Life's Stages  

trish778 44F
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3/14/2006 12:20 am

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Life's Stages


Got this from a friend through email. It is uncanny how she seems to sense when I am struggling with something. This piece made me think. A bit of a long read but Paulo Coelho is worth every bit of time spent reading.

Closing Cycles
by Paulo Coelho


One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters - whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents' house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won't take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your spouse, your friends, your children, etc.

Everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life. And they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill. None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot forever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back. Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards; so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return. Do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood and reciprocated. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, no one else.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the "ideal moment." Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because it no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.


trish778 44F

3/14/2006 6:03 am

Hello Mzhunyhole I totally agree!

Thanks for stopping by to read this post. I am not worthy!! (But I am grinning from ear to ear. Paulo Coelho has that certain "pull."


gnr8nrg 47M

3/14/2006 11:01 am

Hi Trish I liked that. It reminds me of some of the things I'd do with my meditations. Sometimes I choose to recall certain experiences for sense memory exercises. Just as long as it doesn't become baggage that interferes with my relationships.


trish778 44F

3/14/2006 10:08 pm

Glad you liked this one, G.


stephenyulo17 48M
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3/18/2006 4:15 pm


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