I'm going to miss her...  

thr3sum 34M/F
94 posts
8/31/2005 8:08 pm

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I'm going to miss her...

I'm only 25, and I'm a foster parent. My husband and I opted to assume the role because his sister had become severly addicted to meth. Her 2 year old daughter (Bean, as I call her) was being neglected and abused. The history of my life pushed me to do something, I called the police. Social Services gave us custody and her mom vanished. Four months went by with no word about or from her... we were getting ready to do the adoption thing, when she showed up Very pregnant, clean and sober. We have been very supportive and loving to her. She has come a long way, matured and become more responcible, and now one year later the time has come to say goodbye. I'm going to miss the little one so much. Kids are wonderful, but I'm not rushing into having any any time soon. We will still see the little one and still get to play, and watch Bean grow. I just feel like i'm loosing something very special.
On the other hand I've gained so much. I've learned about myself, my husband and the inner workings of a seemingly well adjusted functional family.(which I hadn't ever been a part of). I am looking at this as a new life. My hubby and I are going to have so much more time with each other alone and I will be able to go back to school again. I'm excited and sad, I now really understand the meaning of BITTERSWEET. A young girl gets her mother back, and a new baby brother. A young couple gets the time and freedom they sacrificed for the love of a helpless child.
I'm no saint but it makes me feel good do have done something so selfless... We had our tough times and spent hours with doctors and dentists, correcting the damages. Therapists, and teachers. It could be concidered a Dry Run... We may do it again Someday... because of all the good times and the love.
Bean told me today "all you need is love."
She likes the Beatles too.

your_gypsy 52F

8/31/2005 9:44 pm

what a gift to end my long, haggard day... this is what life is all about bless your hearts a thousandfold...not only what you have done for the child, but for the mom too

you have my respect and admiration fwiw

thr3sum 34M/F
117 posts
9/1/2005 10:23 pm

thanx for the props

wyvernrose 39F  
3961 posts
9/4/2005 5:19 pm

it is heart rending letting them go back knowing that it may well happen again, but you will be there to watch over them all give them the support they need with a firm but steady hand


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