Suggestions from the married woman...  

whathusband 45F
216 posts
4/17/2006 10:20 am

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Suggestions from the married woman...

I thought I'd bring this one back for a glance into Blogs of the past...

Today is just one of those boring rainy days that make me sit at my desk and stare aimlessly out the window. I was thinking back to some of the things I've done over the last year or so, and that brought me here.
I can say that I speak from experience here, so I'm not just babbling on about something I know nothing about.
I had this conversation with a friend of mine about this whole lifestyle of multiple partners, same sex encounters and what have you. One of the biggest things we came up with was simple. "Don't fall in love with me." It's not about love or forever, it's all about sex and doing what feels good. I am happily married, I'm not going to fall in love with you or leave him, so if you're the fall in love type, please don't stop here. Keep moving on, there is someone out there for you, but it's not me. I'm not looking for a husband, I have one, I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I don't need one. If we become friends, that's okay, you can never have too many of those. Just don't get too attached to me, because I will move on.
Yes, this did happen to me once. From what I felt about it, it was an okay time, nothing to write home about, but I guess it was different for him. He would call, email, IM every day and ask when we could get together again. After about 2 weeks of this, I asked him to "please just leave me alone. you knew i was married, and I wasn't looking for anything serious." Then he spilled it. "But I can't just leave you alone. I am in love with you. I want you to leave him and come with me." Talk about your uncomfortable silence. I'm not trying to say that I am all that great, I'm just saying that it can happen to anyone.
So, just go into your encounters with your eyes open and know the limits before it's too late. If you are 2 single people, then good luck, have fun, be safe. If one or both of you are married, be careful, tread lightly, and enjoy it for what it is, pure, physical pleasure.
Hopefully I didn't bore you to tears with this one. Thanks for reading!

rappahannock_man 63M
1102 posts
4/17/2006 11:20 am

You can be crystal clear about it -- "Don't fall in love with me!" -- and it will still happen....

Phineas2005 49M
854 posts
4/17/2006 7:38 pm

Please What!, I know that it is hard, but I'm married, you are married please, please, do not fall in love with me.

But you can always call me a friend.

You know were to get me for those boring raining days on me.

Luva ya,


whathusband replies on 4/18/2006 5:11 am:
Remember Phin, you're too OLD!!! lmao!!

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