Time to update this, time to ring the changes. I've been described as "a bit posh", "a naughty schoolgirl", "a bit like a newsreader", manic, natural, bubbly, and both easy to work out and hard to suss out, so make of that as you will! I guess I am a bit posh, but I don't really think of myself that way, as I am very down to earth too. I have a good memory, and had a fairly good education, and I suppose I do have quite a "newsreader" type accent, nothing strong. So all combined I probably do come across as posh. But I am human, most definitely! I swear, laugh at politically incorrect things, most often at slapstick type humour, if someone gets walloped then I'm in creases... And I'm quite happy to go out all tidy and fairly well groomed, or with little/no makeup and something comfortable. I love camping, partly because it's just getting back to basics, and I don't have to bother faffing with appearances as everyone else looks a right state too. I won't buy an item of clothing unless it's got a damn good practical use too. But I do like dressing up too, not role play per se, just playing around and having a laugh. Yeah I'm a bit school girlie too. I love learning things, I can't walk past a sign without stopping to read it, or getting books out the library to learn about something new, always eager to soak up more knowledge. The world we live in is an amazing place and I'll never tire of finding out something new. I guess that part comes across to other people, plus the fact I feel and act like a ager still (aren't your 30s counted as part of your age years? lol). I guess I'm a bit cheeky, have a bit of a spark about me, hmmm I really ought to sort out some school dressing up at some point soon really, might suit me down to the ground! I'm a bit manic and bubbly, that's just me. I am not like it all the time, I certainly know how to chill and relax, but when I am fired up about something then I go hell for leather for it. If you watch friends then I'd describe myself as a bit of Monica, but definitely a lot of Phoebe. I'm quite a hippy I guess at heart. Bit fluffy and all that. Most of my brood were born at home, without drugs, slept with their mum, breastfed till they wanted to stop, crying was not ignored, yeah cloth nappies too featured in there quite a lot too. People call it all sorts of things, earth mother, crunchie, knit-your-own-museli type per. I'm not all that extreme, I still eat normal food and wear deoderant! But yeah I realise I obviously think differently from a lot of people when it comes to some really fundamental stuff. That's just me, and though I wouldn't expect (obviously!) any involvement with my ren from a sexual partner, it's a good illustration of the kind of per I am, and one many people can relate to and understand. And yeah I definitely can be naughty, when I feel relaxed. And that's the key to me, you've got to be someone who interests me, maybe even inspires me, and relaxes me, and then I'll happily roll over and let you tickle my belly and pretty much do anything you want to me. I'm pretty open minded I think. I won't stick my tongue up your arse, that's just plain dirty, but most other things... probably! Don't wee on me, and don't hurt me, but play with me and turn me on and I'll play and play till the sun rises on us both. If you smoke then sorry I'm not interested, it's just such a turn off :( And it should go without saying these days but obviously I want to keep things safe, I'd expect you to wear a condom, if we haven't collapsed in a quivering heap before then that is. I know it's a nuisance but that's the score. If you could be so kind as to send a face shot when you send me a message that would be great, doesn't have to be the first message, but I do like to see who I'm talking to before going too far, otherwise we might be wasting each other's time. I'll obviously return the favour.

My Ideal Person I'm looking to meet someone who turns me on as much with his mind as he does physically, and I really do love it when a bloke takes care of himself and keeps himself fit and healthy. I don't have a particular "type" of bloke, but the kind who gets a second look has normally got a nice (if cheeky) smile, a cute ass (and I'll be the judge of that!), kissable lips and a huggable torso. I like someone who can think deeply, outside the box, and who can keep me chatting and spellbound for hours in his company. I like to be able to let my hair down and relax, be myself, and I want to be in the company of someone who makes me feel comfortable to do that.

I'm looking for interesting sexy friends, the ultimate black book if you like. I do want it to be more than just a fuck, as sex with someone you know is so much more fun, and companionship is good too. But I've not long come out of a 14 year relationship/marriage and I want to kick back and just have some fun with interesting and sexy people and I don't expect to want to settle down again for a good while yet.

But, having said that, when the right man comes along I may want to just run off into the sunset with him. Some day I do believe my Tom Cruise will come along on his big throbbing motorbike with Take My Breath Away playing somewhere in the background and whisk me off into the sunset and make mad passionate love to me. A hopeless romantic? Perhaps. Realistic? Probably not. But in the back of my mind? Yeah, maybe. I hope that doesn't scare you, but you might as well know what I'm like. If I like you and you like me then I'd hope maybe something else might grow from our liaison. I would hope I wouldn't force it, these things happen naturally, I'd just hope we'd both be open to any possible outcome. And have a lot of fun in the meantime.

I don't tend to go for people massively older or younger than me, it just feels a bit odd to be honest. Most of the blokes I've had relationships with have been within 5 years of my age, but I'd never say never to someone up to 10 years either side, as people can be so varied and age is only one factor afterall. But any older or younger and that's just a bit too strange for me.

Also I'm unlikely to want to meet with someone who is married/in a relationship. Especially if the other party doesn't know. But even half of a couple just gets a bit too messy. Someone single is much more straightforward, then it's just me and him!

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Queen, U2, Abba, Guns n Roses, and many many more!

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Most things!

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Eddie Izzard, he's so amazing. I bet with his determination
he'd keep going all night long. He's fit too, but
well built. Though he'd steal all my dresses and shoes,
which would be really annoying especially if he looked
better than me in them lol.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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