Is it me  

wntngmore4us2 48M/47F
13 posts
4/28/2006 11:51 am

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Is it me

Need some help here. Is it just me or do others of you have feelings of jealousy every once and a while just come over you for no apparent reason. This past Wednesday is a good example. My wife helped a fellow AdultFriendFinder member move, no problem. He came over for supper again no prob. We went at it for 3 hours no problem. Then when the three of us went to "bed " for sleep it started. My bedtime routine busted up. Then I woke up to hear moans of pleasure from my wife. Without thinking it happened I just assumed they were going at it without trying to include me. Which is why we are here in the first place. So I am just wondering has this happened to anyone else? Has anyone had the same reaction or am I just loosing my mind? I have never had a problem with her showing off (I encourage it), or getting fucked by others, until now.

OakCreekCouple2 59M/40F

5/23/2006 7:45 am

Hello we have chatted a few times on messenger, I just wanted to comment on this issue a little. I think you and your wife need to set some rules of engagement between the two of you all. It sounds as if, she is playing without you, and as far as I would be concerned, I don't think that I would allow anyone to "sleep over" anyways. But that is your decision I guess. But yeah I would feel the same way, if I were you, waking up in the middle of the nite to the sounds of your wife be pleasured by another man, without you participating. Later, John.

Lotsoffantasies 47M/49F

5/30/2006 2:20 pm

We have found ourselves in sort of similar situations from time to time. My wife feeling like what she was doing was well within our boundries, and me for some reason, feeling that a line had been crossed. In these instances, we would just talk about it afterwards and find some common ground. In every instance though, the one thing that it always seemed to boil down to was that it was the other person/couple that either she or I really had the issue with. In the end what we have found works the best for us is that we basically have slightly modified rules for each couple/individual that we decide to play with depending on our level of comfort with them. I never want to do anything to make my wife feel inhibited or that she can't enjoy herself, but with some people the leash (so to speak) needs to be a little shorter just because I am not 100% comfortable with them. With our VERY close lifestyle friends, she has complete freedom, even if I am not around at the time, because I know without a doubt that I am invited and would be included if I could physically get there, but for some reason the schedule doesn't allow it. And in return, she has given me the same type of freedom. We don't use it often (hardly ever actually), and like I said the people that we would allow it to happen with are extremely close to us, and total trust has already been established. Hope this helps a little...but if nothing else, at least it is another perspective and something to think about.

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