wickedeasy 68F  
17287 posts
4/29/2006 7:41 am

this last week i have been surrounded by death. one of my dear friends lost his father and i drove to the funeral - needed to see his eyes and know he was okay - he is - strong and clear and tending to his son.

one of my guests at shelter died in his sleep and there is no one to claim this 80 year old man who had such pride and such a strong spirit. the shelter will claim him and honor him for what he did, for how he chose at the age of 76 to get clean and sober. to pick up the pieces fo his life and make a last stand that he could look at with pride.

one of my best galpals is home this weekend after spending a month with her sister who is dying of cancer and she's headed back next week - i am impressed by her srength and know that her sister is in the best of hand.

and now, as i age, i look at my Mom and my Aunties and know that there will be more to face in the near future. losing someone you love is always hard, and yet i find i am curiously at peace with this.

and it is spring and life abounds.

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

rm_PeanutJackie 37F
1286 posts
4/29/2006 9:24 am

I am so sorry to read all this. That is great that your shelter is claiming him and honoring him. I was back in Wisconsin for 12 days not long ago. The main reason for my visit was to visit family and friends, but right before I came to visit, my mom's boyfriends mom passed away from lung cancer which ended up spreading to her brain. Man she was one strong woman. Ended up passing away on a Sunday while her family was in church. Kinda freaky!

I looked at my mom while I was there and realized I don't know what I would do if she weren't here. We are so very close and she's basically my best friend. We are much more like sisters than mother/daughter. I know that one day I must face the reality of her not being here anymore, and I pray daily that when that time comes that she doesn't suffer. I think that would kill ME. I think death is a horrible thing. I know it sounds weird, but I'm scared to death of dying. Not waking up one day. Things like that. *shrug* But I know I'll see everyone again, and like you, it kind of gives me peace.

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

wickedeasy replies on 4/29/2006 10:17 am:
h PJ - i know exactly what you mean

the world will be a darker place without my mom in it

tight hugs

GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
4/29/2006 9:37 am

Powerful post. The part about the homeless man is impressive.

thank you for sharing, njoy spring

wickedeasy replies on 4/29/2006 10:16 am:
he was impressive. smiles

and he never stopped helping, until the night he passed over. he made dinner for folks in the building who couldn't cook for themselves.

thank you

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
4/29/2006 12:00 pm


Your respect and love for the man in your shelter......outstanding.

Now you know why lady & I love you so damn much, ya pain in de azz LOL


wickedeasy replies on 4/29/2006 1:10 pm:
you know you love me for my filfthy mind - grins

waerlookin4fun 51M/47F

4/29/2006 4:22 pm

I am so glad that your shelter is going to honor that 80 year old gentleman, that's such a wonderful thing. Death is a very difficult part of life and no one goes through life without dealing with it.

wickedeasy replies on 4/29/2006 5:27 pm:
standing witness is sometimes all that one can do

John will have his witnesses

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