The root of my philosopy of Man & Woman  

tamethytension 55M
1660 posts
9/19/2005 8:00 am

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The root of my philosopy of Man & Woman

A couple of days ago, I espoused my belief regarding the nature of man and woman, distilled down to its essence. You will this in That she believes in me to the core of her being .

Subsequently, thought provoking statements by saintlianna produced an elaboration stated as a defense. I re-state that response here to flesh out my position. I do not pretend to preach/lecture others on such matters. I only offer it up as another part of me ... sort of like 'what is my favourite color' ... only I would hope a little more informative of my character.

Of the universal truths bounded by humanity and conversely inhumanity, I speak here of the former.

Across time and oceans, women have ever held the CAPACITY to express an undying faith in their man. I see it all around me ... and have seen it every day I have ever looked upon my parents. It only remains for the man to understand this and be willing to accept it.

Behind every great man stands a woman. The eternal truth behind the cliche is that men find that unconditional belief in them by their partner the source of both their salvation and their courage against the trials and tribulations of life. No matter how beaten down at the end of the day, to have a woman believe in you is the most precious gift one can receive. You cannot tell me this does not exist. History is replete with women standing by their man under the most horrific circumstances. There are men in battle this day in foreign lands, far from loved ones, with little but faith to sustain them. For some it is supplemented by a faith in country, faith in their brothers, but at a minimum it is the knowledge that somewhere back home there is woman (perhaps only their mother) but a woman nonetheless that believes in them that has them carry on, to live on.

In turn, the failure of a man to stand by his woman constitutes the greatest betrayal. It is why weak men, upon learning their partner is leaving them, first shrivel and then lash out. It is why they become controlling and possessive, out of the sheer fear of losing what little faith anyone may have expressed in them to begin with; the fear that they will never find it again. Some are willing to kill, so disturbed are they by the notion you may find another in whom your faith will empower.

Faith is a powerful thing, and so too is the lack of it.
And it stares each and everyone of us in the face every day.
All that may not exist, is our acknowledgement of it, and
therefore our appreciation for it. That my Dear is shown
through love ... and yes that can be a truly elusive thing.



rm_mm0206 70F
7767 posts
11/19/2006 9:33 am

I believe that Faith(in another human) is a lot like respect....

it has to be returned as much as it is given...

and that all starts with a basic theorem created by Trust and Love.
Faith is built on Trust but without Love it is bland and dry.

I could go on and on.
Take care...m.

MadlyGhostUnbar 59F

10/25/2006 6:11 pm

I really have arrived a bit late for this one haven't I?

For a successful partnership between two people, they fit together as puzzle pieces, to make the completed picture. And however the picture might change from lifes bittersweet experience, each piece adapts to cater to the needs of its counterpart.

tamethytension replies on 10/25/2006 6:28 pm:
Never too late ... thank you for your contribution.

kyplowboy2 62M

9/20/2005 3:54 am

Well done.


tillerbabe 57F

9/19/2005 11:54 pm

I've always given myself 100% and its never been a mistake, because I gave. To expect the same in return is to determine happiness by outward existance as opposed to inward "knowing". I would do nothing differently, and it wasn't always pleasant. But I always know I did the best I could, and I will continue to do the same. "Giving" is infinite.
Enough of 'standing by your man".
What about a protector? Even for those of us that "protect' in our careers? I need to feel safe, owned like a jewel, protected by strength I could never have. Someone I can cry on , sleep and snuggle next to....get advice from, that will teach me.

Having both of these traits - standing by your man - lifting him up; protecting your woman, giving her strength, the combination is surely love. {=}

rm_bella_ 48F
4030 posts
9/19/2005 5:11 pm

Powerful post and so accurate. I have always given myself 100%, heart, soul and body..and unfortunately time after time it was a mistake. And even though I may think the next time I wont do is not in me to hold back. If he is mine, I will do whatever needs to be done for him, and support him wholeheartedly while risking it all at the expense of my heart.

rm_Gabhin01 42M
16 posts
9/19/2005 3:11 pm

It appears that the "MEN" seem to have shyed away from this particular post... Maybe it is yet too early for many to have posted. Either way... I agree with you whole heartedly. I, despite myself, find that without my lover, best friend, and strength, ( Please See wife) am less than my complete Self. She is the Radiance that compells me to be BETTER than I could ever aspire to be on my own. I have my pecadillos and faults, but her Love and Strength makes me not just a better man, but a good Man. She is very Ill (genetic in nature)but still She shines light into the darkness that I often have lost myself in. I applaude your insight and understanding of the essence on true Love.


goddessofbitches 42M/34F

9/19/2005 11:42 am

*Sigh* Well said. You do not need to forget those women out there that recognize that they hold some sort of power over a man and use the man's need to have someone against them.
Often times, there are women who will use men and really hurt them. They then often have trouble understanding a TRUE woman, who puts her faith in one man.

Thanks for writing this...

HUGS and Kisses~~~MANDY

Always The Bitch

demonicsexkitten 42F
10688 posts
9/19/2005 11:34 am

I've only given once... he never betrayed me really, except that the relationship ended. nearly destroyed me, as i'd made him my life. Now... i yearn to give so much again, but have to find one worthy of it.

frbnkslady 49F
6183 posts
9/19/2005 11:09 am

Thank you... this is ohhh so very true...T


rm_Network_Minx 48F
542 posts
9/19/2005 9:50 am

Twice in my life I have given absolute belief to a man to the core of my being. Once when I was married. The faith and trust was abused and the betrayal nearly destroyed me. The second time was worth it.

princess2passion 60F

9/19/2005 8:30 am

Powerful and true...
Kudos to you !

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
9/19/2005 8:29 am

Flesh out your position? I am capable of it, I have been and will be able to again, I never rethink that once my mind is made up, ever. The problem is that the loyalty is not returned.

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