Can We be Ourselves?  

volcanoinu23 54M
272 posts
3/21/2006 10:31 am

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Can We be Ourselves?

The question I have here is can we ever be ourselves and have success on AdultFriendFinder? I have been around AdultFriendFinder for just about a year now and last summer my confidence was soaring. I had five first dates that ended up in sex. I am now working on a five month long drought that has frustrated the bejeeses out of me. In the last month or so, I have met two outstanding women that don't want to have anything to do with me for vastly different reasons.

One wouldn't go beyond chatting because I stated in my profile that I would meet with a married woman. Throw honesty out the door. If we would have met, that would have never come up and I bet we would have laughed and loved together as great friends. As it doesn't!

Finally, I admit it! I am a nice guy. It is a curse that I have lived with all my life. I met a gorgeous woman last week and we she won't have anything to do with me for the following reasons.

I am very attracted to you emotionally. I also think you are an attractive man. But I have instincts where men are concerned (perhaps faulty!) and I felt I had to withdraw the other day. Not because of anything you did at all.... it was the combination of my emotional state and my reaction to meeting you.

I think you are the sort of man I fall in love with-- not the sort of man I have a casual fling with and forget. Our brains are BOTH engaged. I don't think it would be possible for us to have a casual thing together, meeting once every month or something for a few hours. I just don't.

Are we having fun yet? I know there is more, but I could never get it out of her.

Now in my frustration, I quickly terminated discussions with a breed of woman that I term "man-haters". Those are the ones that had a bad or a string of bad relationships and are suspicious of everything I do or say. Nix to that. I am through trying to gain the trust of a woman. Meet me, find out who I am and let's get on with life or not. I am a sexual beast and desire the company of a her sexual best!

With that all spoken, as far as long term relationships are concerned, for the next two years I am unobtainable. A friendship, meeting once or twice a week; sure and should that last two years, we can talk further. is all out there. That is more of who I am. But if I am myself, will I have success in the jungle that is AdultFriendFinder?

volcanoinu23 54M

3/21/2006 3:21 pm

The two years has more to do with my current job than anything else. They amount of hours I work and now a single dad makes serious realtionships just about impossible. Hell it is hard enough just to find an occasional friend! In two years, I will have to change jobs and maybe the logistics won't be so nuts!

themisskrissy 57F
2302 posts
3/21/2006 8:47 pm


i said in a previous post, woman #1 is a flake, and you don't need that kind of headache..
and maybe, just maybe woman #2 is being honest, in which case it is BETTER to not get into it any further.. don'tcha think?

i took me way more than 2 years to find suitable bed buds..(right chemistry and attitude) and 8 yrs after my marriage ended to find someone i would consider getting serious with..

keep looking, it is possible.. and you never know..
a positive attitude never hurt...

ya ever visited the north island??? i promise to let you leave again..maybe

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