To all of you who need info on ANAL heres everything i know! Enjoy!  

youngtallymilf 35M/34F
32 posts
6/21/2005 7:38 am

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To all of you who need info on ANAL heres everything i know! Enjoy!

Anal Sex Positions
Doggie Style Probably the most commonly thought of anal sex position is "doggie style", where the receiving partner kneels on all fours and the inserting partner approaches from the rear. Though this is the most common anal position, it's not necessarily the most comfortable or the best beginner position, as the position of the receiving partner tends to tighten up their anus.
Flying Doggie A variation of the popular doggie style position in which the giver stands behind the receiver (instead of kneeling) and places their feet outside the legs of the receiver. You'll find that the giver will be positioned higher and will be inserting into the anus in a more downward fashion (you're almost in mid-leap if you were playing leapfrog).
Missionary The standard missionary style position (man on top, partner on bottom) is actually also the best beginner position for anal sex, as it allows the receiver to fully relax the anus, making penetration much easier.
Anal Drop This position puts the receiver on top and the giver on the bottom. You might think that this is the best beginner position, since it gives the receiver control over how much - how fast, but being on top actually causes the receiver to involuntarily tighten up the anus, making penetration difficult.
Double Penetration Available only to women as a receiver, the art of double penetration can bring extreme pleasure to the woman. Because the anus is highly sensitive and there are many shared sexual nerve endings between the walls of the vagina and the anus, simultaneous stimulation can be quite erotic.
Side Anal Another good beginner position is side anal, where the receiver lays on their side and the giver approaches from the rear. The receiver can relax the anus and the giver can easily access the entire anal area.
Kama Sutra Anal The Kama Sutra is an ancient text that teaches us to how to maximize our pleasure during lovemaking. It also teaches that anal sex is not "taboo" or forbidden. Rather, anal sex is looked upon as a key to releasing certain sexual and physical energies.
Wheel BarrelIn this position, the giver approaches the receiver from behind, similar to doggie stye, but lifts the receiver's legs into the air. The receiver must support themselves with their arms only or lay flat on a bed or chair.
Anal Sex Tips
Preparing for Sex To get ready for anal sex, the first thing the receiver needs to do is relax. A hot bath or a massage beforehand is always a good idea to get prepared.
Start Slowly Because there is a very fine line between pain and pleasure during anal sex, we suggest that you begin your anal explorations very slowly and proceed at a leisurely pace that will allow to experience and appreciate each level of insertion.
Proper Lubrication More so than in any other form of sex, proper lubrication is essential in the enjoyment of anal sex. Every time you insert anything into the anus, from a finger to a penis, you're likely to tear tissue walls along the sides (much like you do to the inside of your mouth every time you brush your teeth).
Male Prostate Stimulation Though many men are reluctant to admit it, most find some sort of anal stimulation to be erotically stimulating. Even non-gay men report that inserting a finger or butt plug into the anus during sex causes incredible, throbbing orgasms.
Anal Orgasm A small percentage of men and women can achieve actual orgasm through exclusive anal stimulation (ie., anal stimulation alone). Though many men and women enjoy and take great pleasure in anal stimulation, it is most often in conjunction with normal sexual activities, the orgasm is simply heightened by anal sex.
Combination Sex Most people find that anal sex is a tremendous tool to enhance their regular sex activities. In a majority of cases, the actual anal sex is used in conjunction with a variety of other sexual activities and positions.
The Best Anal Position Have the receiving parther lie on their back with their knees in the air. The inserting parther should kneel or lie facing the receiving parner and insert at an angle that is comfortable to both. In this position, the receiving partner can relax several muscles necessary for pleasurable anal sex.
Hygiene Proper hygiene is essential for any type of anal sex, especially any anal penetrations.
Anatomy Two closely spaced muscle rings, called sphincters surround the anal opening. The outer sphincter is controlled like any muscle, you can contract or relax it at will. The inner sphincter is goverened involuntarily and it responds to fear and anxiety, causing the receiving partner to tense up the inner sphincter.
Your First Experience Most people find that anal sex is a tremendous tool to enhance their regular sex activities. In a majority of cases, the actual anal sex is used in conjunction with a variety of other sexual activities and positions. A little anal stimulation is almost always welcomed during oral sex (try using your finger around and even in the anus while you are performing oral sex with your mouth).
Analingus Analingus is the act of licking or inserting the tongue into the anus to provide pleasure. Both men and women enjoy analingus and you can use some of the same techniques on each.
Fingering the Anus Before fingering the anus, make sure your fingernails are trimmed tight and you have the proper lubrication. A little spit is better than nothing. You can use any finger you like, but the difference in size (except for the thumb) is not as great as you'd imagine.
Anal Massage Start with your partner naked and comfortably face down on a bed or massage table. You can be clothed or not, depending on how you want to end the massage. Begin by slowly kneading the muscles of the back and neck. Always try to push or knead the muscles towards the heart. The greatly helps the circulation in the area and is a cornerstone of the Swedish technique.[/color

ashman280667 46M/37F

6/21/2005 8:53 am

Thanks for such an informative post.
I'm saddened that I have never had a partner who would partake in this activity and over the years my desire to try it has grown and grown. My current partner tells me all her friends say it hurts and she clearly has a bit of a taboo attitude towards it.

In experimentation i have tried inserting a dildo in myself and have found it heightens orgams dramatically and if done slowly and gently there is no pain. Doing this to myself has proved to bring some pleasure but I live in hope that one day I will get to be the giver of anal sex.

I honestly feel like I am the only guy alive who has not been able to explore this desire. I guess I must not be but that is how it feels.

I live in hope.

jimxxx1971 48M

6/21/2005 12:19 pm

[babadavid2] you are not alone in your lack of anal sex. hell, my blog is dedicated to my attempts to get my wife into it. it's frustrating, because the chances are, as long as i do it right she's going to love it. but, never being given the chance to try just stinks. (hah hah! a butt pun)

anyway, if i do get the chance i doubt i'll go at her doggy. my dick curves upward and i just don't see how that could possibly fit in there comfortably doggy-style. doesn't seem logical.

youngtallymilf 35M/34F
13 posts
6/21/2005 1:58 pm

jimxxx1971 i sugest the Missionary The standard missionary style position (man on top, partner on bottom) style for you or the other way around it is to have her lay on her back legs high in the air at shoulders or around there and enter like you are entering the vagina and instead lub up and enter for anal action! Now remimber she is not lieing when she says she thinks it will hurt it will but even in the first time if done properly she will start to like it after a few slow pumps .give her time to ajust dont ever go to fast unless she tells you to and just because she tells you to go faster doesnt mean you should keep the pace through out the whole process..thanx

scribe999 53  
3 posts
6/22/2005 3:03 pm

One additional helpful hint with a novice or a wife that doesn't particularly enjoy it but feels she is obliged too every now & then is a couple of drinks (not so she gets too sloshed - just enough to take the edge off); a good amount of lube, and a x-rated movie featuring anal. Side anal is good, using a vibrator on her front while your doing it in the back while a watching an anal porno works very, very well.

If that doesn't work, go to Vegas and get drunk that works very well for some reason. (really) I guess women really lose their inhibitions in that town. (just remember that when you come back the rule of "What happened in Vegas, Stay in Vegas" usually applies).

jimxxx1971 48M

6/23/2005 6:59 am

lol, that's funny scribe999. we were in vegas a few years back and i was "this close" to getting it one night. we'd even picked up some lube at some spencersish type shop and whatever, but just never quite got to it. i think we got too hammered and ended up just fucking like rabbits before passing out. i don't remember too well. 5 years later and we still have the lube. unopened.

youngtallymilf thanks for the tips! that is pretty much the position i was thinking we'd try, if and when it happens. so you're saying that most likely there will be a little pain when i first enter her no matter what? but to just ease her through it and she'll be ok? that is definitely good to know so we don't just quit right away the first time she feels something.

rm_4nik8_4u 62M
2501 posts
6/24/2005 7:42 am

Using the kiss method this morning. "OK, I'm ready"

youngtallymilf 35M/34F
13 posts
6/24/2005 10:58 pm

Yes it is important you that you keep in mind it will hurt not matter what it is how you both work through it take it slow. let you tell you when she is ready to go faster. Most of the time you can bet if she REALLY likes rough sex she will most likely want you to go faster at some point. Also it might hurt every time you start out but the pain goes away faster and faster each time you do it.

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