I'm OK with it...but just so you know...  

willudomeharder 40F
194 posts
6/8/2006 7:44 am

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6/11/2006 7:57 pm

I'm OK with it...but just so you know...

OK - I have to get this off my chest. I seriously doubt that the people I WANT to read this ever will (namely my sisters)...but at least I will have vented in some way. I was at my eldest sister's wedding last weekend, and during the reception...my other sister told me she was pregnant. Wonderful...great...I'm very excited to be an aunt again. Then she started talking about when would be the best time to have the shower...blah blah blah

It reminded me of an episode of "Sex and the City" where Carrie goes to a friend's child's birthday party. They ask her to remove her (very expensive) shoes at the door. She does, and when she returns after the party - her $475.00 shoes are gone. The hostess assures her that they'll turn up..well they don't and Carrie eventually ends up asking her for re-imbursement. After hearing how much it would cost to replace the shoes, the "friend" refuses to pay it - basically telling Carrie that she has more important things to use her money on, and that Carrie's shoe choices were impractical. Carrie the goes home and figures up all of the gifts she has bought...showers and parties she's attended...and all the money she has spent celebrating events in other people's lives. Because she was un-married and didn't have any children...it kind of struck her as being unfair, so she decided to do something about it. Anyway...Carrie sent this "friend" of hers an psuedo-invitation to her wedding (where she was marrying herself)...told her where she was registered at...and the only thing she was registered for was the expensive pair of shoes. So, she eventually got her shoes replaced. All ends well.

So...my point is (and I do have one) I am unmarried. I don't have any children. I graduated from college 6 years ago. Yet...in the past three months alone I have spend over a thousand dollars for:

nephew's birthday (maybe $50.00),
niece's birthday (close to $75.00),
sister's bridal shower ($200.00),
sister's engagement party ($125.00),
sister's bachelorette party ($100.00),
sister's wedding ($350.00 including the dress),
other sister's graduation party ($50.00),
brother's graduation ($50.00),
dad's birthday ($80.00),
and a baby shower for my best friend (around $150.00).

Now, please understand..I love each and every one of these people very very much, and I am glad to celebrate these moments in their lives. I know how lucky I am to have such a great family and group of friends.

It was just that...at the wedding, I really was thinking about how nice it will be for a couple months to not have to be busy every weekend...no birthday parties...no parties of any kind...no gift shopping.....and then I find out I'm in charge of the baby shower. I am very happy to do it (because I throw AWESOME parties)...but the reason she asked me - I think - had something to do with "you're not married, don't have nay kids...what else could you possibly have going on?" There is a name for discrimination against single child-less people...i just can't think of what it is.

I don't know....it just gets frustrating after a while. ((((((((((((sigh))))))))))))))

Sweetpickles69 48F

6/8/2006 10:16 am

I'm about in the same boat! Funny how people think us single people have nothing better to do!



ezroller46526 43M

6/9/2006 3:54 pm

Just had to laugh. My oldest sister would totally agree with you.

rm_ladeux3 46M/45F
16 posts
6/11/2006 8:49 am

as dinks, we agree with you that discrimination against single (or married) child-free people is common. let's lobby for a plan that can get us maternity leave for NOT having kids? just take a deep breath, watch your credit card balance, and wedding season will soon be over (for this year)

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