A lesson on being terse and brusque, there is a difference?  

whineyblonde0r 55F
287 posts
4/25/2006 6:46 pm
A lesson on being terse and brusque, there is a difference?


Main Entry: terse
Pronunciation: 't&rs
Function: adjective
Inflected Form(s): ters搪r; ters搪st
Etymology: Latin tersus clean, neat, from past participle of tergEre to wipe off
1 : smoothly elegant : POLISHED
2 : devoid of superfluity a terse summary; also : SHORT, BRUSQUE dismissed me with a terse "no"
synonym see CONCISE
Main Entry: brusque
Variant(s): also brusk /'br&sk/
Function: adjective
Etymology: French brusque, from Italian brusco, from Medieval Latin bruscus butcher's-broom (plant with bristly twigs)
1 : markedly short and abrupt
2 : blunt in manner or speech often to the point of ungracious harshness

Reacting to a dissapointing announcement..i was said to be terse. Now I'm wondering if there is a difference in terse and brusque...they are classified as the same..but..I think i was brusque. I was markedly short...it wasnt terse...as defined...polished..clean to the point...I suppose it was more brusque because I was ungratious, not neccesarily harsh about it..I just couldnt think of a thing to say..what can you say to something that knocks the wind out of your sails? Deflates your high spirited mood...days of planning? There is no polished, clean way to verbalize that...Is there? I think I need to work on my phone skills and develope a polished clean approach to handling dissapointing news via the phone...it could come in handy in the future..

GuyWhoListens2u 57M
325 posts
4/26/2006 8:38 am

Blonde,

From your writing I don't see ‘terse’, but even if that was the case I would say being ‘terse’ beats ‘evasive’ or ‘deceptive’ easily. The openness I see shows an honest heart. There is nothing wrong with that.


iawriter64 54M
313 posts
4/26/2006 12:19 pm

Terse and brusque are synonyms, true. But I've always interpreted terse as meaning short and concise, sometimes in a good manner, whereas the I think connotation of brusque is more of an short expression of a negative attitude, carrying more emotion.

"Barely," was the terse reply.

"he was brusque almost to the point of rudeness"

So in my opinion, it's probably better to be terse than brusque.


whineyblonde0r 55F
140 posts
4/26/2006 1:15 pm

Guy, My heart is totally honest. Living thru life's ups and downs and engaging in relationships does tarnish it, but doesnt leave it unable to be shined up occasionally to take out and treasure. I do not think I was terse in the mentioned conversation, but it was one of those deal breaker moments and one can not explain how your mind stops suddenly. Even someone so able to verbalize thoughts fairly well, has those moments of silence that can be misconstrued as terse..brusque..or maybe...a better term..speechless....which sometimes is better than putting a foot in your mouth and risking the rest of your vulerabilities be exposed....ah...back to thoughts of..do people hide and seek and expect not to be tagged occasionally. Your It!...


whineyblonde0r 55F
140 posts
4/26/2006 1:32 pm

iawriter, thank you for commenting. I am physically "short", it could mean that if taken in that context? concise..normally. Though I see saw occasionally as my mind drifts in and out of good, bad and ugly? depending on the situational buttons being pushed.I am "barely" able to speak in this mentioned conversation..but I never uttered that word.There was admittedly emotion being swallowed that was restricting my throat and I was in a public place not great for a conversation other than a short expression, in a non-negative manner.I do know I'm not rude to anyone. But, I'll take your affirmation that I was better to be terse and not brusque in that situation. I suppose it could be that the two words are like a little bit pregnant?..


iawriter64 54M
313 posts
4/26/2006 8:38 pm

    Quoting whineyblonde0r:
    iawriter, thank you for commenting. I am physically "short", it could mean that if taken in that context? concise..normally. Though I see saw occasionally as my mind drifts in and out of good, bad and ugly? depending on the situational buttons being pushed.I am "barely" able to speak in this mentioned conversation..but I never uttered that word.There was admittedly emotion being swallowed that was restricting my throat and I was in a public place not great for a conversation other than a short expression, in a non-negative manner.I do know I'm not rude to anyone. But, I'll take your affirmation that I was better to be terse and not brusque in that situation. I suppose it could be that the two words are like a little bit pregnant?..
Sounds like you handled the situation the best you could. I deal with people who sometimes say too much and later regret it. Not sure if a person can be physically described as terse- petite??


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