A Look at the Dom  

volcanoinu23 54M
272 posts
4/12/2006 8:43 am

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4/16/2006 7:14 am

A Look at the Dom

AdultFriendFinder should have fine print that says “no wussies allowed”. If you aren’t packing the sexual goods, you really don’t belong here. Of course “sexual goods” does not necessarily mean that your cock is 8 plus inches long or that you swallow routinely and love it. It means that you are mentally ready for intense and creative sex every encounter.

A trend that I have noticed is that women on AdultFriendFinder generally want to be pushed to their sexual limits. That means guys that you have to have a significant amount of “dominance” (dom) in you. Many guys naturally have that trait but whether they have true sexual talent is a matter of discussion. Personally, I was raised a “nice guy”, a curse among the AdultFriendFinder population. A guy like that sits at home alone on a Friday and Saturday night! I believe a woman’s limits are that and should be respected. My overall AdultFriendFinder dating record shows just the opposite however, as I have been able to combine the two worlds.

Yes…I have my issues with being a “dom” and have a much easier time being a “sub”. (I want to make clear, I am not talking about BDSM). I am not really a “man’s man”. I prefer wine over beer, cats over dogs, don’t even come close to understanding NASCAR and I take exception with many of the modern ethics of hunting. That aside, I have a brain and I use it! Being a sub however, presents the woman as a teacher or leader. Only one woman on AdultFriendFinder has made a significant attempt to expand my sexual limits. It is assumed that a man has few or no limits.

With all this said, I have taken necessary baby-steps to a more dominant side at times. It has been intriguing to watch the reaction of a woman when you approach from that angle. There are ways to subtlety push a woman passed her sexual intentions by appealing to her intellect without the macho bravado one might think is needed or for that matter wrongfully considered a requirement.


themisskrissy 57F
2302 posts
4/14/2006 4:49 pm

yesterday i wrote a lengthy response to this..... and the system burped and somehow it vanished.. ticked me off....

so i will give you the reader's digests condensed version..

brains over macho bravado any day of the week....
brains are sexy, as you prove time and again with your writings.. machos have about as much real substance as cotton candy....

dom or sub.. it is but a label darlin', be who you ARE!!! be REAL...
there is nothing wrong with exploring other options.... just don't sell out yourself in the process....and have fun!!


Virtue Alone Ennobles


volcanoinu23 54M

4/15/2006 8:32 am

I would agree totally Krissy! Who much respect do you have for Tom Hanks as an actor? How much for someone like Tom Cruise or Adam Sandler...I never want to type-cast myself!

Thanks for all of your comments!


themisskrissy 57F
2302 posts
4/15/2006 5:20 pm

tom hanks rocks...he does all types of different things and well, a risk taker....... tom cruise is a Scientology freakoid now who's last few movies i saw sucked imo! and who is adam sandler?? (i rarely go to movies and the nearest theater is 170 miles away..)

still wanna join you in that shower.. mm mm mm
i can be a bit dom sometimes...


Virtue Alone Ennobles


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