When we go out she usually likes to get naked and thats always fun.. We have been married for 20yrs and in lifestyle for 12yrs . We have found that the woman set the rules. I have noticed with us sometimes a single guy is better just because a woman can get jealous of her even if They are more pretty. It’s just my wife is so confident be naked and knows how to be so sexy . I know she dances better then most professional strippers. We have 1 rule no sex with others. We have done oral / fingering/blow jobs and have had lots of fun. I met a guy at our first swinger event and he still likes to party with us about 5 times a year. He didn’t like the no sex but he relized what we do is a lot of fun . So if we do meet just plan on a sexy personal stripper that does it for fun not money. Free lap dances !! Her ass feels so good. I need to add we don’t have much time to party. I would say like 4 or so times a year . I’m hoping maybe 6 weeks from now. I wish we were not so busy