How Bad Do You Want It?  

travelingintexas 42M
2/27/2006 6:45 am
How Bad Do You Want It?

Background Music:
How Bad Do You Want It? Tim McGraw

Yup, it is Monday again. If you are like me, you didn’t need an alarm, you jumped out of bed and knew today was gonna be your day! Yea right huh? Typical Monday, I am sure, and one in which you probably wish you were still back in that bed. Last night as I contemplated this next week, the following words came on the radio and I knew I had to share with you.

“When I'm here on this highway breathing diesel smoke, driving hard for hours trying to make that Memphis show. People always ask me "Son what does it take, to reach out and touch your dreams?" To them I always say...”

So what does it take? Have you asked yourself that lately? Or have you given up? Just laid down, said it is too hard and given up? Have the words that imprinted themselves on your heart "I am not worthy, not capable, not enough" become the clarion call of your life? What does it take to reach deep down within ourselves, see the reality of the dreams of our heart, and then find the strength to find the ability to go out and take them?

Oh sure... Time, age, money, resources etc. All great excuses and ones we can throw out easily enough when we ask ourselves why we don’t do what our passions truly are. Excuses? Yes! It is much easier to blame those things than admit that deep down inside we are terrified, petrified, oftentimes out of our minds scared, and don’t believe that we deserve to really live a full and satisfying life!

”Are you hungry? Are you thirsty? Is it a fire that burns you up inside? How bad do you want it? How bad do you need it? Are you eating, sleeping, dreaming with that one thing on your mind? How bad do you want it? How bad do you need it? Cause if you want it all you've got to lay it all out on the line”

Friends, it is a new day. How many more do you have? What? You don’t know either? Huh? Yea I hear ya! How long will you settle? How long will getting by be enough for you? Oh sure, things are good and you are getting by. However, look deep inside at that quiet place of unrest. The place that perhaps only you know about, the place that constantly whispers from the very core of who you are “I want to do...”

How much longer will you allow yourself to be held back by mediocrity? How much longer are you really willing to tread that water, just to get by?

“I get to make my living doing what I love. Every night I give my heart and soul sometimes that ain't enough. But brother, if you're like me looking down that road, be careful of that wild wind, son, sometimes it don't let go”

Why not today? Why won’t you come out into the sunlight and live fully? How badly do you want it? That is the true question. While I can’t give you the dreams, I can tell you that you have the world’s biggest fan club here. One that beats that table in support, cheers you on, paints his chest with your name on it and screams “LIVE! Go! Go! Go! I want you to Live!” Those fears you have, seen in the light of day, are really paper shackles. They are paper shackles that bind you to live a life of mediocrity. They are the words of others that say over and over to your heart, “since I never accomplished you shouldn’t be able to either.” They are the words of your heart whispering to you, stealing your joy because they are fearful of one more failure.

One more? WHO CARES! It is just one more. You have failed before right? You lived through it right? So you know trying and failing is doable, even in failure! So why not take a chance? Does falling down and scraping a knee truly scare you that much?

What about the example you will set? For your kids, for your family, and for yourself? How much longer will mediocrity cloud your every waking moment? The words under the motivational Picture over there? Mediocrity… It takes a lot less time and most people won’t notice until it is too late anyway.

Mediocrity- The state or quality of being mediocre.

OOOOOOO Can I put a down payment on my tombstone now? Boy that just gets me all excited! Gives me goosebumps! Makes me want to hang my head out the window and shout to the world "I AM GONNA SETTLE FOR LESS THAN I AM WORTH!" And the world around you, will shout back "You too huh? Stand in line. We are all settling for less! It is more comfortable there!"

I can see it now, my very own headstone... “Here lies Trav! He lived a life in the state of the mediocre. He lived a fulfilling life of just making it by and playing it safe.”

Not just no but Hell No!

I don’t think so. I chose today to leave a different legacy but that is me. What do you chose today?

“Can you feel it? Can you taste it? Can you hear it knocking at your door?How bad do you want it? How bad do you need it? Are you eating, sleeping, dreaming with that one thing on your mind?

How bad do you want it? How bad do you need it?
Cause if you want it all you've got to lay it all out on the line”

Oh my friends. If I had the desire of my heart, it would be that you could live! That you could soar! That you could step out, live that life of fullness and leave the heritage and legacy that your grandkids would be proud of!

That new business, that degree, that love, that music, that book, that new restaurant, that support center, that new invention, that process, that thing, THAT LIFE! IT IS YOURS! Burn the paper shackles of your lies and come out and play with me! Let us live!


oldman1776 79M
3164 posts
2/27/2006 11:08 am

Great post. I think I have to go now and start working on my dream.

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
2/27/2006 11:11 am

"Say it loud, Brother Trav!"

Geez...I LOVED this one.

And for me, I know the answer. First I have to BELIEVE that I deserve it and then I have to GET OFF MY ASS and make it happen. I've done it many times in my life and just need to clear out the cobwebs and do it again.

Man, this put me in a good mood this morning.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

PassionKisses4Me 45F

2/27/2006 11:26 am

Wonderful post...I started my dream 4 years ago...I didn't have the means, the time, or the help...but damn it I wanted it bad...and I went after it...and because of that, in 67 days I will be graduating from college with my degree and I did it...despite being a single mother of 3 boys.... I did it!!!!!!! ...don't let any thing stop you from your dreams.

Hugs to you sweetie



Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
2/27/2006 11:31 am

Man! You and your essay questions! Do you want this in MLA format? how many pages? words? Footers? Headers? Did my english professor email you and tell you to test me today? Its monday!

ok, done with smart ass rant.

Let me think some...ok thinking done,
Each day I want to meet someone new and interesting, I look forward to it, and its a reason why I get up early, and stay up late.

I keep thinking why would you settle for mediocrity when your dreams are right there in front of you, Your a complex person Trav, but I get it. Your the perfect example of this - No one can push you toward your goal, the only driving force in anyone's life is the will to succeed.

Thats my impression with out really knowing who you are, or ever having talked to you. I just find myself asking the same things you do in your blogs, most of them anyway. Trying to put myself in the big picture and thinking beyound my own little world. I might have to copy and paste this comment on my own blog, but I won't people will see it either way.
I ran out of steam, so there ya go, whats my grade?

MyRealLoverOne 47M

2/27/2006 12:11 pm

Damn Trav! You mean it? I am on my way to Texas then!!! Your going to be my new girlfriend!!! Hooo Haaaa! Mcmanboobies here I come!

Being serious for one minute I have to say this was a great word for all of us. I know fear can often knock the wind out of me and leave me on my ass. Thanks for the kick-in-the-ass Trav!


want2play926 46F

2/27/2006 12:46 pm

Another great post Trav!

I needed that kick in the ass today...and I will be rereading this many more times I am sure!


rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
2/27/2006 1:40 pm

crap, I can't find my choir robe.

guess the "AMEN, Brother!" will have to do with me wearing a t-shirt.

You are such a morning person, jumping out of bed. For me, it's more like stumbling.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
2/27/2006 2:08 pm

Damn Trav! Is this what a cold shower does to you???

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/27/2006 2:18 pm

Great post, Trav... I've been letting society get me down too (myself actually). I have a side business that I've just not gotten going. I'm going to get back out there and pound the pavement. My other goal was to find a great lover/partner/whatever, but that doesn't seem to be working out for me either... I'll keep striving for the gold.

rm_sj365 56F
2414 posts
2/27/2006 4:46 pm

the only boy who could ever reach me, was the son of a preacher man...

huh? oh! the blog? umm yeah! go you errr me..umm all of us!

i love yer guts

2943 posts
2/27/2006 5:29 pm

yanno I been feeling realllllllllly empty inside and swirling in this black hole of life....then I run across this and dayum!!...hits me in the gut...I have been living this...Someday-my-Prince-will come-lie to myself!!...Nothing in life is a given and I need to get off my my kids they can be whatever they want to be...just like their Mom...thanks trav...I needed this eye-opener that's already been lurking in my head this whole time....xo


DTduzDallas 51F

2/27/2006 5:35 pm

Your willingness to paint your bare chest will come in handy during football season. I'll take the "U" and you can have the "T"...pffffft...Vols, not Horns.

Beautiful post.

EyeCandy33333 45F
761 posts
2/28/2006 9:43 am

Another- How Bad Do You Want It? Z(Z)-Don Henley
You’re leavin’ tongue marks on the carpet
And I know what you’re lookin’ at
You would walk on your lips through busted glass
If you could get next to that
You think this is love
Your education starts today
So you think this is love?
So tell me
How bad do you want it?
How bad do you want it?
How bad do you want it?
Not bad enough
So you put a hold on happiness
....a day, a week, a year
You got to bring somethin’ to this party, boy
If you party here
And if you’re lookin’ for love
You better look some other way
If you’re lookin’ for love
I have to ask you
How bad do you want it?
How bad do you want it?
How bad do you want it?
Not bad enough
She gave you love and affection
Enough to weather any season
You found an excuse to walk away
But you didn’t find no reason
And you talk about love
But you don’t know what it means
Yeah, you talk about love
So tell me
How bad do you want it?
How bad do you want it?
How bad do you want it?
Not bad enough

Just another version...
T(but I like T McGraw)

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
2/28/2006 10:21 am

I should know better than to come back and read comments. Now I've got Tim McGraw in one ear and Dusty Springfield in the other. I mean, I love them both, but not at the same time. Sheesh...

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

(Princess Lips)

3/1/2006 10:13 am

Tim had FAITH


travelingintexas replies on 3/27/2006 10:53 am:
LMAO... I just saw this... very funny you! LMAO

TTigerAtty 63M

3/1/2006 2:45 pm

"If you think you can, you probably can. If you think you can't, you probably can't. Either way, you're right!" Henry Ford

travelingintexas replies on 3/27/2006 10:54 am:
I love Henry Ford... Did you know that when he interviewed... he would do so over lunch. If the person added salt to their dinner without tasting it first he absolutly would not hire them.

He felt it meant they were not curious enough in what they had to see if it needed to be made better.

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