I'm No Expert  

trish778 44F
259 posts
1/7/2006 8:07 pm

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3/10/2006 10:22 am

I'm No Expert

It's ironic and a little bit funny. There is a someone from my area with whom I have been exchanging emails with and he asks the silliest questions. Well, maybe to him they are all legitimate questions, but I find them funny, and the exercise ironic.

First, why ask me for the "email technique" and "hook up lines" of other guys who have contacted me? I think it would be better to post such questions on this site's Magazine Advice Line. People respond to things differently. One guy's email, containing exactly the same text, would generate different responses from different women.

Second, why tell me about a botched up hook up plan because he didn't like the "way she looked." I don't understand how that affects me if you are looking to hook up with me. Or maybe I am missing the point and he sees me as a "friend." But in the movie When Harry Met Sally, guys and girls can never be friends, right? I personally don't believe this but guys have been telling me this is 99.99% true.

Third, don't tell me all the things that you are looking for in a partner from this site. The best place to do that would be to specify that in one's profile.

Fourth, don't ask me how long I have been on this site and how successful I have been. We all have our own little agendas. The way I measure my success is totally different from yours.

Fifth, the phrase "I think it is worthwhile to get to know you" doesn't get you anywhere with me. I know I am worth getting to know. I have a healthy self-esteem.

Although the guy's questions can be annoying at times, I must admit I had a fun time reading the emails and answering them (truthfully, I might add) as best I could. But please, I am no expert. My handle is nowhere in the list of those that give good advice in Passion.com's Magazine.

kimochiE 34M

1/8/2006 1:18 am

I wish I could keep my friends and my lovers separate - then maybe I wouldn't lose my friends when I lose my lovers, but I think such a thing really is impossible. The movie was right, the sex part always gets in the way

trish778 44F

1/8/2006 6:48 am

kimochiE: I think women can have men friends but men can't have women friends. Sad, but it seems that is the way the cookie crumbles.

kimochiE 34M

1/8/2006 2:02 pm

Mmmm... crumbled-up cookie things.

gnr8nrg 47M

1/8/2006 9:38 pm

I've got women friends I would never sleep with. So I have to say that they can be friends. I find it harder to be their boyfriend. Most of my relationships tried to become friendships afterwards, but it never lasted. I miss how each one of them had been an important part of my life.

trish778 44F

1/9/2006 12:12 am

gnr8nrg: I guess there are just some things that cannot go back to the way they were once we have stepped beyond the purely friends line. But I do try to be friends with ex's, too. It just doesn't work for me, and them, to a certain extent.

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