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My Magazine > Editors Archive > Sexpert > Ask Tera: Wake Up, She*s Horny!
Ask Tera: Wake Up, She*s Horny!   by Tera Patrick -- and You, Our Members

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Visit Tera at her site, www.clubtera.com.

When she first came onto the adult scene Tera Patrick's film work caught everyone's eye; she was voted the "Best New Starlet" from Cannes to AVN (2001-2). One of the most popular adult stars out there, Tera Patrick has captured best-of status at all the hot men's magazines -- Playboy, Penthouse, Hustler -- she was Penthouse's 2002 Pet of the Year and Hustler's 2002 Hustler Honey. Now Tera runs her own adult film production company "Teravision" while zig-zagging across the country filming and making appearances. And luckily for AdultFriendFinder, she finds time to answer our sex-related questions.

[Questions are carefully selected by Tera from the many member questions posted on our Advice Lines (see left-hand column of the Magazine) and used by members' permission. It's just another of the fun, sexy connections AdultFriendFinder has to offer!]

Now, here's Tera:
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sex toys
Hello Tera,
I'm in the market for some new toys. I've done the "rabbit" and the standard vibe. They are great but I'm wondering if there there's anything out there you've tried that was extra special. Let me know!!!
sextgrlto

Hey cutey,

The only thing we girls like more than shopping is shopping for sex toys! Whether your new toy is a man, a new girlfriend, or takes batteries, be sure to get EXACTLY what gets you off! I have to shamelessly plug here and tell you about the Tera Patrick sex toy line from California Exotic novelties. My pretty red boxes line the shelves of most adult stores. My newest products, “the high performance series,” offer the most bang for your buck of any pleasure tools on the market! Check out the mini vibes for the ladies, and the futurotic stroker for the guys! (www.terapatrickstore.com )

Tera

Is There Anymore to Do? I think I have Done It All
Dear Tera:
I think I have done it all. MFM, MMFM, FFFF, ALL HOLES. Anyone got any new and exciting ideas?
lovely2hold

Hey there adventurous!
Have you tried performing on film? This can put a whole new twist on it! How about sex in some precarious places? A lot of my friends who have “done it all” wander into the transgender world! How about a gorgeous lady with a big stiff one for you? That is considered by some to be the best of both worlds…and it is not on your list! You know what I always say, “different streaks for different freaks!”

I have a question for lesbians and bi-sexual women
Hi Tera,
I'm a bi-curious woman who has a couple of questions for the more experienced lesbians or bi-sexual women. Would you be upset if you met up with a woman and you went down on her but she wasn't able to go down on you? I mean, I love the idea of kissing, touching, fingering, sucking, and such but I'm not sure that I could go down on a woman.
bji64056

Well Bji,
Lots of gay and bi-sexual women love to “turn out” straight girls. When I first started doing girls (and mind you this was late in life for a porn star), I was a little freaked out. Knowing how it was for me, I personally would not expect anything if it were a girl's first time. I'm sure lots of girls will understand you getting comfortable taking a walk on the wild side! Be open and honest. Be up front. You may just find yourself licking pussy and loving it!

Tera

What does it feel like when two pussies are fucking each other????
Hi Tera,
Could you explain? I am very curious. It looks like it feels sooooo good, but does it reaaaaalllly feel that good?
Arimahs

Dear Arimahs,
Personally, I am not a big fan of “scizzoring” or grinding my pussy against another girl's. It looks very sexy, and I do it on camera, but in my personal life, give me dick, give me tongue, even give me toys, shit... just give me my goddamn pocket rocker!!!
Tera

Wake Up, I'm Horny!
Dear Tera,
What do you do to wake up your partner at 6 am to put your fire out? We were out at a club with friends and family of ours, but we rode in different cars. After the dancing, the touching, and rubbing I was ready to go straight home. He made it home maybe 30 or 45 minutes before me, but when I got there I was still rubbing and touching him in all that I thought were the right places. He didn’t respond. What should I do next time?
MOBsBADDEST

Dear Mobs,
If I am horny in the middle of the night, I take my man’s cock right into my mouth and suck slow and hard. If this doesn’t get him going, he is sound asleep! Then it is time for a high powered vibrator, and usually followed by a morning fuck with a vengeance!

Tera

A good dick or a good tongue, which is more important?
Hi Tera,
I have been wondering something and haven't seen it asked before. But if you meet a guy and he gives the most incredible oral sex you've ever had but lacks the dick skills, would you stay and work with him (or vice versa)? Which is more important, oral or penetration?
yellaman315

Hey Yellaman,
I must say that I am not only a "dick girl," but a size queen too! If I want my pussy eaten, I have girlfriends. I need a man who can pin me down and fuck me until I'm delirous! Hurt me daddy!

Tera

What Then?
Hi Tera:
We recently had our first full swap experience. After everyone was satisfied, it was a little quiet. How do you be polite when the sexuality is finished?
Sherry_K

Dear Sherry K:
I always say "laughter is the best medicine." Sexual situations can be awkward, but c'mon guys. It is just sex. Especially after sex, the hardest part is over (no pun intended).
If the experience left parties feeling uncomfortable, then maybe it wasn’t the right thing for everyone! I have found that with time, we grow more confident in all our affairs, especially when it feels soooo good!

Tera

And now a question or two on cock rings
Hey Tera,
I'm leaning towards getting my guy a cock ring and talking him out of the Viagra. Where would I find one? I've never seen them in my favorite sex shop, but have never looked for them either. So any suggestions for selecting one as well as using it are appreciated. SuffolkSexyBBW

Hi Suff,
There are lots of kinds of cock rings for sure. My man has such an unusually thick cock, that we can’t use normal ones. He has been known to use things like plumbing parts, and huge o-rings from home depot, and even some of my bracelets! You can always just google cock rings, or try sites like pleasure chest, and even terapatrickstore.com!
There are lots of herbal virility pills, but you may just want to try naturally heightening stimulation for him. Bring home another woman. See if that puts the bullets in his gun!

Tera

Is this true?
Hi Tera,
I am in a relationship with an older man. In fact, he's 15 years older than me! Anyways, as of lately, the amount of sex that we have has declined. Used to be that we couldn't
get enough. His explanation is that it has to do with age. Well, I understand this, but I've worked with many older people and have come across some frisky old timers. I guess
the question is this, should I chalk it up to age? Or a loss of interest?
midnitekitty

Hello M Kitty,
At any age, it is normal for sex drive and frequency to take ups and downs. Try spicing up your sex life a little bit. Watch porn together, buy some lingerie, or maybe even some role playing. I like to play a game where you take your guy to a busy “meat market” bar or club, sit him down, and have him watch you flirt with all kinds of guys. In this scenario, I recommend young, hot studs. My guess is that he will "rise" to the occasion!

XOXO,
Tera

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