Cheating on Oprah  

wpgfunman 42M  
32 posts
7/12/2006 7:57 pm

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Cheating on Oprah

I would first like to add a preface to this post. By writing these thoughts I am not judging anyone here, it is just my opinion on a subject. The reasons you do what you do are your own and I respect each of your choices. I am a big enough person to admit that I have slept with a few married women. I don't want anyone to think I am preaching against women who go outside their marriage for companionship. I am fine with it, these are just my thoughts on the discussion I saw. I will also admit I didn't watch the whole thing, so I apologize if I got some of it wrong.

I watched part of an episode of Oprah a couple of weeks ago on my day off. During the episode, they discussed the fact that statistically more women are cheating on their husbands than ever before. One of the reasons they said is that men are disconnecting from their partners more now than before, and that that is the reason that women are cheating.

A couple of thoughts came to my mind when I heard this. The first is, that if a man were to say that he cheated because his wife disconnected from him, society would still want to string him up so I felt that the Oprah show by promoting this arguement was setting somewhat of a doublestandard. (But hey, life is full of them isn't it?)

My more important thought was that I think that the fact that more women are cheating is actually a good sign in a way.

I personally don't think that men are less caring now than ever. I say this because I think men have always been somewhat distant from their women(for the most part, and I admit even I was probably guilty of this from time to time).

I don't think men are more out of touch, I think probably compared to men in the early 1900's we are far more sensitive to women's needs than we used to be. Although I do qualify this by saying that most men don't seem able to meet the needs of their women. I have seen this with coworkers and friends firsthand many times. It has always amazed by the confused looks my friends give me when they ask how I can easily attract a woman and I say "It is easy, you just listen and be interested in them as a person." Most of my friends sluff this off and pretend I am crazy. But the fact is that women I have met want someone to make them feel like they are important and special. That is usually all it takes.

Anyways, I am getting off my thought.

I think that the reason more women are cheating is economic. I think that if everything was truely equal between the sexes, the same number of women would be cheating as men. The sexes are different, but we are still extremely similar in many many ways. The reason that the number of women having relationships outside the marriage are increasing is that women now (for the most part) have their own careers, and have their own means to support themselves if their marriage fails. The number of women who rely completely on their mate for support are dwindling. This self reliance means that if women decide to go outside their marriage to be satisfied (and I feel everyone in life should be satisfied) they are risking less, therefore are more willing to take the adventure.

I have to say that I hope I am right about my theory, and that Oprah is wrong. Cause I want to be in a world where men and women are equal. Truely equal. I am encouraged by the thought that women are choosing to go out and making their own happiness. I would rather see a world full of strong happy women, then a world full of unsatisfied miserable women.

NSAAddict 43F

7/12/2006 8:16 pm

I like your theory, I think it makes sense. I too saw that Oprah show and got the same impressions you did. Great post

redmartinigirl 44F

7/12/2006 8:20 pm

Very nice to see a man with that kind of a desire! "I would rather see a world full of strong happy women, then a world full of unsatisfied miserable women." I have hope that we're getting to be that kind of a world

LadytoPleaseYou 65F
5447 posts
7/12/2006 8:30 pm

I don't know about statistics. How do they come up with them anyway? What interested me in your post was your answer to the question of how easily you (or any man that knows anything about a woman) can attract a woman. Your answer is so true. Everyone want the attention of someone else. Everyone needs someone to listen to them and really care about what they say. When I was married the only opinion I was allowed to voice was his. Then a male family friend started coming around a lot after his wife left him and he actually listened to me and cared about what I had to say. No, I didn't cheat on hubby. I divorced him. That one man made me realize that I was actually a person apart from hubby. After 15 years living on the ass end of a dictatorship I finally got nerve enough to file for divorce. Been happily divorced for almost 20 years now. He's been married twice more and divorced for much the same reasons as I divorced him.

PENIS CHARMING....where are you?

barbiebunny 37F
5597 posts
7/12/2006 8:55 pm

Oprah has issues

Its good to be...ME

FunFlirty4u 47F

7/14/2006 6:33 am

I do believe its right to be a happier person.

nething4me2 51F
229 posts
8/8/2006 5:21 am

I think both you and Oprah are over-simplifying the reasons a woman cheats. It has less to do with economic risk than with emotional distance in my opinion but I think it has less to do with either of those things than other factors, such as boredom (variety is the spice of life), curiosity, excitement of maybe getting caught, insecurity, nature itself (no wild animal has one mate for life and in fact, during their reproductive years it is essential to have different mates for each litter) and so on. I truly believe that a woman's reasons for cheating are as individual as the women themselves and trying to generalize into one or two statements is almost irresponsible on Oprah's part.

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