sam_1957 60 / M
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Southeast Missouri, Missouri, United States
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sam_1957 60/M
Southeast Missouri, Missouri
I want to just put it out here openly and honestly. I am what I am as are you are who you are. . I won't judge you so please don't judge me.

I want to get what may be the biggest issue out on the table first. I'm married and playing on the side. I'm discreet and this has remained a secret side. Yes, I suppose I cheat and that I'm also guilty of wanting to have my cake and eating it as well. I don't apologize.

I play around but I'm not a "player", if that makes sense. I've met several women over the years on this site and had varying types of relationships with at a time. I'm not searching for numerous partners. I'm interested in an affair with one woman. The exception to that would be play with a couple. That isn't my primary focus at this time but I certainly remain open to that possibility. I've experienced that before and it can be very erotic.

The second issue I want to be upfront about is that due to past medical situations, I have E.D. From time to time I work just fine. Sometimes, I start out with good wood and then lose it before completion. Sometimes it doesn't work at all. I never know which version I'm going to get. Medication such as Viagra helps but the side effects tear me up. Other than that, my health in general is good.

That said, I am a very erotically minded, red blooded male who loves exploring sensual desire and experiences with a like minded woman. I've always been told that I make people feel comfortable, and that I'm a good listener and conversationalist. Sexually I like a lot of kissing, caressing, giving and receiving oral. I try very hard to leave my lover satisfied even with my limitations. And on occasion. she will find herself getting nicely stretched and fiiled....I just can't guarantee that on I'm a very open minded person and more than willing to discuss and share fantasies/kinks as well as the more "traditional" activities shared in the bedroom.

I'm 6'2'' tall and currently weigh 220 lbs and carry my weight well, I don't have six-pack abs. I joke that I've allowed my abs to grow into one larger ab. Other than the extra weight around the middle I have a tall and slim appearance. I cured the receding hair line by going with the shaved head look and sport a very neatly trimmed salt and pepper beard and "stash.. When I had hair it was brown as are my eyes. And yes, I have my own teeth, imperfect as they are. I don't have movie star looks but small children don't run away in fright when they see me so hopefully I'm not too hard on the eyes... I have the scars and scabs of 59 years of living and wouldn't trade any of the experiences. They've helped shape who I am. I will appreciate the same in anyone I may meet.

My wife and I are empty- nesters. We have one daughter, 22 and on her own, working, living with her fiance, and learning about life.

That's enough for now. I'm just an imperfect person who is looking for a little extra in life. I'm hoping to find a woman in similar circumstance with like minded desires! If you've read this and aren't too offended by it, I invite you to "say hello." I'm just me, warts, imperfections. good and bad..

A bit about whom I seek is below in the "My Ideal Person" section.

My Ideal Person I'm searching for a married(or a single who knows how to practice discretion) woman in the SEMO/NE Arkansas area who, when she reads what I wrote above, can identify with it, and who is also searching for that 'something extra' to add to her life. Her age is close to mine, give or take a few years. She wants to totally explore the sensual possibilities with a new lover who is just as eager to explore as is she. If you can meet during the daytime it is a plus. Body type is not as important as is intellect and attitude. I am quite attracted to the 'average' body type and enjoy the softness and curves of women with that 'little bit of extra padding.' I am not attracted to those who would be considered obese. I love to kiss so a nice, full, inviting set of lips is a definite plus. The woman I seek loves being a woman and is comfortable with her body and her sexuality. She is feminine and pampers herself with a nice manicure and pedicure and takes her time with her hair and makeup--not because her man likes it, but because it makes HER feel good. I am not a person with a lot of drama in my life so I do not wish to meet with a woman who has a tendency toward the dramatic. That is a turnoff for me.
If you are, as I, open to the possibility of finding a part time lover and full time friend who will respect both the boundaries of your marriage and also respect and cherish what may develop between the two of us, I would invite you to respond and I look forward to hearing from you.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Like alot of men, I'd really like to be with two women,
the three of us taking turns 'being in the middle'
as the other two drive the one on the receiving end as crazy
as possible. I'd really like to experience the feeling
of two women giving me oral at the same licking
and suckng my balls as the other sucks my cock. The thought
of being on my back while one woman rides my cock and the other
straddles my face so that I'm 'covered with pussy'
is so hot for me. And if they were to face each other while
so doing and could kiss and carees each other as we all moved
together in harmony is especially hot...the feelings...the
moans....oh yeah, babe!

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Marg Helgenberger....the ultimate MILF. Susan Sarandon....those

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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  • 60 / male
  • Southeast Missouri, Missouri, United States
Sexual Orientation:
Looking For:  Women or Couples (man/woman)
Birthdate: May 31, 1957
Relocate?: No
Marital Status: Married
Height: 6 ft 2 in / 187-190 cm
Body Type: Average
Smoking: I'm a non-smoker
Drinking: Prefer not to say
Drugs: I don't use drugs
Education: Master's degree
Race: Caucasian
Religion: Protestant
Have Children: Yes. We do not live together.
Want Children: Happy with what I have
Male Endowment: Long/Thick
Circumcised: Yes
Speaks: English
Hair Color: Salt and Pepper
Hair Length: Shaved
Eye Color: Brown
Glasses or Contacts: Glasses
My Trophy Case: