A Million Little Lies (not at all related to faking death)  

yagottalikit 50F
824 posts
1/14/2006 1:28 pm

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A Million Little Lies (not at all related to faking death)

If you haven't heard the hoopla surrounding the book "A Million Little Pieces" by James Frey, you must be living in a cave.

For the sake of this post ~ I'll sum up a little of what it's all about. Basically, Mr Frey has written his "memoirs" on life as an alcoholic, a drug addict and a criminal. The book has been at the top of the best-seller list for something like 16 weeks. Oprah got the entire nation reading it when she chose it for her Book Club. This man's story is so profound, it's changing lives!

Last week, I was at my mother's house doing some repairs. She's chattering away, as usual, about some book she's reading. I was distracted (even a bit annoyed) ~ I still couldn't tell you what she was saying to me. I do know it ended with ~"I'll give it to you when I'm finished.
It's REALLY good!"
{Whew......thank you mother, now go read it and let me finish fixing things!!!} The conversation was forgotten quickly.

Then, earlier this week, hinkawaza starts telling me about this book and how - The Smoking Gun - has accused the author of embellishing quite a bit about his life.

Aw, hell, they say the book is full of "A Million Little Lies". They back up their accusations quite well.

I read their allegations, thoroughly. I, pretty much, believe the guy's "memoirs" are a work of fiction laced with some reality.

Now, after reading all about this book ~ I vaguely recalled my mother's excited babbling about a book. (I must've heard some of what she said). So, I asked her about it and sure enough...... I am now reading "A Million Little Pieces", myself!

Truthfully, it's a damn good book!

If it's a damn good book! ~ If it's helping people ~ If it's leading some to rehab ~ If it's changing lives - should we care if it's not exactly true? How about if it's not even close to truth?

The guy's making a ton of money, selling lies about himself. Does it really matter? Who's getting hurt? No publisher would touch it when he tried to call it fiction ~ but, as a "memoir" ~ it's GOLD!!!

Why would it matter to anyone? There are some serious writers in Blogville. Maybe some of you can enlighten me. I'm sure hinkawaza will do his best to make me understand! But, "it's the principle of the thing" won't fly!

Anytime someone writes about another person or themselves (biography or auto), there is the possibility, even probability, that some information might be inaccurate or FALSE! It's been done before......can you say "unauthorized biography"??? Mr Frey wrote about himself ~ even if it's pure delusion ~ he labels it "memoirs" ~ is this something he should be burned at the stake for?

Well, I know this much ~ I'm reading "A Million Little Pieces" ~ I'm having trouble putting it down. That's enough for me to say,


Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_hinkawaza 53M
371 posts
1/14/2006 3:33 pm

First off, this guy did not just fabricate stories about himself, in one example he took the sad and horrible deaths of two young high school girls and placed himself as the main character in the tragedy, actually putting the blame on himself in a roundabout way! He says he was questioned by the police in the matter, by the parents of the girls, and the whole community just about, the catch is, the parents state he was not involved and don't remember his name coming up in conjunction with the incident, nor was he questioned by the police. I think that any person who sinks to this level deserves no respect at all, much less national admiration and new found wealth (yes he is very rich now)! He has thrown any amount of credibility he might have had out the window!

OK, I'll admit that that some good has come of this farce by way of the people who have rehabilitated themselves, but the ramifications of this are rather scary. Think about it this way, you have someone who has a tenuous grip on reality to begin with that finds inspiration in the words of this man who picked himself up out of the depths of hell and got his life back on track. Would it be beyond belief that quite a few of these people might even idolize this person? Then consider the effect on thier lives when they find out the man who they looked to for inspiration lied to them for the sake of getting rich, because I harbour no doubts that helping others never, even for the briefest fraction of a nano-second, entered this frauds small mind! I unfortunately think there will be some disillusioned people who will find it easier to slip back into thier old lifestyle, and with the depression of having thier ideal shattered, may end up far worse than if they had never heard of this book!

Any one who wants more info on this should check out the smoking gun website to get the full story. They list his fabrications and the steps they took to uncover the truth.

I just think that anybody who is willing to use the misery of others to garner fame and or wealth is the lowest of the low and does not deserve any respect from his fellow man.

And on a final note, it has been a while since I have actually purchased any books (they seem to make thier way around to me), and please let me know if I am of base here, but $14.95 for a paperback sounds a bit extreme! Now figure the math here, the next closest selling book in the U.S. is the latest Harry Potter, and that is a whole lotta books! Is it right for anyone to capitalize in that big of a way on other peoples misfortunes?

MyRealLoverOne 47M

1/14/2006 4:47 pm

Thanks for the tips babes!

RockPebble 70M
2493 posts
1/15/2006 12:16 pm

As fiction I'd read it, as truth it rivals an awful lot of profiles on AdultFriendFinder and most of our politicians, not worth the time or the money.

yagottalikit 50F
583 posts
1/15/2006 10:59 pm

Hinkydear ~ First, the scenario presented in the book regarding the train accident was not very similar to the accident the two girls were killed in. Actually, the only thing these two accidents had in common was that a train hit a car. Second, I think if someone turns their life around and becomes sober......then finds out it was all a lie......and falls right back into their old habits.....well, they were pretty much doomed from the get go. Staying sober takes an inner will power....nothing but you can make you go back. If reading this book gets people to TRY rehab.....even if some of them fail (and most do, anyway) well, I say it's doing good! I just don't see where this is hurting anyone!!!!

RealLove ~ you are so very welcome!

Rock ~ I guess you'd have to decide how you want to read it. It's a damn good book, either way!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

(Juan S)
2642 posts
1/16/2006 1:56 am

Book...I haven'te even been able to read oor write blogs lately! LOL..book she says... HA!!

rm_hinkawaza 53M
371 posts
1/16/2006 8:54 am

Much less spell check, Siz! LOL Good to see you again!

trust2bdiscreet2 45M

1/16/2006 10:44 pm


GGGRRRrrrr. Please dont challange me to read. I cant read. Imagine this; I read about as good as I spell. You read me post, you know how bad it is. Now thats a fucking scary public revalation.

Ok, Ok. Ill get a copy. It wil take forever though.


bardicman 51M

1/18/2006 10:39 am

Gosh.. I would think that if it is a good read then its good. If its helping people then that makes it even better.. Its kinda like the old folks talking about how bad they had it as a kid. If it helps a child appreciate what is has a little more it matter that grampa really didn't walk five miles to school. Up hill. In the snow. Bare footed?

I am not dead yet

FeistySyn 53F

1/18/2006 7:49 pm

Interesting seeing this covered here, I have followed it in the news since the story first broke on the Smoking Gun.

Sorry, gotta go with Hinky. I have a sister who has battled addictions all her life ( now in her 40s and still the black sheep and convicted family felon ) and I know exactly how she would have reacted to this book and the subsequent backlash. First, he would have been her hero, her god, the one man who understood it all and would have still been there for her through thick and thin! hooray!!!

Then, she would have been in denial... hell NO he ain't no fraud! It's all a conspiracy to make him look bad, cuz no one ever believes that you can really go straight!! .... then, eventually, anger... at him, for being a fraud... at the world in general, for letting her believe him ... and especially at herself, because that's what addicts do best.... hate themselves.

Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?

gnr8nrg 47M

1/20/2006 9:48 pm

This is the first I've ever heard of it. Fiction can help people, but they should know it's a story. That way when the truth comes out, they don't throw away all that they learned. A book I read and knew was a story was The Celestine Prophecy. I read it years later, and all I heard was the people telling me it wasn't true. It's the information that matters, not the means of communication.

yagottalikit 50F
583 posts
1/22/2006 7:03 am

Rock ~ I'm not sure I would compare a book or anyone's profile to the blatant obscenities involved in politics.

Siz ~ well, hell....then don't read this book!
Does reverse psychology still work on you men or have you wisened up to that one?

Hinkydear ~ now, now....play nice!
pssssst, I doubt that's enough to provoke him. You really are gonna have to up the ante for him to spar with ya!

Trust ~ I guess I should have been more specific and said ~ "If you want to read a good book, read this one!" But, I am flattered that you would make such a sacrifice simply because I told ya to!

Bard ~ Pretty good analogy. I don't see how this could hurt ~ I seriously doubt the book will make anyone BECOME an addict! It has prompted some to try rehab......if they fail, even if it is because he lied, they are no worse than they were before the book existed. They were addicts before and they are still addicts....I doubt anyone who kicked a habit (without the "help of a book) will suddenly spiral downward after this revelation of lies!

Feisty ~ I have honestly tried and tried to understand this point. I still cannot see how this could be harmful. I feel, quite strongly, that if someone tries to escape addiction and then decides it's not what they want because this guy made himself out to be more of an ass then he actually was.....they would have failed at recovery, anyway....book or no book! Excuses for addiction are a dime a dozen! However, some of them may not have even ATTEMPTED recovery, if not for this book. Some just might succeed. Seems like decent odds. Those who truly want to overcome addiction.... will end up doing so because they WANT to....not because they were lead to believe this was a true story. Whether this guy went through ALL that he says or not...he does a good job describing the grasp addiction has on a person. This might actually enlighten some, allow understanding of the struggles involved with rehab and the demons one must battle before, during and after.....for life.
I do hope your sister finds whatever she needs in order to reach sobriety. Everyone in her life suffers from her addiction....no one more than she. It's not easy to watch a loved one destroy themselves and cause others so much pain. Be strong and take care of YOU ~

gnr8 ~ "Fiction can help people, but they should know it's a story. That way when the truth comes out, they don't throw away all that they learned." That just might be the best argument I've heard. I still don't think it's THAT big of a deal...
The Celestine Prophecy...very provocative....it sits on my coffee table, for anyone to see and perhaps spark deep discussion. Regardless, I tend to think and reflect upon my own life and beliefs, whenever I see it.

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_hinkawaza 53M
371 posts
1/22/2006 11:08 am

I agree gnr8, you put that very well! Thank you.

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