So Who Are The Bloggers on This Friendly Site?  

warmandsexy52 66M
7186 posts
5/13/2006 7:17 am

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So Who Are The Bloggers on This Friendly Site?

So who are the people out there in Blogland, writing all these posts and making all these comments?

I carried out an analysis of 524 bloggers in each of two categories, making a total sample of 1048:

1. New Posts

2. Regular Bloggers ‒ these were bloggers who had had 20 or more recent comments

1. New Posts

There were more new posts from men (48 percent) than there were from women (42 percent) and a relatively small proportion from couples (10 percent). However, bearing in mind that men outnumber women 10:1 in the UK and 8:1 in the USA and Canada (all preferences) women are far more likely to become bloggers than men. Approximately 10 percent of all members are couples and this ratio appears in the blogs too.

The average age of a male blogger is 38 years, female blogger 36 years and couples 41 years. Most bloggers of both sexes were between the ages of 25 and 45 years (65 percent of men and 74 percent of women). There were almost twice as many male bloggers over the age of 45 as there were female bloggers. Blogging couples covered a wider age range than each of the single sexes with a more even spread from 25 to 55 years.

2. Regular Bloggers

There were significantly more regular female bloggers (65 percent) than there were males (29 percent) with only a small minority (7 percent) being couples. Young male bloggers (18-25 years old) had the largest drop-off rate, dropping from 5 percent to only 1 percent, while the proportion of young female bloggers more than doubled (4 percent to 9 percent). Although the proportion of bloggers between the ages of 25 and 45 years was roughly the same as before (74 percent of men and 72 percent of women) there were more than twice as many women as men, as there were also in the over 45 age group.

The average age of male bloggers had risen to 40, partly because of the younger male bloggers not continuing, female bloggers 37 and couples 39. There are relatively few bloggers of both sexes over the age of 60, although a desire to pretend to be 94 was not just limited to Goddess of The Dawn.

It seems that most bloggers are in early middle age, with persistent bloggers more likely to be women than men. It may well be, and there is some evidence in the contents of the posts to support this view, that a number of younger men use a post rather like an open e-mail, get a limited or ambiguous response and give up.

The gender ratio came as a surprise when I wrote a previous post So You Want To Know What We Blog About. I did expect more men to be involved in blogging, as it is such an effective and open way of communicating with others, and it raises questions about how each sex actually uses this site, although the relatively small number of active bloggers set against the number of active AdultFriendFinder members has to be borne in mind.

What I don’t understand is the proportion of visitors who visit blogs who do not write anything at all and what proportion of all readers they represent.

So why is it that what seems like almost half the men who write a post don't continue to do so?

No wicked jokes about men's literacy ..... please!

SweetDarlinAngel 41F
2996 posts
5/15/2006 8:23 am

Warm ... your post is thought provoking, but I think perhaps hormones have me befuddled because I am at a complete loss of words for the time you must have put into the research, your reasoning behind and what to say to it. I guess, I should say nothing, but I've been doing that lot lately, so I'll just babble instead, and since you know me so well, you'll just shake your head in amuzement and ignore me. *giggles*


warmandsexy52 replies on 5/21/2006 3:20 am:
Angel darling, you can write anything on my blog at any time and I will always love it!

Especially when you giggle!

warm xx

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
5/15/2006 1:15 am

when i did my post screaming at people to comment instead of just reading it,quite a few guys said they didn't have ay thing to say and there comments is not worthy

All comment and posts are worthy so long as its not a
fuck me now........
email me..........
my messinger is.....
all extensions of there profiles.

I'm a

i'm here to stay

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/21/2006 2:52 am:
I totally agree, Papy.

warm xx

ArtisticTwist75 42F
2505 posts
5/14/2006 11:27 am

Warm - I got lost in the math... I think there are just so many men it's easy for them to feel lost in the masses and give up. I also know I am much less likely to read them if there is a picture of their member as opposed to some other body part like their hand, back... whatever. It would benefit them greatly, in my opinion, to change their pic.


warmandsexy52 replies on 5/21/2006 2:33 am:
It is disconcerting for a man when he discovers the stark realities of sending countless e-mails and being ignored or rejected. If the sole interest is "to get pussy" they soon give up.

I've come across many women who are unimpressed by cockshots, but being seen as a "sex site" many men feel that they can show off their worthy members to what they believe will be great effect. Penis size is definitely a bit of a hang up with many men.

I think at the core of it all is the differences between male and female discourse and how well they understand each other, or are willing to do so. There is amongst many men the failure to register that we engage with our minds well before we do so with our groins, which is of course a wider social issue in itself (why do more men , for example).

The math never matters, but the story it tells invariably does.

warm xx

moonfire2u 71F
2602 posts
5/14/2006 5:12 am

I believe that a lot of new guys blog thinking they are going to get chicks and then stop because of no response...I think women have traditionally been more open in expressing their thoughts and their have not...for whatever reason...maybe because of what people will think of them...many are not articulate in how they express themselves...writing is hard for a lot of people...and not everyone are good post as always is thought provoking...

kind thoughts,

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/21/2006 1:06 am:
Thank you for your kind words, Moonfire. We've seen how the sexual revolution has changed our attitudes towards sex and sexuality, with all its ups and downs, chaos and confusion, from the 1960s to the present day. But like all transitions in the way in which people see the world the changes don't happen all at once.

We have recreational sex now, but it's a common male misconception that this means they are like predators on the Serengeti and women are like prey to be taken, and little credit is given towards women as equally, if not more, sentient beings more capable of discriminating a choice than they are. The gender ratio on this friendly site compounds things further. It's as if, I sometimes think, this part of the sexual revolution has yet to happen (or maybe there never was a sexual revolution - only part of a sexual evolution).

The way in which we relate sexually is an extension of our powers of communicating. It is the most intimate form of communication there is. So the failure of many men to communicate exactly who they are is all too real, and yes, I agree with you, is a reason why so many men do not take the opportunity of blogging.

And the problems with males not engaging with literacy to the same level as females goes right the way back to elementary school, so there is no quick fix.

It's an interesting phenomenon, but in a world of increasing mass communication I'm a little saddened by the failure of my own sex to register certain home truths.

warm xx

sideline1968 49F

5/13/2006 8:05 pm

I had to encourage [blog coathanger1] to start his own blog AND keep it going. His problem? He didn't think he would have anything worth posting. I had to do a lot of talking to make him believe that ..

a. The more he blogged the more his sense of humor would start to show.
b. The more he blogged the more his readership and comments would grow.
c. He would seem more trustworthy (referring here to what [blog mm0206] said) to the reading females.

and last but not least ...

d. His typing skills would improve! lol

Just our personal take on getting a male to start blogging.

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/21/2006 12:43 am:
I do like case studies and it looks like you have a success story here.

I even enjoyed browsing [blog coathanger1]'s blog and left a couple of comments.

Personally, I would have left this site long ago if it wasn't for the blogging. And to think of all the friends I would have missed.

Keep your boytoy blogging. It looks as though he's well into it now.

warm xx

rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
5/13/2006 2:54 pm

    Quoting rm_mm0206:
    I have scanned the pics, which is where you can make the final determinate decision, and I have to say, because I only looked at the men,.... the age they put on their profile is not always their true age.
    I have had several admit this to me.
    So I am sure that there possibly are women doing the same.

    Bloggers on the other hand... seem on the whole will tell their true age, with the exception of those that go to the extreme (like GOTD).

    whats up with that?
    are bloggers more truthful because......
    we can see most of them
    they are relating age defining incidents.
    they want to be seen as truthful and therefore hope we will accept what they posts as truths.

    Have a great day warm
There are a lot of bloggers that don't use the correct age and not all are as extreme as GotD.

I think the guys throw out the initial "I'm horny" post and when they don't get laid from it they give it up.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/20/2006 1:04 pm:
Spot on Daphne! I totally agree. Love your bumper stickers! .... ....... warm xx

goodatpoetry2 68M
16569 posts
5/13/2006 11:10 am

The men probably give up blogging because of the lack of responses.
What may cause this, is that men most likely only respond to female blogs in fear of being thought gay. And there are SO many more men, than women. So, the amount of responses a guy gets is much less than a woman. Maybe? Also, men like to flirt a little in their responses, so...why respond to guy blogs? If the proportions on this site were the same for men and women, I think you would find everything about equal.
Sometimes I respond, and sometimes I don't. It depends on many things. How much time I have verses how interesting or relevant I found the post is probably the #1 reason. Time is a big factor for me. And I'm a s-l-o-w one finger typer, to boot. Sometimes you just have nothing to say. Sometimes you know that what you have to say wouldn't be appreciated. And sometimes you can TELL that the blogger has their own "group", and pretty much ignores new-comers.
Lots of reasons, really. But that's just me. I'm sure others have other reasons.
PS. Why'd you delete the other post? I thought it was cute!

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/20/2006 12:18 pm:
I tend to agree with you. Having had no responses from e-mails a number of men post a "come-on" message with a view that it's like a mass e-mail. I looked at posts in some special interest groups and it was more obvious there, but the intention is the same. Such posts are of little real interest and are unlikely to yield a result, so the member gives up and returns to e-mails, or chatrooms, or special interest groups.

Another kind of man uses the blog as a forum to air what a crappy place the site is, that everyone's a fake and basically a lot of negative stuff that no one wants to read. So there are few if any responses and they give up.

In truth, to my mind, is that the friendships that grow and develop here are special, but they are friendships first and seeking that to my mind is the prime motivation. Then like all friendships each develops in its own unique way, with its own narrative, set of interactions and growing relationships. These things take time and there is a naturalness to it.

Maybe we all form kinda loose groups through the way we comment and reciprocate, knowing we can't do so to everyone. I've often wondered about that and am pleasantly surprised when someone new turns up. By the same token I place the odd comment on a "stranger's" blog if it catches my interest enough.

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/20/2006 12:24 pm:
Thank you for asking about the other post. I have reinstated it as Things That Make a Man Well Proud

wickedeasy 68F  
31329 posts
5/13/2006 10:21 am

two things -

1.i found this oddly intriguing but wonders why you decided to do it
2.i read a number of blogs daily and most often i do not comment, especially on those blogs that capture huge response - i often comment on those without a large readership - in part to encourage them to continue adding their voice to the mix

oops - did i say two - i meant three

3.i find that the male blogs are more well written -sorry ladies- and more universal in theme

shrugs -

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/20/2006 6:30 am:
1. I decided to do it because I found it oddly intriguing and I suspected no one else would ask those questions.

2. I do like to return comments on people's blogs, but when I'm working I soon fall behind. But I also like to comment on someone new, or someone I haven't visited for a long time.

3. Hmmmmmm! That's a hard one. There are some great blogs from both genders. I think there are stylistic and content differences and women in my view write erotica better than men. I like the way ladies support each other more in their blogs on the whole than men do, but that's another point.

Thank you - very thought-provoking.

warm xx

rm_mm0206 70F
7767 posts
5/13/2006 9:13 am

I have scanned the pics, which is where you can make the final determinate decision, and I have to say, because I only looked at the men,.... the age they put on their profile is not always their true age.
I have had several admit this to me.
So I am sure that there possibly are women doing the same.

Bloggers on the other hand... seem on the whole will tell their true age, with the exception of those that go to the extreme (like GOTD).

whats up with that?
are bloggers more truthful because......
we can see most of them
they are relating age defining incidents.
they want to be seen as truthful and therefore hope we will accept what they posts as truths.

Have a great day warm

warmandsexy52 replies on 5/20/2006 4:59 am:
I'm sure you're right m. An interest in sex is a given, so the focus swings onto how we relate and it is so difficult to sustain a lie over a period of time, so we are more open........ ......... warm xx

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