But I do...  

wondertwins2006 44F/39F
156 posts
8/3/2006 12:16 am

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8/6/2006 1:28 am

But I do...

"Mama, NOW do you love my daddy?" My youngest asked me that question last night. I know what it means. I know the reasons behind it. Having no answer that would satisfy a 3 yr old, I feigned sleep. Sigh.

She wouldn't understand the truth. "Daddy wasn't good to us, baby. He kidnapped y'all and left messages on my voicemail saying, 'I have DCS in my house. What am I supposed to tell them as you're not answering your phone? That YOU aren't capapable of being a mom? You'd better call me back.' 'You'll never see your fucking kids again.' Daddy threw us out of the house in the middle of the night in knee deep snow. We can't live like that, lil bit. That's not the way you treat someone you love. I know you miss Daddy and home and Grandma and Grandpa... but we couldn't stay. It hurt too much." Sigh

At that age, Daddy is amazing. A Superhero who chases away monsters and buys ice cream and lets you play in the mud in your best clothes... so... I leave those questions unanswered... but...

rm_dosrev 40M
1991 posts
8/3/2006 2:26 am

Rough situation. Theres no good answer for a young child. I'd say honesty is always the best policy, but only so far with one so young. However since I have no children I'm going to shut the heck up and not give out any advice.

"Enough of this palaver, lets get the show on the road!"
"The best thing about a day like that is that it can't get any worse. It was a bad day AND a Monday. The rest of the week has to be better." - Hotandsteamygirl

goodguysneedit2 57M

8/3/2006 3:59 pm

I agree...very tough situation. I suppose there must be a way of pleasantly not telling the truth, while not building any hope towards re-uniting.

If she has a good impression of Daddy, that's probably a good thing for her. Always remember you're the rock.

JustACluelessGuy 57M

8/5/2006 5:25 pm

although you live in the same house, she lives in a totally different world than you. i think she was looking for a yes and a feeling it was ok for her to love her daddy without hurting you. she's just trying to figure it all out.

you know all that, don't you? but it doesn't make it any easier for you. hang in there, she'll love snd appreciate you even more for the way you are handling this now.

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