How and Why Did I Get ON AFF ????  

willgivesex4U 65F
57 posts
1/29/2006 1:21 am

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11/5/2007 12:03 am

How and Why Did I Get ON AFF ????


Interesting Question. I was still married. I am now divorced for a few months over 1 year. I was on the UDATE site and meeting some guys. My husband worked 2nd shift and I was laid off, so I could do what I wanted. And I did. Then one day, AdultFriendFinder appeared on my screen. I had never heard of it before. I took a look and was shocked at what I found. Men and women naked or not and looking for whoever they needed. I read some profiles because I was able to join for 1 week. A sex site. And, me on a sex site. I didn't know what to do. I filled out a profile. Not the one I have now. And I waited. Had enough to do just reading profiles. Amazing. Then the emails came rolling in. And, omg, men wanted to talk to me, and meet me, and have sex with me. And I hadn't even a picture out there or even written to them before. It was an eye opening experience for me. I did meet men. Things worked out well. I did get divorced. We were headed there anyway or UDATE and AdultFriendFinder wouldn't have happened for me. I have been on AdultFriendFinder for 2 years now. Have met wonderful and interesting men. Plus, a few I shouldn't have. But I wasn't hurt or anything. AdultFriendFinder has opened up an entirely new perspective for me. There is one consistent theme for the married men looking for sex on this site and it is that they get little or none at home and don't want to change their lives at home. So basically, they cheat. Even men with girlfriends choose to look for women because they do not get enough sex but do not want to change their relationship with their girlfriend. And the single men just want sex sex sex. Another thing. Some men say they are over sexed. So they need more than their woman can provide. This is what I hear. But there are good men on here. And by that I mean, the kind you would want a one on one lasting relationship with. I have received so many emails and winks and hotlist entries that it is truly amazing. There is no way that I could meet all the men that have contacted me in one manner or another. So I have to do analysis on them. And I do. If I see the gentleman, it's a result of intense scrutiny. OK, sometimes blind lust. But very infrequently. And yes, women love sex. If only men would not critisize their weight or their looks, they might get more at home. Criticism breeds contempt and the chastity belt goes on. Relationship issues do the same thing. Talk to each other. Resolve them. You are partners for goodness sake. Then there would be sex at home. Men and women need to help with chores around the house. Since frequently both husband and wife are working. Talk to each other. Go on dates. Then have sex. And play with sex. It not only feels good. It's fun. I have met many men from AdultFriendFinder in the past two years. Many repeats. IT has been enjoyable. But one thing....remember to be safe in an unsafe world.

AAntonino 61M  
60 posts
7/9/2006 6:11 am

OOOhhh how true... how very very true.


USMARSH 72M

5/2/2007 12:42 pm

I think I was one of those "guys" on "UDATE"..I use to be on there


rm_intlwarrior 63M
1 post
5/5/2007 7:17 pm

Kathy, besides being a good writer, you are very insightful. And the point of view is something most of us men dont get. Thanks for the pic in the profile (Wow!) and the advice.


999966691 55M

10/19/2007 1:02 am


rm_Tinglely2 67M
22 posts
10/21/2007 10:00 pm

Wanting sex everyday is more my style.


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