what do you think?  

vegas_sinner04 31F
94 posts
4/21/2005 11:56 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

what do you think?

okay, here is the deal...for the last two weeks, i have been hanging out with this really nice guy. he is smart and funny and can also make me laugh. but (you knew there was going to be a but) he is getting way to attached already. he calls me almost three times a day and is always emailing me and wanting to chat and stuff. normally that won't bother me but i'm really not into him. i know i need to tell him but i just don't know how. this is going to sound corny but i don't wanna hurt his feeling. got any ideas about what i can tell him without sounding like a bitch? thanks a bunch.

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rm_I_AMsterdam 52M

4/21/2005 2:17 pm

I'd tell him that you find the attention a bit overpowering and, although you really like him for the qualities you've listed, you feel you need to slow things down as you're happy to be friends ... but that's it.

cracnup 37M

4/21/2005 9:04 pm

honestly, you'll be less a bitch if you'rs up front and honest with him as soon as possible. I've been turned down and told that a woman wasn't interested in me before... it was better to hear that, than have someone beat around the bush with me.

just my two cents.

purejoy4fem 47F/45F
682 posts
4/22/2005 3:56 pm

Cracnup is right, tell him ASAP, it'll hurt him more if he invests more emotionally into this (all in his head) relationship. You say he's a nice guy, so let him down easy

keithcancook 61M
17930 posts
4/22/2005 3:58 pm

tell him. if he refuses to listen then you may have to get "bitchy"

GonadMadamFilth 45M
153 posts
4/24/2005 9:47 am

Yep, sooner the better. Maybe when he backs off and you see he's happy elsewhere, you'll be interested in him again. Everyone loves what they don't have! j/k Tell him soon before he gets too involved in you. It sounds like he's crazy about you already.

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