It is possible to travel in time and space. Really! Play kinky -- take on a role and see where you go. Over the years, I have stayed in touch with Evelyne, an ex-Parisian friend who lives in Florida and like myself, is very dominant when she gets kinky. However, when she does allow herself to be submissive, she really wants to give up all control. She just called me about a marvelous evening she had with a versatile urban cowboy.
“I never thought of Rob as a cowboy,” she started. “A masterful Switch [sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive] and sophisticated sensualist, yes, so imagine my surprise when I arrive for our date Saturday night and he opens the door wearing a black Stetson hat, muscle tank top, skin tight 501 jeans and highly polished pointed toe Texan boots!”
Rob and Evelyne, two kinky bisexuals in the Miami scene, have been playing occasionally over the past couple of years and trust each other to expect the unexpected. “He had warned me he was in a playful mood and hoped I would not find it too silly,” she tells me, “Strangely enough, I so happened to have dressed the part. I had put on my short leather skirt that flares out with little studs and stiletto slip-on boots, just like the bad girls used to wear in the old spaghetti westerns they still show on TV.”
“He leads me down to his playroom and as he pushes the door open, we are greeted with Patsy Cline’s sad and passionate voice! Another surprise: country western music for [kinky] play? Hmmm….My silent objection to it quickly vanishes as he gallantly takes me in his arms and asks me to dance. His caressing, rough and sweet, turns to deep kissing as we waltz around the room. He holds my mouth to his until I am out of breath, releasing me to take another breath at the very moment I really needed to, a different sort of breath control that’s really sexy. We were both quite hot when Rob orders me to unbutton his 501s and take out his magnificent cock.”
“Now Cleo,” Evelyne continues, “you know I am survivor of sexual abuse and aggressive blowjobs are not high on my list of favorites, but Rob’s sensual dominance ignites my fire. It’s so romantic, I really wanted to please him. In fact I wanted to worship him. I know you rarely indulge submissives who claim they are into worship because they are really greedy and do it for themselves and that feels all wrong to you. Well, I must tell you that I really went to that timeless place of worship.”
“He is standing still, feeding me his cock so slowly, holding my head until tears stream down my face. I am totally consumed. I feel like my tears are washing away those old memories. I am so in the moment, so vibrant! I am transported to a time that stands still, a place of eternal youth where I have no memory of abuse. I am again that 18 year old French wench enamored of a handsome American icon. As we get very primal, he takes me galloping into subspace with hot fucking and explosive orgasms. That night he is my dream cowboy and we ride into the sunset together! What wonders it is to travel like that in play!”
Well said, Evelyne! Ecstatic bliss is of the most profound gifts in life if you are willing to give and receive it and the chemistry is right. Roleplay always has the potential to be profound and cathartic, because you get to behave in a way you never did before. Take Bruce.
A well-groomed handsome gentleman in his 40s, Bruce is one of my most faithful and dedicated volunteer bottoms. At a recent Intensive for Dominant Women [a weekend workshop I teach for advanced kinky players], I asked him to dress as a “schoolboy” for my class on play punishment and erotic embarrassment, expecting him to arrive in some version of the traditional uniform. That day, however, he walked into the scene, chewing gum, I-pod buds in ears and wearing dayglo bicycle shorts with an orange t-shirt that read “up yours!” across his chest!
He was clearly looking for trouble–what most bad boys would think of as punishment or humiliation obviously turns Bruce on, just what the demo was about. After a while his loud gum chewing and provocative attitude got on my nerves. He sure needed to be taken down a notch or two! Looking him squarely in the eyes, I slapped his face. I grabbed hold of his hair, lowered his head and ordered him to beg for his punishment. A long minute went by and finally in a small voice, I heard him say, “Madame, I deserve to be punished. May I please receive the cane.” He agreed to 10 of my best.
“Are you going to receive your caning with gum in your mouth,” I asked, “I don’t think so!” He looked puzzled and let the gum fall on the wooden floor. That did it! I grabbed hold of his left ear in and he turned bright red, just like an embarrassed little boy. “You are going to get five more for the gum Bruce. That will be fifteen and we want to hear you count. Assume the position,” As he bent at the waist to grab his ankles I noticed the bulge in his shorts!Good boy!
Holding my thin red rattan cane between my thumb and forefinger, I swung it once in the air and landed it right across his butt.
“One Madame, thank You, Madame.”
Good boy indeed!
During the years when I played these dominant roles professionally, many adult “boys in need of punishment” came to me with that fantasy. And school mistress/disciplinarian is a role I do enjoy. Not surprising, since my high school days took place in a private catholic institution full of rules and rigid protocol. So it is natural that, as a kinky woman in the dungeon, I can embody the very roles of those who controlled me in my teens. Add mutual consent and erotic turn-on to the mix of control and discipline and it gets hot fast!
So, dear readers, what power differential do you fantasize about? Nurse/patient, guard/captive, Daddies or Mommies and their boys and slutty girls of all genders? After all, school is out! And yet I know that naughty “schoolgirls in pleated short skirts” will be attending play parties in every community dungeon looking for a hot summer ride!
In leather pride, with heart,
Cleo Dubois
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Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Dominant Women & Women Who Switch
September 30-October 1, 2006
Gain the confidence you want to connect heat, heart and spirit in your play!
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Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Dominant Men & Men Who Switch
November 18-19, 2006
Dominate with care, competence, presence and passion!
Teachers: Cleo Dubois & Eve Minax
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