I'm on notice...  

tampafem 45F
1941 posts
6/29/2006 4:30 pm

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I'm on notice...

that my attendance is a problem. I was given 3 choices today:

1-Resign my position with written notice and find another job.

2-Go down to part time 20 hours a week and a 75 cent an hour cut in pay.

3-Be at work every day no matter what.

Well *doh* I'd love to be there EVERY single day. But when you're a single parent it doesn't work that way. Especially when your ex is a total dickhead and wants you to lose your job. He chuckled at me the last time this happened (literally) "hehe they're gonna fire you". It's his way of getting back at me for leaving him. He always told me if someone f'd with him he'd find a way to get them back.

So if I can't take Austin to daycare, and he's to sick to go to the program at the hospital what do I do. Today I was told literally "If you are sick, you're sick. But you can't babysit and work too."

heavensent11236 53F

6/29/2006 4:49 pm

So whats the ex do regarding paying child support? Meaning is hiring a babysitter completely out of the financial realm of things? Also, don't suppose there is anyway he could possibly help out regarding taking Austin when he's sick or does he have to work also? Third option see about working 3 days during the week and then working on weekends when daddy dearest CAN take his son??? Sucks to give up every weekend I know but it's a solution.

JuicyBBW1001 56F

6/29/2006 4:52 pm

That sucks I feel for you. I am in a similar position at my job in that they frown on people not taking time off from work. However I always cover my ass and make sure I have a doctor's note to compensate and if they fire me so what I was looking for a job when I got that one.
I learned to always update my resume every other month or so that way when a job I really want comes along I am prepared to send a resume.


gent4u813 63M

6/29/2006 7:16 pm

Disclaimer, I am not a lawyer and this is not legal advice...just gained from 30 years experience as an employee.

1) Whatever you do, don't resign. you are in a legitimate predicament as a single parent. Resigning will just give them a free pass on not having to pay unemployment benefits.

2) The offer of a cut in pay and a cut in hours is not much of an offer. Seems like it is really just a way of trtying to further intimidate you. maybe you should counter-offer the following:

You will arrange for 100% day care if he gives you a raise big enough to cover it! Then you will guarantee 100% attendance.

3) This is probably the best short term solution. Heaven~ and Juicy~ have some good advice in their posts.

4) This state has some of the shittiest laws regarding family leave, etc.

I think that a lot depends on how much you like the job. From a few previous comment you have made it looks like you have some other gripes about working conditions. My rule is never to quit unless I have a gold plated offer in hand... polish up the resume. Unfortunately,in the interim, there is not much that can be done except to make arrangements for emergency child care, and be honest with prospective employers about family being the FIRST PRIORITY, period. If I were your boss I'd try to help you solve the problem, rather than lose a worker.

Good luck and keep your spirits up.

fsuliber 44M

6/29/2006 7:29 pm

You might want to look into the Family Medical Leave Act

LookandWink 64M

6/29/2006 9:29 pm

The only thing I can add is to check with other friends that could help you out in emergency situations. Good luck!

AltumHunksUnite 54M

6/30/2006 8:19 am

Absolutely DO NOT quit.

If they fire you, then you'll get unemployment.

There is also the Family Medical Leave Act, which is unpaid of course, but I'm almost certain they can't fire you for taking care of your son.

Let me drive. I like the view

_Bound4Pleasure 52F
204 posts
6/30/2006 8:36 pm

Ive been on the other end of this, and have no only written up many employees but yes have fired some as well, for attendance issues.
FSU and Cleavis, have the best advice, FMLA-
You can take off as you need it, in as little as hour increments.
of course you don't get paid, NOR can that save your job, however, they have to save your employment status, meaning you will have a job, just not the job u are used too....most of the hospitals here(mid pinellas), take the kids as sick as they are, just have to pay a bit more when they are extremely sick!
Try and find a friend that works off shift, you both can barter sevices...that works well too
As far as unemployment, if her company has a policy on attendance, and they adhere to it, there isn't much of a chance in receiving it...
If you do lose your job....quick get a job at MacDonalds, asking for as little pay as you can get....
then take the ex back to court for child support...
I doubt he will be chuckling too hard when u are at court, and you have outfoxed him!
I will have to say- in 25 years of working, i never used one sick day...unexpectedly....
i used some for surgeries, but they were all planned!
i never called in sick one day,

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