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My Magazine > Editors Archive > Sexpert > Big Lips; Curved Dicks
Big Lips; Curved Dicks   by Tera Patrick with You, Our Readers

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When she first came onto the adult scene, Tera Patrick's film work caught everyone's eye; she was voted the "Best New Starlet" from Cannes to AVN (2001-2). One of the most popular adult stars out there, Tera has captured best-of status at all the hot men's magazines -- Playboy, Penthouse, Hustler -- she was Penthouse's 2002 Pet of the Year and Hustler's 2002 Hustler Honey. The former host of Playboy TV’s Nightcalls 41, for two years in a row, Tera has been the top adult actress on Genesis Magazine's “Porn’s Top 100” list. In addition to all this, Tera runs her own adult production company, "Teravision," while zig-zagging across the country filming and making appearances. In fact, she just appeared with her husband Evan Seinfeld (of the former HBO hit series OZ and Brooklyn-based band Biohazard) on an episode of TLC’s Miami Ink (Tuesday, April 11 -- maybe you've got it on Tivo!). And luckily for AdultFriendFinder, Tera finds time to answer all variety of sex-related questions from our members.

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Labia
Dear Tera,
Hopefully you might know of someone who has experienced this or something similar. I used to have very small and tight labia, but when I became sexually active I insisted on condoms despite the fact that I was allergic to latex (I was young and was not aware of my other choices for protection). My labia would swell up rather large from the reaction and after years of swelling my labia have never fully returned to their tight selves. Needless to say I have somewhat large labia now. I miss the old appearance of my "lips" and am somewhat self conscious of the new appearance. Do you know of anyone else had this problem and has anyone considered or had Labiaplasty done or know someone that has?

cntgetenoughofus
cntgetenoughofus


Dear Lips,
Lots of women get labiaplasty, vaginal rejuvination, and all kinds of cosmetic surgeries. Bottom line is that you have to feel sexy and beautiful to be able to enjoy sex to the fullest. Only then will you really be free to let go without inhibition. Please send me a pic of sweet little kitten when you are ready!
XOXO,
Love


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Clitoral stroking
Hello Tera,
I think most would probably agree that going down on a woman can be an art form. One technique I've used involves using a small artist paintbrush (the soft kind) for clitoral stimulation. I have only tried this once, and it worked so well, she was gushing. I used a very light touch. My question: Was it a fluke that she came so hard from just a paintbrush, or can most women reach orgasm from very light clitoral stroking?

hc816
hc816

Clitbrush,
Most of us women will tell you that it is a lot easier for us to achieve orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Personally, I love to get teased lightly until I am squirming and screaming. I have achieved tons of orgasms from that, but my fave is getting really close like that, and then getting pounded by a big thick cock when I can take no more!
I just love getting fucked into submission.
XOXO
Love,


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How do you let someone down gently?
Dear Tera,
I had been talking with a nice woman on Adult FriendFinder, and we had made plans to meet until she sent me her photo. She was too heavy for me, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I lied to her and said I got back with my ex. I hate hurting anyone's feelings, and I feel guilty. Did I make a bad mistake? I would still like to be friends with her, but ONLY friends.

pussycat298

Hey Pussycat,
For future reference, don’t let it get too far until you see a picture. How can you shop for sex, even nsa, without a visual? Maybe you are more adventurous than shallow old me. I need to see who it is! It sounds like you let her down easy. I will recommend that you should let being friends decision lie in her court however, as it should be her boundaries. Do you want to be friends with someone who rejected you?
XOXO
Love,


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Girl afraid of Girl, but wants girl
Hi Tera,
I am a girl that wants to be with a girl, but I am afraid I will be judged by the girl or by other people, and how am I to find the right one? My question is how can I ease my mind and my curiosty? I see, want, and fantasize, but, am so afraid of all of the consequences. How do you get past that, and who would want me? Can you help me? Thanks.

couple4u2c5
couple4u2c5

Dear Curious,
It seems you may have to take a leap of faith. In my opinion, it would be hard to enjoy sex when you were so busy worrying about what anyone else thought. Work it out with yourself. IF you want it, grab the bull by the horns, and take it. I was afraid to be with a woman until 2003, when I had on-camera sex with Savanna Samon from Vivid. Now, G-G sex is in regular rotation on my menu.
Once you go feline, you’ll feel fine!
XOXO
Love,


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What makes a Woman feel beautiful and why?
Hi Tera,
I asked this question on a couple of groups I belong to and one woman joined one of the groups just to answer this question. My question was, what makes you feel beautiful and why?

gentelmanjim53
gentelmanjim53

Hi Jim,
Feeling beautiful to me comes from a combination of inner peace and confidence, along with adoration from men and women around me. I combine those with the right outfit, hair and makeup, and I feel great! If someone can truly help a woman to feel beautiful, well then they have a chance to possess that very woman. I like being on magazine covers, but just as much, a smile from a fireman as the truck goes by! Validation, and designer outfits!
XOXO
Love,


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Who would you swap places with for 24 hours?
Hi Tera,
I just read in a magazine that when asked, Denis Leary would like to swap places with Jennifer Aniston 'so i could see myself naked in the mirror!' After thinking for a while, who would i want to swap with...? On a purely selfish mode it would have to be Elvis in 1956 as he was so damn handsome and talented, on a higher level Nelson Mandela...
Who would you want to be?

flimflam1966
flimflam1966

Wow, Flimflam,
That is a tough question. I think I would be Alessandra Ambrosio to feel what sex felt like as her. Then I would be a man, maybe my husband Evan, to see how good it felt to receive my blowjob! Lol
XOXO
Love,


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Is kinkiness actually sexual maturity?
Hi Tera,
I'm wondering if one's kinky level is actually a level of their emotional and sexual maturity? I've had girlfriends who I'd consider flat out vanilla, and one who would in fact giggle during sex (oh yeah, that was exciting, NOT). It seemed a direct relationship to their emotional maturity, something directly related to what they wanted out of sex (i.e., missionary, doggie, oral sex, anal sex, bondage, etc.) and how they composed themselves. I'm just wondering what you think of this.

Poncede
Poncede

Hi Poncede,
I'm glad you understand that maturity has nothing to do with age. I think in some scenarios you may be correct, but not always. I know men and women who were just born with the kink. I mean, I am still very immature, but I am a freak who likes to get choked unconscious during anal sex! Different streaks for different freaks! Maybe you should try to stop analyzing and start enjoying!
XOXO
Love


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Should I or Shouldn't I?
Hi Tera,
I would like to know if I should get breast implants or not. A Part of me says yes but the other part says no. Do you know of any women who have? And did they have any kids afterwards? Did it affect that at all -- is it uncomfortable? Does it hurt? I have heard so many things from all of these and want to know -- should I?

wejustwannafucku

Hi Wannafucku,
I have had my breasts augmented. I had lost a lot of weight for a Playboy shoot, and my boobs kinda deflated. I pumped them back up plus a little, and I am so happy! Mine never hurt, and I have had no problems, but one of my girlfriends is having complications right now with 2 year-old boobs. One is slipping down to her belly button. Eeesh. I hear you can breast feed just fine, but I would then recommend that the breast augmentation operation not go through the nipple. I don’t feel like I can trust that! When mine were new, they were so big and waxy ... ooooh! Do you want to touch them???
XOXO
Love,


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Unusual penis shape
Dear Tera
At least one of my former sex partners has made a negative comment about the shape of my penis. This is because unlike the average penis which curves upwards, mine curves downwards instead and has an unusual orientation to the left when erect. I didn't really think it was a problem until the day I first tried sex in a standing up position. It just didn't work right. I know the majority of guys have a "curve-up penis," but I was just wondering if you know of any guys who have my kind of penis. I'd also be curious to know if this poses a problem for them during sex. I also wonder if maybe you have been with guys like me, and if you found it odd or strange when having sex with these guys.

caliplayboy2
caliplayboy2

Dear Cali,
Lots of guys have penises that don’t conform to textbook standards. If you have problems with the up-down curvature, just change positions. Example, if it hurts your partner in doggie, switch to missionary or cowgirl. Most important is to communicate. Find out what your partners are really feeling. It is probably a blessing, because at the exact angle, you may become the adult g-spot finder!
XOXO
Love,




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