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My Magazine > Editors Archive > Sexpert > Spinners and Sinners
Spinners and Sinners   by Tera Patrick, with You our Readers

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When she first came onto the adult scene, Tera Patrick's film work caught everyone's eye; she was voted the "Best New Starlet" from Cannes to AVN (2001-2). One of the most popular adult stars out there, Tera has captured best-of status at all the hot men's magazines -- Playboy, Penthouse, Hustler -- she was Penthouse's 2002 Pet of the Year and Hustler's 2002 Hustler Honey. The former host of Playboy TV’s Nightcalls 41, for two years in a row, Tera has been the top adult actress on Genesis Magazine's “Porn’s Top 100” list. In addition to all this, Tera runs her own adult production company, "Teravision," while zig-zagging across the country filming and making appearances. In fact, she just appeared with her husband Evan Seinfeld (of the former HBO hit series OZ and Brooklyn-based band Biohazard) on an episode of TLC’s Miami Ink (Tuesday, April 11 -- maybe you've got it on Tivo!). And luckily for AdultFriendFinder, Tera finds time to answer all variety of sex-related questions from our members.

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Rough to Ride

Hi Tera,
Are there any tips/tricks for short women on riding a man? I am 5'3" so it is hard for me to straddle the guy. My legs/thighs are not long enough to get the leverage I need/want to play cowgirl and ride my guy home. My friend is 6' and makes it look easy. Any advice for the shorties?

SODOLUVN

Wow! I actually think it is much easier for shorter girls. My man calls you guys "spinners" because he says it is a lot easier to position you where he wants you ... right on his cock! LOL.

As an adult film director, I usually have girls stand on the surface they are having sex on with, so they go into a full squat. Although you may not be able to straddle your man on your knees, you definitely can on your feet! I personally love anal in that position!

XOXO
Love



So what do you do when you're shy?

Dear Tera,
How can someone do something about being shy? It's that first encounter I have the most problems with. When I want to go over to a cool looking woman, and don't wanna come off like a creepy dumb ass. I mean, what do you say? How do you break the ice?

LucasLM

Lucas.

I will once again say my motto: Confidence is sexy! That said, your problem is not women, but your reaction to them. You need to find a place in your mind where you are confident, and have the swagger many women appreciate. Maybe try approaching a woman in an evironment that puts you at a mental advantage (over your fears). It is for you about finding yourself. Try working out, buying some new clothes, or whatever you think might be a catalyst to improving your self esteem! If you truly feel sexy and confident, women will begin to approach you, and then your ice is broken!

XOXO
Love,



My girlfriend wants me to fake her.

Hi Tera,
Do any other women fantasise about this? I personally find it really weird and don't think I can do it.

Frenzalpunk
Frenzalpunk
Frenzalpunk

Hi Frenz,
Lots of women (me included) have fantasies of forced sex, or being dominated. I play a lot of games in my personal life that would look like forced sex acts to a third party onlooker. I don’t know what the underlying issues are to this, but I do know it is an incredible sexual turn on to feel someone's strength holding me down, taking me. I love to be choked, and spanked, and smothered. However, I only feel safe doing this with someone I can trust. If you are going this direction, have a safe word, discuss the boundaries before hand. If you don’t give your girl what she wants, she is liable to go get it from somebody else! I think what she wants is to feel you take complete control.

XOXO
Love




Tingle, and not a fairy from a game

Hay Tera,
Have you ever tried those mint tingle condoms put out by Trojan or Durex? They look interesting but I'd like an opinion before I make a purchase.

Kesaven
Kesaven
Kesaven

Kesaven,

Can’t say I have tried the mint condoms, but i do know that they now make ass-mints. Mints. I have experimented with oral sex, and curiosly strong mints like altoids. Although some people find a slight burning sensation, others find a stimulating tingling sensation. How about this? You try them out and report back to me on how they were!

XOXO
Love




Looks

Dear Tera,
I would like to know your opinion on scars and guys’ looks. I am a fairly good looking guy but about a year ago I was in a car accident and my lower back was burned fairly bad and I have a few scars on my arms. How much of an issue do you think this is going to be in looking for a short-term relationship?

Up4SomeFun1982

Up4SomeFun1982
Up4SomeFun1982

mr. fun,

In looking for a short term relationship, in which I assume you are discussing "hooking up", I don't think this should have much bearing on your success. If I was attracted to a guy and when we got undressed he had scars, I would personally be turned on, but I really can't see a woman turning a "yes" into a "no" because of some scarring. If you are very self conscious however, you may sabotage your own game. Think "cool" like Sylvester Stallone's scars in Rambo and First Blood!

XOXO
Love




How do pornstars...

Hi Tera,
How do pornstars make anal sex look so easy? I mean they have to prepare or something for it to just pop right in! What do they do?

Coldaddict

Coldaddict
Coldaddict

Coldaddict,

I cant speak for all pornstars, but this pornstar has a ritual for anal sex , especially on camera. I am so self conscious about being "dirty", or being uncomfortable, that I overprepare sometimes, which just makes it more pleasurable so I can relax and get into it!

1. I always do at least one enema, but usually

2. I dont eat for a while before, to make sure my GI tract is clear as can be.

3. I insert a butt plug to help open me up about an hour before. This allows the muscles to relax and open a bit. It is still super tight inside, but just ready to accomodate.

The only drawback is that spontaneous anal sex leaves me nervous that I wont be clean. Give and take I guess!

XOXO
Love