Someone Else To Catch This Drift  

yagottalikit 51F
824 posts
9/27/2005 12:19 pm

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Someone Else To Catch This Drift

"What I wouldn't give to find a soulmate. Someone else to catch this drift. And what I wouldn't give to meet a kindred."
- Alanis Morissette

Soulmate (noun): Somebody close to somebody else.
Somebody with whom somebody else naturally
shares deep feeling and attitudes.
synonyms: friend, pal, playmate, companion, partner, chum.

Kindred (adj.): 1. Similar to something or
somebody. Close to somebody or something
else because of similar qualities and
2. Related by blood.
Also can be a noun, basically the same definition.
synonyms: family, relatives, family members.

Given these definitions, I absolutely believe we all have soulmates and kindreds. However, most think of a soulmate as something a little different. A little deeper. Is there ONE person out there for each of us? No. That I don't buy!

Who doesn't want to find someone else to catch their drift? Someone who "gets" them. These are the folks that become our lovers, and even more so, our friends.

When I said, "That's what I want. To find 'someone else to catch this drift'." He said, "That won't be easy." After a moment, I asked, "Why do you say that?" He replied, "You're so complex."

It took me two full days to recover from the shock. Me? Complex? I thought about all of my personality traits, my attitude, my demeaner, my beliefs. I couldn't, for the life of me, figure out what would be so "complex" about me. It bothered me. Am I difficult to understand?

Rather than drive myself insane with questions I obviously couldn't answer, I decided to go back to the source.

"What makes you say I'm complicated?" (Big mistake on my part......I equated complex with complicated.) He immediately corrected me, "I didn't say complicated. I said complex."
Me, "OK, WHATEVER....How am I complex, then?"
Him, "Any woman who climbs under the hood of my diesel truck, gets covered in grease and then writes what you wrote is complex." (This is in reference to a particular piece I wrote.)

I'm well-rounded. I'm a whole person with many facets. All the facets seem pretty simple to me. So, if that's complex ~ I guess I am.

But, is it good to be complex? Is that attractive or too much work?

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_hinkawaza 54M
371 posts
9/27/2005 12:58 pm

Complex means well-rounded, faceted, etc. There is alot going on inside of you, you are not a simple, one-track person. Look at the simplest of people, the Buudhist and Tibetan Monks, when you take the time to talk to one of these seemingly simple people you find complexity that most of us will never be able to begin to comprehend. That is how you are, faceted, many sides to learn and study, a gem to learn all the perfections and flaws in!

ByteChaser2 54M

9/27/2005 1:54 pm

I think it's the mate part of soulmate that trips most folks up... I have several (by definition) soulmates and more kindreds. I kind of wish I'd married one of them...

Thanks hun!

beewulf9 39M

9/27/2005 5:49 pm

Being complex or non-complex is not at issue in my humble opinion.

Does he respond to you? Compliment you? Is complex? Non-complex? like you are? Will he support you like friends do? Will he make you lust like lovers do? Is he your kindred?

Do you want the answers to be yes to these questions? Does he?

I wish you well in finding the questions you want to ask. My best wishes.

Nubiandream004 56M

9/27/2005 8:47 pm


I think you were taken aback because of the tone used when your lover said "you're so complex." However, if you look at the things causing him to make the statement I think it's actually a compliment - even if he didn't mean it as such (and if you didn't see it as one). You are a women of many talents and some are not those "typically" associated with women, most of them are. Well, ALL those things make you a unique, fascinating person. I think THAT is a good thing.

Now for the "Million Dollar Question" - you say you want to find "someone else to catch this drift" (to understand you), but do you really? I make this assumption based solely on your post, but it doesn't seem as if your current lover is "catching your drift," so to speak. Are you still looking for "that" person? Or are you waiting for "that" person to come to you? As Arsenio used to say, "Thing to make you go hmmmmm..."

Sorry for the long post - blame yourself, you made me think again.

mtdude2 57M  
117 posts
9/27/2005 10:13 pm

Ask yourself, Would I rather be considered complex or simple?

Do I want to be one dimensional or multidimensional?

Do I want to use and enjoy my intelligence and talent?

Are there men who want a simple, one dimensional, no talent dumb ass?

Are there men who want a complex, multidimensional, intelligent and talanted woman.

If a man wants a simple, one dimensional, no talent dumb ass is it because he himself is a simple, one dimensional, no talent dumb ass or is it due to his own insecurities?

If a man wants a complex, multidimensional, intelligent and talanted woman is it because he respects and admires these qualties?

What kind of person do I want to be with?

By the way, and I think I speak for all your readers, if we didn't find you attractive in more ways than one we wouldn't be reading your blog.

rm_4nik8_4u 62M
2501 posts
9/28/2005 1:15 am

To have and to show many facets is simply recognizing the "kindred spirits" that reside within us. There is no complexity, only understanding.

BenefitsFriend69 58M/62F

9/28/2005 9:13 am

This is all to complex, I mean complicated, for me.

If you're at all living life and attempting to reach your highest self while in this body, there will be complications and complexities. And simplicity, all rolled into one. DISCOVERING another person without labeling it too much is what I like.


yagottalikit 51F
583 posts
9/28/2005 4:35 pm

I find it interesting that so many of you ASSUMED who "he" is in this post. Suppose I said it was my brother? It was said in a very complimentary manner.....I just over analyzed, AS USUAL. Thanks to all of you for boosting my "ego", though!

Gonna show my "Tat's" in the next couple of days!! (4 nik)

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/29/2005 1:25 pm

I suppose that this is my cue? LOL

rm_anacortes 76M
2850 posts
9/29/2005 2:28 pm

I thought I wrote a post for you on this?

A problem I have with AdultFriendFinder.. I am never really sure what gets posted..

Gurl... just do YOUR THING.


rm_4nik8_4u 62M
2501 posts
9/29/2005 8:54 pm

You are making me want you. You're so good to me.

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