Yep. This is me. Naked.  

yagottalikit 50F
824 posts
2/5/2006 3:00 am

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Yep. This is me. Naked.

During my "official move", I came across something I had written at a very low point in my life. As I read it, I FELT my resolve and determination. Very powerful stuff...it haunts me. I feel that I have obviously taken these "instructions" to heart, even though I had forgotten I wrote them. I actually hate the thought of where I was emotionally when these words were transferred to paper. All in all ~ good advice, I think, for anyone who might be battling their own demons.
This is about as naked as I could possibly get!


Healing

The process must move forward. Unfortunately, this may require a few steps back. Keep in mind ~ this cannot hurt you ~ nothing from the past can ever, EVER hurt you again. The only answer is facing these issues ~ head on. Realize the truth, allow yourself to go through the appropriate steps. Feel ALL of the emotions. There is absolutely no harm in being vulnerable for a few minutes ~ you are not made of steel. Quit trying to act like you are. Realize that NO ONE is SO absorbed in your life that, if you falter, they will break. You are nobody's super-glue. As you well know by now ~ super-glue is temporary - not a forever fix-it-all. It's very much OK with the world that you bleed. Open the wounds and bleed! Let your blood flow freely. Yes, there will be a mess afterward ~ there will be time ~ time for clean-up, later. Do not clean along the way. Allow the puddle to develop. You may be surprised to find it's not so overwhelmingly deep. If stains are left behind, remember it gives character. No need for bleach or super-sanitizers ~ don't scrub endlessly ~ live with it!
You must do this ~ You must do this ~ You must do this ~ You must do this! No one else can ~ nothing else will work.

Own it.

Poison

Simply said, discard the poison. This will probably be the most difficult and most necessary element for change. It is absolutely essential to purge. Damaging habits, people, thoughts. They must go. You will not be able to accomplish as long as these things remain. You cannot carelessly toss these aside. Differentiate ~ some habits are poisonous to you alone ~ and some are hurting others. A daunting task. Do the best that you can and walk away from it. There should be a lot of running going on, but, baby steps are steps! Try to replace some bad habits with healthy ones to lessen the void. Some people in your life are flat out poisonous. Walk away. Eliminate these people ~ end these relationships ~ FOREVER! Yes, this seems extreme and WILL be difficult. This MUST happen. You will have to figure out which people are harmful to you, which people YOU are poisonous with, by virtue of an unhealthy relationship. Some people are not damaging in and of themselves ~ However, your relationship with them might be. You must decide whether or not to walk away. Can the behavior ~ "relationship" ~ be changed? You'll know. You do not want to inadvertently destroy a beneficial relationship. They are few and far between. True friends are rare. Draw from these relationships, the strength to free yourself from poison.

Own it.

Excuses

No, they are NOT reasons. They are excuses! You know when there are valid reasons for failure ~ still, do not make them excuses. Excuses destroy dreams. Excuses destroy lives. Excuses destroy souls. NO MORE EXCUSES!

Own it.

Blame

From this moment forward ~ when pointing that finger, you had better be standing in front of a mirror. You cannot blame others, anymore. The ultimate.........

Own it.

Action

You have already begun to take action. You will have to continue taking action. Be cautious, but adventurous. Living is a verb. Drench your world in verbs! You cannot procrastinate life. It will not wait. Just do it. Do it well. Do the best you can and walk away. Walk forward. Walk tall. Walk proud. Run sometimes! Allow ideas and dreams to leap from your mind. Make them tangible! Touch them. Embrace them.

Own them.

Closure

This is where the clean-up time begins. Wash thoroughly. Again, remember....stains are inevitable and quite alright. Deep cleansing can be accomplished without killing yourself. Striving for perfection will only cause more damage. Do your best and walk away from it. Be assured that it will still be clean when you come back and those stains will fade over time. Guess what!?!?! No one else on the planet will ever see it! As you scrape away dead AND dying cells, be gentle but firm. Some areas may be sensitive, even delicate. Take care and evaluate those dying cells. Some might be worth the risk of resuscitation. You will know which ones. You'll just know. You may find the need for assistance at times. Do not be afraid to ask. There is no shame in needing help. Some may help generously and others may be reluctant. Do the best you can and walk away from it. Any mess left behind is theirs. Some doors will need to be closed tightly. Some, locked. Some may require deadbolts and boarding up. You have the required hardware. Use it and walk away.

Own it.

© copyright 2006 by Yagottalikit


Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


elysianpleasure 49M

2/5/2006 8:34 pm

Right on!!!! Inspirtational. Thanks for sharing this.


outdoorman94 49M

2/6/2006 8:31 am

Well hopefully you have it figured out.Good luck in your fututre!


rm_4nik8_4u 62M
2501 posts
2/6/2006 1:14 pm

You're not naked!!!

Oh, is that a metaphor?

SHUCKS!!!

I mean, I knew that!

&


MyRealLoverOne 47M

2/6/2006 5:41 pm

Thanks for sharing your nakedness with us. I know exactly what you are saying babes.


rm_anacortes 75M
2850 posts
2/8/2006 4:52 pm

Very good ideas... good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!


beewulf9 39M

2/10/2006 11:34 am

I admire these words because they are so true and honest. Makes me want to stand infront of a mirror. I wish you well in dealing with these words.


outdoorman94 49M

2/13/2006 9:17 am

It's definately interesting and makes alot of sense!


fantasylover_05 63M

2/14/2006 6:25 am

Very deep insightful and inspiring!!

Thank you so much for sharing!!

We all can learn from this piece!!

Thank you so much for posing yourself naked in front of us!! You have obviously learned much since writing that piece!!

Thank you

And HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!


bardicman 51M

2/15/2006 3:42 pm

It took me awhile to get past the metaphorical use of "This is me naked."

After I finally quit looking and trying in vain to seek out the picture I was greeted by a wonderful post of self healing.

Very inspirational.

You naked would probably be inspirational too.

A man in a skirt chasing me with a baseball bat however, would detract from that inspiration.

Luv you guys !!



I am not dead yet


rm_hinkawaza 54M
371 posts
2/15/2006 7:29 pm

Actually Bard, it would be a katana, not a baseball bat! rotflmao!!!!


yagottalikit 50F
583 posts
2/18/2006 2:55 am

Time prevents individual responses, so, I'll just say.....thanks for visiting and letting me know what y'all think! Maybe someone will find this helpful. someday.

And...errrr....sorry for the "naked" tease.....underhanded tactics...
all's fair!!!!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


bardicman 51M

2/18/2006 6:31 am

BAHAHAHAA Hinky... Are you a Ninja Turtle in a skirt?



I am not dead yet


SirMounts 103M

5/8/2006 7:09 am

Very wise words, and a very fine blof too, yagottalikit. *smiling*


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