Dubious testimonials on profiles  

vengeur 42M  
565 posts
2/20/2005 9:12 am

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Dubious testimonials on profiles

When testimonials for profiles on this site became a feature last year, I thought it was a really great concept. Of course, I also assumed that the one who writes a testimonial for somebody has ACTUALLY MET the person in real life. I am now seeing many instances where this simply is not the case. I've seen a lot of men and even women who write testimonials for others to express how much they admire or want to meet the person they are writing about. All of my own testimonials are from people whom I've actually met, with just one exception. There are many others on this site who have testimonials by the ton from such people, i.e., people whom they have never met in real life. Some profiles apparently have nothing but this kind of testimonial.

So what is wrong with this? For the most part, I submit that this practice is a bit farcical. Online, people can easily make themselves seem what they are truly not. Only personal interaction can reveal one's true character to others. What exacerbates this problem is when the subjects of such raving testimonials use images STOLEN FROM XXX ADULT WEBSITES on their profiles, images which catch the admiring eyes of the unwary. It's a shame that so many people are so easily duped like that, but their ignorance only adds to the veneer of such rampant deception I witness far too often on this site.

rm_misfitbabe 50F
1 post
2/25/2005 10:34 pm

i wrote a testimonial on a man frm his pic havent met him yet but would like to but ive seen him on cam n hes seen me i thnk ur just havin a bitch 4 nothin men can be gr8 liars wether there on here or real life n ive been wth a few of thm 2 !!! so get on wth ur life n leave us w get on wth ours

vengeur 42M  
837 posts
2/25/2005 10:57 pm

misfitbabe, your profile has no pics, so for all I know, you could be guy a posing as a female. That's my issue with profiles such as yours. I've already had men try to deceive me like that.

Webcams are the only possible thing that could come even close to meeting in real life, I reckon. So you can show me yourself on cam if you would like to prove me wrong. I'll do likewise for you, and then I won't bitch.

vengeur 42M  
837 posts
2/26/2005 4:19 pm

FrustratedBBW03, your comments are always welcome on my blogs. The same goes for everyone else.

The mobile phone text message styling of misfitbabe's comment is painful to read, I agree, and I find it a bit ironic that she apparently resides in Britain. (Her profile tells me so.) I began to notice that not all Britons are quite that literate several years ago, however. It is a social class and education issue over there just like it is here.

I will also have to concede that testimonials written by those whom have had a long-term online correspondence with somebody are not really so bad. The ones people write based upon their adoration of pictures somebody falsely puts on a profile still gets me quite outraged, however. It is plagiarism in its foulest sense as far as I am concerned.

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