Restarting in the Valley  

velvetnsilk88 37F
4 posts
9/30/2005 9:07 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Restarting in the Valley

Restarting in the Valley never seemed so difficult. Trying to find a place to live, reconnecting with old friends, creating new friends.

I spent a year celibate so that I could decide what I wanted. A year with no sex can really clear up your mind, though its hard and I wouldn't recommend it except in the most extreme of circumstances. I got an idea of what I wanted and a couple of dreams. I figure things will come out between.

I discovered that people have even light commitment issues. I dont want one night stands so finding males and females that are willing to be truly FBs. Not booty calls but something that is both fun in and OUT of the bedroom. Strange how hard that is until you realized that you can feel trapped almost anywhere.

I personally don't want to trap anyone. My ideal guy would be a guy who can be absolutely trustworthy. That way I can have an open and honest relationship with him. That way we can both explore the higher reaches of sexuality together and separate.

Well those are dreams


livestolick98 68M
1 post
5/26/2006 9:34 am

Before I start, I should probably clarify that I'm not trying to start an argument, just trying to understand.

I'm curious about what you mean by "light commitment issues"? Do you mean issues with light (minor) commitments?

I'm way older than you, married, and in other ways just not right for you. But, let's try a thought experiment--if I was your FB, what (else) would you expect from me. (Or, maybe, think of some other guy, not married--what would you expect from him?)


If so, does that mean that you'll commit to satisfy all his needs?

Available whenever you want?

Something else?

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