Girls who say that they never masturbate  

vengeur 42M  
565 posts
8/2/2005 9:11 am

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Girls who say that they never masturbate


Over the past several years, I have met two different girls offline who both claimed that they never masturbated. Both despised all types of pornography, too. Each one seemed reluctant to ever say anything considered vulgar by polite society, words like "pussy" and "cock", or phrases like, "let's fuck tonight". It may also be worth noting that each of these two girls considered herself to be a feminist.

Despite all of this, both of these girls also said that they considered themselves very sexual and good in bed.

Later, as things progressed with each separate relationship, we began having sex. In each case, I felt that both of these very same girls really were not all that good in bed. Neither one would talk dirty during sex with me, perform oral sex on me, despite me performing oral sex on them, or allow me to unload my cum on any part of their bodies.

It is because of these two past experiences that I now feel that I cannot seriously consider any girl's claims of sexual prowess if she also claims to never masturbate.

Does anybody reading this feel that I am being too rash with my assessment?

rm_NappingWench 41F
644 posts
8/2/2005 5:15 pm

I think your assessment seems ok - except - I have a problem with your last part - I've never had complaints about my sexual prowess and I don't let me cum on me - it's in the condom - or not at all. I'm not comfortable with cum on my body - anywhere.....that's just a safety measure....that has nothing to do with sexual experience.

FYI - I masterbate all the time....LOL !!!!


rm_NappingWench 41F
644 posts
8/2/2005 5:16 pm

meant - let THEM cum on me* sorry for the typo


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/2/2005 6:31 pm

wenchatheart, okay, I see your point, but I'll bet you at least give blowjobs, right? Perhaps you'll eat cum too, yes?


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/2/2005 7:13 pm

FYI - the proper spelling is really "masturbate"...not "masterbate". It's a common error from what I have seen.


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/2/2005 11:54 pm

sexyfitwoman, I agree with all of the points that you have made here.


rm_LizBeth65 53F
2 posts
8/7/2005 4:44 pm

Vengeur - I agree with your assessment. Women who masturbate, myself included, are much more sexually open and accepting that we are all sexual creatures. That said, I will admit that up until I was older (in my 30s), I did not masturbate but I did (and do) give blowjobs (very gladly I might add) and if I've been with the guy a few times and I'm comfortable with him, he can cum on my back, my tummy, my tits, facials, etc. And talking dirty, oh it's a must!!! Kris


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/8/2005 6:42 am

LizBeth65,

I guess you were a late bloomer then! LOL Since the two girls who were the basis of my blog entry were also both under 25, perhaps there is hope for them yet.


femaleinnyc 55F
82 posts
8/8/2005 10:05 pm

Vengeur - I think your assesment is dead on,however I do agree with wenchatheart as to the saftey measures.

In talking with my female friends, the ones who never masturbate are very inhibited. Where as the ones that do masturbate, are more open to experiment with making their sex lives more interesting.

Over the years my friends who did not masturbate have asked me how they could spice up their sex lives....I basically told them masturbate, get to know your body....once you know what makes you feel good and how, you'll be able to show that to your partner and open up a whole new world for the two of you sexually...


femaleinnyc 55F
82 posts
8/8/2005 10:11 pm

Please forgive the above typo of the word safety....


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/13/2005 6:39 pm

femaleinnyc,

You are forgiven!


Sweetgenie_girl 42F

8/14/2005 5:44 pm

Vengeur,
I'm agreeing with you on this (but also agree with wenchatheart on safety). One of my male friends told me that he would never date a girl who doesn't masturbate. For him, the ultimate test is whether she will masturbate in front of him or not. If she's willing, then she's a keeper. I know that might sound a little extreme but he says that women who masturbate are more at ease with their bodies, don't have that many insecurities and are more willing to experiment with sex.


smartlady4you 59F

8/21/2005 11:43 am

Hey, if we are correcting spelling--"assessment" was spelled incorrectly--forget the typo on "safety"---


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/22/2005 10:47 am

smartlady4you,

What kind of dictionary are you referencing? Merriam-Webster Online will back me up on my spelling above; Oxford's will also. Check for yourself.


demonicsexkitten 42F
10689 posts
8/23/2005 9:36 am

i have to disagree with your post. masturbating and being great in bed do not correlate... at least not always. i think the imagination has a lot more to do with it.


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/23/2005 11:14 am

demonicsexkitten,

You would be the first among many women on this site and another one I blog upon to disagree with my assertion. So am I correct to infer that you do NOT masturbate at all, ever?


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/24/2005 4:30 am

mizzkitka,

I really think you have articulated the best analysis of this entire issue. Thanks!


vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/24/2005 4:35 am

mizzkitka,

I really think you have articulated the best analysis of this entire issue so far. Thanks!

Sweetgenie_girl,

I would like to say thanks for your above input here also; it is one with which I can relate to also.


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