
fingers is more psychological than from the actual stimulation.

<br>
While more complicated techniques work with some women,
some of the time, the best basic technique, upon finding
the g-spot, is to continue to slowly, rhythmically press
on it, while licking her clitoris (for a few women, the labia
(lips) are sensitive to licking, too).
<br>
This should cause her to build up to an orgasm.
<br>
A G-Spot orgasm is different (always, when it works at all)
than any other kind women have. It is possible, with some
women, to have different qualities and kinds of orgasms
from vaginal, clitoral, anal, and even breast stimulation...but
with other women, those kinds of orgasms are all pretty
much the same. But the G-Spot orgasm not only feels different;
it also causes her body to react in a different way.
<br>
First, it often causes a "push out" orgasm.
The area around, or "above" (farther inside,
that is) your fingers seems to swell up or to contract toward
the opening of her vagina.
<br>
If you find the right combination of pushing back when this
happens, and slacking off to let it push out, you can cause
(in perhaps half of the women) her orgasm to continue happening,
long after normal ones would have subsided. In some women
you can even keep her at a "plateau" (raised
level) of sexual excitement, like a prolonged orgasm (or
a little less than one) afterward, building up to an even
bigger climax. I've managed to keep this pattern of
build-up, orgasm, plateau, orgasm, build-up, orgasm
for over four hours, with one lover. We stopped when, though
she wanted to go on, she was so exhausted that she really
had to stop.
<br>
That brings me to another important point; G-Spot orgasms
sometimes (less than half of the women, I'd guess,
and in some of those women only occasionally) causes a huge
amount (relatively speaking) of lubrication (juices,
wetness)...far more than even the most excited woman gets
from "conventional" stimulation. It's
a good thing, too, because otherwise g-spot orgasms can
only be prolonged for as long as she does not get raw/sore
from it...which is yet another reason to be gentle.
<br>
When that extra wetness combines with the push-out orgasm,
you get actual ejaculation...like a guy, but much better
tasting. The built up juices can shoot out in such volume
that you, or she, may be afraid that she lost control of her
bladder. That is (almost always) not what happened. The
fear that she peed can be enhanced by the fact that the urethra
is behind the g-spot, so that in rare cases the woman can
sometimes get the feeling that she needs to pee, even though
she does not.
<br>
In reality, in both men and women, enough sexual excitement
prevents peeing, unless you try really hard. This is a built-in
reflex, because urine is something of a spermicide. The
"pee hard-on" that men get in the morning is
partially his body taking advantage of this reflex, to
keep him from accidentally wetting the bed with the urine
that built up while he was sleeping.
<br>
Licking the Alphabet
<br>
Believe it or not, Sam Kinnison's suggestion of licking
the alphabet, one letter at a time, on and around her clitoris/vulva
actually works. I had come up with a similar technique myself,
but his version is pretty close to the perfect formula --
The real goal is to be able to keep regular, rhythmic motions
going, but to change them in some gradual pattern that isn't
so different it throws her off, but isn't so redundant
that she grows insensitive to it. The alphabet is probably
the longest chain of shapes that you can be sure to repeat
smoothly and rhythmically, without loosing track of where
you are. Unless you are a victim of public education, I suppose,
in which case you may have to stick to the letters of your
name, or the numbers one through nine (being too confused
by where to put the zero).
<br>
I would not suggest combining this with the g-spot stimulation,
at least not with the intention of really giving her g-spot
orgasms. The two techniques conflict a bit, as the focus
of arousal is so different.
<br>
Cough Drops - Nothing to Sneeze At
<br>
After you've thought about it for a while, this will
seem obvious. Just remember that it probably wasn't,
until a minute ago...
<br>
The way a cough drop, either menthol or mint, works is to
stimulate the mucus membranes in your mouth in the special
way that feels "cool and tingly". Well, one
of the few other places (easily accessible) on the human
body that has mucus membranes is the vaginal area. Many
people find that, correctly applied, a cough drop feels
just spectacular down there. Most people at least find
it a very...ah...refreshing change of pace.
<br>
<br>
A few important tips:
<br>
1. Use sugar-free cough drops. N'ice is a great brand,
especially the menthol or mint versions. If possible,
find one (whatever brand) with both menthol and mint. It's
actually possible that sugar cough drops are just fine,
or even better...the debate is over whether the sugar might
feed an already existing yeast infection. The things I've
heard from semi-expert (medically) people are that it
may feed one (and thus aggravate it), that it actually will
protect from yeast infection (I forget the reasoning,
it may have been a Ph thing), or that it's not the kind
of yeast that eats sugar anyway. One thing's unanimous:
sugar cough drops won't make any difference unless
you're already infected, they don't carry that
kind of yeast. In fact, a human's fingers or tongue
would be more likely to (and even that is pretty unlikely,
if they're of even typical cleanliness).
2. Let the drop become even more rounded and smoothed by
sucking on it for a while, if you're actually going
to apply it inside (which is the most effective way).
3. Speaking of which, the best thing to do is actually insert
it with your fingers. This

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OMG, i think my guy must of read this, lol...he is sooooo
good at oral sex. he does almost everything you said here,
WOW....excellent article

5/28/2005

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I think this should be a prerequisite for any young man just
learning about sex, or any man. The part about not all women
can handle direct stimulation is the absolute truth for
some of us. Pressure over the mons and touching and licking
on the hood work very well. Another good side note about
once having been in the anus with a finger or penis and washing
before returning to the vagina or anywhere else is a must.
I have met a couple of men with very small penises that have
turned out to be my best lovers due to their ability to give
great head. Keep up the exploration and we will also. Bon
Appetite!

6/2/2005

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I'm thinking you copied and pasted this out of a book
somewhere. Absolutely exactly right but sounds a little
too clinical for the average Joe writer. Good info to share
though. Most men don't have a clue...they just think
they do. Thanks!

6/23/2005

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Excellent Report. I loved reading it. Very informative.
I even picked up a few pointers.

12/9/2006