Some Things Just Don't Surprise Me Anymore  

tadpudgy 57M
863 posts
8/23/2006 7:42 pm

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Some Things Just Don't Surprise Me Anymore

I remember joking with BustyBettyBoop about who was the bigger chatterbox.....being a southern gentleman....i allowed her to claim victory. I have gained ground in my struggle to be a better listener. As i just listen more these days, i have found i hear things that i often missed. Yesterday, i had a customer tell me he needed a problem fixed. Said he was helped by the "colored" guy..."Oh, you mean Mr Al" i said. After an awkward moment or two of silence, i finished correcting his problem with his order. He exited without saying thank you. I had a desire to remark that i thought "colored" was a racist word from the old south and wasn't appropriate to describe my co-worker. I spoke to my department manager briefly, and she thanked me for not responding. She then said "We are in the retail business, not the morality business". Have you all ever been in a similarly awkward position? Would you respond? Bite your tongue? How do feel about de-sensitized leaders? Does any of this surprise you? HUG=GASMS to all!! HANDSHAKES to the men!

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
8/24/2006 2:41 am

I think I would have reacted in the same way! I would have said "Well the fact we provide customer service, we ought to be more politically correct!!!"

She sounds like a bitch~

Purry {=}


tadpudgy replies on 8/24/2006 4:11 am:
Weeeeeelllllllllll, i wish i could think of a PC word for bitch.... LOL! She also isn't much on recognition programs...She feels we don't need warm fuzzies just for doing our jobs. Even when we have customers who take the time to do those forms to forward compliments to corporate. Go figure! Your servant Purry, Tad!! YUM=GASMS!!!

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
8/24/2006 12:31 pm

Doesn't surprise me at all. People never seem to learn, do they?

tadpudgy replies on 8/24/2006 2:27 pm:
Nope! I wonder what kind of lives these people lead at home. HUGS to the Angel!!

florallei 100F

8/24/2006 2:20 pm

I am more upset with that BITCH manager than the client!!! She must and should always stand by her staff....What a callous thing to say!!! I can't tolerate racism of any form!!!

tadpudgy replies on 8/24/2006 2:30 pm:
Interesting.....She is being groomed for promotion too! Go figure! HUG=GASMS Ms Flo!!!!!!!!!!!!!

VTLakesideVixen 61F
458 posts
8/24/2006 7:10 pm

Tad I think you did the right thing! Your female manager exhibited a remarkable lack of understanding and empathy both for you and your co-worker. It is really too bad that they are grooming her for more a position with more authority. I do think that the powers that be in the corporate world would approve of what she said. I had an incident like this one time, but at least my boss took the time to explain why she replied as she did!

Sometimes Tad there is no way to correct in-bred stupidity!

Tad, you just keep on feeling your outrage at remarks like this--it is what helps to make you such a good man--and I congratulate you for having the good sense to feel this way!

Hugs to you Sweetie!


tadpudgy replies on 8/25/2006 2:13 am:
Why thanks Vixen, and btw, glad you are up and running..... looks like every one having issue with AdultFriendFinder. TEDDYBEAR=GASMS!!!!!! $$

rm_sexxikritter 53F
2715 posts
8/24/2006 9:33 pm

Wow, racism seems to be the topic of choice in Blogland tonight.
My father still tries to use the term colored...but I stop him in his tracks by asking what color? If this happens again, perhaps you could respond..."Oh mdo you mean the brown man or the peach man or the slighty olive with ruddy undertones man?"


tadpudgy replies on 8/25/2006 2:18 am:
LOL! I know i would like to....but it seems that the ignorant and hateful are the easiest and quickest to feel offended, and they wind up comlaining to someone higher up! Anyway thanks... i needed that! HUG=GASMS!!!!

economickrisis 56M

8/24/2006 9:39 pm

I guess that when you deal with the public you have to accept that most of them are arseholes some of the time

You might appreciate > [post 482186]

tadpudgy replies on 8/25/2006 2:20 am:
I try to win over most of the 'arses' by being friendly and providing good service.... but sometimes people are bound to just want to ensure we have a bad day, regardless! Thanks for your visit today!

ZZ_Todd 61M

8/24/2006 10:10 pm

I had a similar experience with a customer in my store a few years ago, except he actually called my clerk the "N" word. Convenience Store sales aren't big rings, but he was a regular and between two cartons of smokes a week, plus lots of lottery, milk bread, etc. he was good for about $500 a week in sales. He made a big mistake that day. I happened to hear him say it. I asked him to meet me outside... "Hey, Joe! How you doing? Hey, let's go have a smoke." When we got outside, I back-handed him across his mouth. Real quick... lightning quick. He said he'd report me... said he'd call the police, and he did. The cop who showed up, one of my friends, just happened to be the only Black officer on the force. The guy withdrew his complaint... never even said a word other than, just a misunderstanding officer... he never filed a complaint with my company... and, I lost a $500 / week customer. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

Anyway, thanks for what you said over on mine today... it's much appreciated. And don't get too friendly over on the Island!

tadpudgy replies on 8/25/2006 2:26 am:
Thanks for the words and the heads-up. There isn't a day when i wish i could put rude people in their places. I wonder how they behave in their work environment? Take care my man.....HANDSHAKES!

ButteryDelight 60F

8/25/2006 10:03 am

I used to work for 7-11. I had a lot of mexican road crews come in to cash their checks. It always amazed me how rude some people could be. I had one man who cam ein every day and every day he'd Say can't they go elsewhere to cash their checks? Once I got sick of it and said, No they can't go elesewhere but YOU can! Every customer in the store including the white ones, clapped their hands as that man left.

I'm glad you stood up for what you believe in.

Buttery Delight

tadpudgy replies on 8/25/2006 7:57 pm:
Thanks Ms isn't easy. It is almost a lose-lose scenario because when they call corporate...the story and facts get very embellished, and corporate has a tendency to side with the customer. Have a great day! HUG=GASMS!!!

rm_CuummDrop 50F
2591 posts
8/25/2006 9:28 pm

Ummm,, being from the North, and now the South,, there is a Definete difference in "Culture"... Please do not take what i have to say as being ugly or crass... But as being in the retail business myself, and also in Law Enforcement, in there attitudes is a big difference... down here, they want us "whites" to forget, but they keeping bringing it up as in racial slurs. Up North, i never had a problem with the "Difference".. As with myself many a years ago, my daughter was hanging out with the WRONG crowd at school,,, one of my employee's who happened to be black and she helped me with housework and such,,, called her a "N"... You have NO idea how that word alone makes me cringe,.. It's a bad word in my house..PERIOD..

She got her mouth washed out with soap on that very same afternoon when Bessie told me about it... As i explained to my daughter, we are all the same,, some got a darker more better tan than us... that's my take on it...

But as far as the North and the South,,, Very different opinions... Very.. both sides of the fence.. that is...

Hugsss to you tad (i'm on my break,, thought i would pop in,, and give ya a hug or two... have missed ya... )...


Now won't last forever, so use it wisely~c

tadpudgy replies on 8/26/2006 3:39 am:
Thanks! Missed you too! My dad was born in North Carolina, as was I, and i was exposed to many Aunts/Uncles/cousins who were 'old-school' southerners. Dad enlisted when he was 16. That experience changed him in alot of ways. He raised us to see character not color. I see many sides of this issue too. There are times when reverse-discrimination rears its head in the retail world when someone will jump all over you because they think you are behaving a certain way because of their race. Sometimes i just shake my head! Many, many Big ol HUGS to you!!!! James!!!!!

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
8/26/2006 8:28 am

I'm afraid I would have been tempted to have said...
"The colored guy...which color? The green guys aren't
working today and the lavender men take center stage on
Then again...more times than not I
just get a *hit* to keep my big mouth shut. I think that
people just are where they are...and sometimes things come
out of their mouth than just slide out without thought.

In the meantime, I believe that God was quite the artist
with his paint brush when He was designing skin and other
kinds of earthyly flesh in the big picture...

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

tadpudgy replies on 8/26/2006 4:13 pm:
So true Ms Goddess. If i tried to inject humor, it would have probably made it worse. Oh well, he has to live his life his own way. I am grateful God made so much wonderful variety! HUG=GASMS!!!

rm_YGB_fran 34F
1434 posts
9/1/2006 8:16 pm

I used to work with a man who was pretty rough, he had major problems with anyone who wasn't white and it was hard to deal with because he was loud and obnoxious about it. There was also a lady who happened to be a lesbian and she got married (which is legal here) and he couldn't or I should say wouldn't just be happy for her. Instead he just made nasty remarks to anyone who would listen. I don't get people like that.

He even thought it was okay to make fun of me because I'm half Italian.

You're a good person Tad.

YGB_fran muuaah muuaah

tadpudgy replies on 9/1/2006 8:25 pm:
Thanks Fran.......I have had some fun with how some responses have poked fun about it...and expressed genuine feelings about how they deal with similar situations in their everyday life. You are good people too..thanks for making me feel like 'family'!! HUG=GASMS!!!

bustybettyboop 51F  
59326 posts
9/1/2006 8:52 pm

i worked at toys r' us during christmas time as extra income several years back and i ran into so many people like that. people would look around to find a white person and ask questions like,"do u have any white baby dolls in this?" my dear friend and i that worked there..gosh i miss her..anyway we'd play this game..i would call her up after someone would ask me that (in front of customer) and tell her that these people wanted a white baby in whatever the dolls name was and she'd say something like,"don't they want a sweet black baby?" i would afraid not they said only a white baby..etc..they'd get sooo embarrassed. i told one woman who wanted a white barbie that wouldn't she like her daughter to have all different nationality barbies that way she knew that not everyone was blue eyed blondes? she said her daughter only played w/white barbies..i told her my daughter had barbies of every color and shape and even handicapped ones too. i said i teach my daughter not to judge anyone and that the differences in people make life much more interesting,i tell her that if we get cut we bleed the same color..who cares if we have different colored skin. i teach my daughter to love everyone and not to judge and hate. they were a bit uncomfortable but i couldn't take anymore of there nasty comments about teaching there child that blacks were bad. don't associate w/them. another prime example was when i took a friend to a welfare appt. i took my daughter and we waited outside for her. there were these cute little blonde girls playing and they asked my daughter who is also a blonde to play..when a small little black girl came up to them and asked to daughter took her hand and said sure..the other girls made a face and walked away.there parents gave them dirty looks and told there children to play away from them. my daughter shrugged it off and told the girl...oh well we'll have more fun without them..and continued to play with the girl!
i guess i was quite the chatterbox now,huh? hugz,lis

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tadpudgy replies on 9/2/2006 4:08 am:
I would like to believe we are not born this is a taught thing. Even though my dad grew up in 'old-school' south, he instilled better values, and what to look for when judging a persons character. Still, i get left with my jaw in hand at ignorance sometimes!!! HUG=GASMS!!

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