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My Magazine > Editors Archive > Sexpert > Ask Tera: Sex Alone for 2
Ask Tera: Sex Alone for 2   by Tera Patrick -- and You, Our Members

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Visit Tera at her site, www.clubtera.com.

When she first came onto the adult scene Tera Patrick's film work caught everyone's eye; she was voted the "Best New Starlet" from Cannes to AVN (2001-2). One of the most popular adult stars out there, Tera Patrick has captured best-of status at all the hot men's magazines -- Playboy, Penthouse, Hustler -- she was Penthouse's 2002 Pet of the Year and Hustler's 2002 Hustler Honey. Now Tera runs her own adult film production company "Teravision" while zig-zagging across the country filming and making appearances. And luckily for AdultFriendFinder, she finds time to answer our sex-related questions.

[Questions are carefully selected by Tera from the many questions posted (Gold members first) in the comment section (below) and on our Advice Lines (left-hand column of the Magazine). They're used by members' permission. It's just another of the fun, sexy connections AdultFriendFinder has to offer!]

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Lights on or Off?

Hi Tera,
Do you like sex best with the lights on, the lights off, or with a dimmer or candles?
sexywhiteboy07

Hey sexy white boy,
During my porn movie shoots sex is usually under extremely hot lights. There is something so honest about it that it really turns me on. However, I am definitely all about mood. Dim lights, dozens of expensive candles, and Votivo red current incense prime me for open intimate love making. There is something, however, to be said about sex in pitch black darkness -- you can then imagine whoever you want.


Need some help from someone who has been there…

Dear Tera,
We are a happily married couple and new to this lifestyle, about 2 months. We have had several encounters and loved all of them. I (fem) am bisexual and he is straight. We have lots of fantasies and some have already been fulfilled. Ok, here is where i need the help. In my mind, lots of things play out, but when it actually comes to the act, I am having some problems. I know that it is all about having fun and making good friends. My husband is very comfortable seeing me with another woman, in fantasy and reality. I am struggling with allowing him to be with another woman. We are not into pairing off and have not hit the penetration issue yet. I want to do it all, but, well am not sure what the problem is. We are very secure in our marriage and we both have a deep love for one another. But I do have a fantasy of being with two men at the same time. I don't have a desire to touch another man, while he is with another woman. But he does want another woman. Do you know of anyone who has felt like this? How did you overcome it? I want to fulfill all my husband's wants, needs and desires.
3sum40

Dear 3sum40,
Part of what makes the lifestyle so hot is embracing all the feelings and the fear that come with the sexual adventure. I must admit that I have been known to be very jealous and possessive when it comes to my husband. He and I both agree that the push pull of jealousy and heightened eroticism is exactly the concoction for a turn on. He and I are very different however. He enjoys watching me with other men or women and feels very free to jump in. I get more turned on sending my husband off to have sex with another woman than watching. It plays out so many ways. The bottom line is that if you have love and trust you have it all.


Does being a great dancer=great lover?

Well Tera, I hear this comment a lot and I am curious as to why people, especially women, think that. I thought sex is more of a thrusting motion which really doesn't require you to know how to dance? I always thought that good chemistry, experience, stamina, creativity and perhaps penis size are more important factors for great sex than dancing skills.

What do you think?
IUemeka

Dear IU,
Women like men with rhythm. I have never personally been into men who dance but as a rocker chic I have been known to throw myself at drummers and bass players! Women like to dance with men because it is very physical, sexual and seductive. In a lot of ways it can even be like foreplay.


What would you do on your birthday?

Hi Tera,
What would you do on your birthday? Would you go out? Would you have a private party at home? Would you just invite a hottie over for some pussy or dick? Or would you masturbate?
Bootyhunter65

Dear Bootyhunter,
I would hate to disappoint you with my birthday wishes. The last few years I have had quite an elaborate B-day celebration with tons of hot guys and girls. Last year my party was such a production I ended up with nothing more than a quickie in the bathroom. The most important thing to me on my B-day is to be around my true friends and family. Not that a nice ménage a’ trios doesn’t make a great birthday gift for Tera :)



Beautiful cocks? Is there anything like that?

Dear Tera,
I am not sure what makes a cock look beautiful for women? What do you think?
usized_thick

Dear Thick,
Asking what makes a beautiful cock for women is like asking what makes for a beautiful pussy for a man. No 2 cocks are exactly alike and although they are all special in their own way every woman has her own idea of a beautiful cock. For me size is very important as is shape. Regarding shape straight is much better than curved for myself and most of my girlfriends. A cock should be long, thick (and hard of course) but not too big. Too thick is better than too long as my pleasure region ends at my cervix. I love a cock that is soft and smooth although a few veins and ridges in the right spots can be a plus. Oh yeah, make sure it is CLEAN and guys if you don’t shave at least trim.


Experience to Looks

Hi Tera,
What do your prefer, a hot partner with little experience or an experienced partner with all the right experience? Would you pick attitude or looks over experience or vice versa?
NiceEyes682

Dear Nice Eyes,
I would definitely pick confidence and love making over looks but I certainly do have my limits. I definitely prefer manly men who are rugged and who know how to take charge.


Mutual Masturbation

Dear Tera,
How do u approach someone for a masturbation session? There is someone I want to masturbate with but am not sure how to go about it.
fun_in_1066




Dear Drunken,
As most women would agree confidence is the biggest turn on a man could possess. I would take the direct approach and simply come straight to the point. I would preface it with one simple compliment as we girls never get tired of that. Good luck ‒ let me know how it goes.




What is the most sensual thing women like?

Hi,
Just want to know what are the most sensual things you like your man to do to please you? It can be anything from caresses, kisses, licking, using champagne or anything additional...bottom line what makes you freak out with pleasure apart from your orgasm?
sweetbigcock2006

Dear Sweet Big Cock,
I have always enjoyed gentle kissing and nibbling on my most erogenous zones, nape of the neck, inner thigh, and back of the knee. I also enjoy having my toes sucked on and I must admit that although those things turn me on what really makes me flip my lid is being spanked on my butt, choked while being fucked and even being slapped around a little. I wouldn’t try the rough stuff unless she asked for it however.


Vampiric Tendancies

Hi Tera,
I've had a specific woman who scratches me so hard on the back, she draws blood from numerous scratches. I've always liked the taste of blood, though I've never gone for having someone else's. we'd finish having sex, turn on a light, and see all that blood of mine, and i'd start lickin it off her hands, it turned me on so much we went again within 5 minutes, and we went even longer that second time. Have you heard of any others being into this? Are there any dangers in this?
Drakoonxy

Dear Drak,
Exchanging blood is never a good thing to do, period. Although I understand the turn on, the unsafety factor goes way too far for me. Fuck her twice with a condom and try katsup ‒ LOL.

XOXO,
Tera

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