Why Is It Difficult  

trish778 44F
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12/18/2005 5:53 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Why Is It Difficult

The fingers from both hands aren't enough to count how many times I have opted to leave a relationship because I felt that it was better to do so rather than wait for bitterness to set in. It seems so easy to walk away when you are rational. However, when the feelings come back to haunt you, when the coldness of lonely nights seep into your bones, you second-guess your decision. It sucks when the mind and heart don't agree. But it sucks even more when you find yourself willing to go through heartache and pain for someone who couldn't even bring himself to care.

Still... why is leaving so difficult?

trish778 44F

12/18/2005 6:53 pm

Hi Shaye. I agree with you about hating being a quitter. That is why when I do leave a relationship, it is because I have tried most everything to make it work, leaving no room for regrets and "what ifs".

Thanks reading and leaving a note for me.

gnr8nrg 47M

12/18/2005 9:20 pm

Trish, there are many reasons to enter or leave a relationship. I've left a few that I still cared for them deeply, but something felt off. I can't explain it better than the energy shifted and the relationship bond was disappearing. I will always care for those I've shared my life with. It's how I'm wired. However if two people are moving in seperate directions, and neither one wants to reconnect the bond. Then it's better to sit down and have a discussion about ending the relationship. I've done this a few times, and it hurts. Most times both people realize their on different paths, and choose to end it. Sometimes just the discussion will reconnect the bond and even strengthen the relationship.
As to why is leaving so difficult. It's not difficult for me, but missing sharing my life with that person. That is what is difficult for me. The things you do together and the things you see that you had done together. I try to remember the bad times as much as the good. Otherwise I'd think all my past relationships were the best, and I'm an idiot for leaving. Unfortunatly this was not the case.
P.S. I've never gotten back together with an exgirlfriend unless it was within 48 hours of when it ended. We missed eachother, and our reasons for ending it were petty.

trish778 44F

12/19/2005 3:22 am

You raised very good points, Grant. I agree about sitting down to discuss rather than just let it "sort of" die by itself. The person we have relationships with are special. I also agree about remembering the bad along with the good. It puts things into perspective and lets you see if you feel the way you feel because you still truly care but it's just impossible to work out, or if you are just longing for the trappings of a relationship.

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