Why I cheat  

widowsaddiction 48F
166 posts
3/29/2006 10:29 pm

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3/30/2006 6:22 pm

Why I cheat

In the last few years, I have done some real soul searching as to why I cheat. I have made some very enlightening discoveries. By no means am I saying that I am right in cheating, believe that as fact.

I cheat because I don't get the attention that I want....no....the attention I DESERVE from my husband. We have a comfortable life, so I don't bitch....I just take care of myself. He still breaks my heart though. It just hurts.

I cheat because I always find myself in second place....be it love, attention or recognition, and somehow, for just a few moments in time, when I cheat, I feel like I matter to someone, like I am finally coming in first.

I cheat because neither my husband nor my lover recognize what a gem I am. That's their problem.

It's time for me to recognize myself for who I am...a strong, beautiful, funny, articulate, and intelligent force to be reckoned with.

I'll let you know when I get that through my head. Don't hold your breath.

rm_parttime1945 73M

3/30/2006 12:05 am

Hi Widow,,,,I know where your coming from..My wife hasn't fucked me in about 10 years or so..I may be older but, Hell, I ain't ancient..I still get good hard Rod-ons and still fire a good load..And I still need to get serviced..So when one of my lady friends and I make a date, I feel about as guilty as having a check-up by my Doc,who also is a female..By the way, my friends are all from 10 to 30 years younger than I......

rm_PDXFlyer231 65M
11 posts
3/30/2006 12:43 am

when I was married, I cheated for many of the same reasons. I wanted to feel wanted, special, attractive and the risk of it all was somewhat of a turn on.

However, as I've aged and mellowed, my needs are filled by the simpler things. Maybe it's because I am now confident in who I am that I don't need to try and get that validation from others. Obviously being with someone who can add those values into my life makes for a very peaceful relationship.

Jealousy can be a very dangerous thing. It can eat the person (the one who's jealous) alive and pretty soon all that confidence and inner beauty starts to decompose. Just be careful what you do with all that resentment. It can be used constructively.


timberwolf6972 45M

3/30/2006 8:39 am

Hi there, I love your widow pics! I cheated when I was married cause I didn't feel appreciated and didn't get alot of attention. I got really tired of her criticism, bitching and telling me that I wasn't shit for a husband or father. I eventually found people that actually gave me what I needed so one day I came home from work, packed my shit and walked out. I will be divorced 2 years on 04/14 of this year. {=}

widowsaddiction 48F

3/30/2006 6:10 pm

Parttime....I'm glad to hear you made a decision to make your life better. I just wish I could get to the point where I don't feel guilty. I think I'm getting there.

Flyer....This really made me stop and reflect. I'm not done, but when I am, I will respond directly to you. Thank you!

Wolf....Damn, you're fine. So your divorce is fairly recent. Do you think it was the right decision to make....still?? I have to tell you....I love your profile, and I am not kidding when I say that you and I are as close to being twins as possible. How do you feel about incest? HA! Thanks for your comments.

Thanks to all of you!

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