Do guys and girls ever meet on this site?  

sxcurves4u 53F
260 posts
3/5/2006 10:31 am
Do guys and girls ever meet on this site?

I meet all the time, but the approach of many guys here is just too forward for women:

A guy wanting sex with a woman seems easy enough. A woman wanting sex with a guy MAKES HER feel like she's sleazy or a free tramp. And then if she does get intimate on the first date, the guy feels like she sleeps around anyway so he won't see her again which is lame, hypocrite. If she doesn't want intimacy on the first date then why is she on AdultFriendFinder, the guy will think... right? Then he feels rejected because guys, your EGO is a problem sex wise... it's so sad...

So meeting is not the problem. What goes on between the ears is. Men and women view sex

Anyway. Here are my 2 cents.

BTW: I met guys that wouldn't leave me alone after 1 encounter. But I didn't plan on having a relationship with them just because of a 1 nighter. Do guys have to deal with that too?


sxcurves4u 53F

3/5/2006 10:55 am

Who I am as a woman and what kind o men I like to meet:

I'm impulsive but also easily overwhelmed. I believe if we were not who we are as women and men however, The Human experience would be so boring and not challenging enough to bring us to maximum potential.

I run from men that are not colourful, bored and stuffy and have no expectations in life or from women. They are no challenge to me.

WE are no bargain to figure out:
Women are way up and way down about all kinds o stuff all the time. We would love nothing better than to be stable too by the way! BUT when we wake in morning we never know how we will react to you guys! Isn't life grand!

sxcurves4u 53F

3/5/2006 3:43 pm

My lovers have a hard time with cumin fast...

I always take it as a compliment when a guys is so excited he can't hold back... We just get working on the next round right away...

I know I take a while to get excited and if the guy is too rushed to the hole, it kills the mood for me. Probably the same for other ladies but they will never admit by fear of killing your self-confidence so we fake orgasm all the time.

But I found that if you jerk off b4 you meet the woman it's easier to hold. Also working on pleasing her for a long time way b4 your slip in helps. Make her desire you for a long time and then when she is yearning for ya, then you are both gonna experience Bliss!

RockPebble 70M
2493 posts
3/6/2006 12:15 pm

I'll never understand guys that send emails like that, I couldn't.

It seems like you put a lot of thought into sex and relationships. It is hard to relate to the roller coaster emotions of most women but some of us do try.

CaligulaJones2 52M
10 posts
3/7/2006 7:00 pm

I've always told guys that desperate men will only attract desperate women (and vice-versa of course!).

CaligulaJones2 52M
10 posts
3/13/2006 8:08 pm

Just noticed this in Section 5C of the Terms of Use:

By posting content to any public area of AdultFriendFinder, you automatically grant, and you represent and warrant that you have the right to grant, to Various, Inc. and its members, an irrevocable, perpetual, non-exclusive, fully-paid, worldwide license to use, copy, perform, display, and distribute such information, rights of publicity, and content and to prepare derivative works of, or incorporate into other works and other media, such information and content, and to grant and authorize sublicenses of the foregoing. For privacy terms, please refer to our Privacy Policy.

Be careful of that part about "...copy...and distribute such information and content and to prepare derivative works of, or incorporate into other works and other media..."

I was googling something, and noticed that the posts I had made here on AdultFriendFinder showed up on another half dozen different websites, none of which I have ever seen before.

The most bizarre was that one showed up on a lesbian site, despite the post being about a glory hole, complete with a picture of my dick!

Again, beware...

SmedlySuperGophr 53M

3/18/2006 7:34 am

A good woman, like you, is worth waiting for. I love that you always speak your mind and don't hold back. Sleazy is just a term used by men that are threatened by women who are Sexual and Free and refuse to be Owned or Controlled.

If everyone did their part to heal society ... what a wonderful world it would be. Keep up the good work ...

I'm sure I'd have a tough time holding back with you as well ....

sxcurves4u 53F

3/19/2006 12:31 pm

Thanks for joinin in this one Smed!

You always have the way to make me feel like a million bucks when I need it the most. Thanks for being you, Hun!

Calig, I appreciate you warning us about the privacy terms. I didn't read them I admit. Thank you for being there for me too!

I wonder if I can be allowed to feel a bit o pride if another site bothers to use my pic and stuff. Seems to me that it means I had something worthwhile to share. Is that too innocent thinking?

Be well gentlemen!


CaligulaJones2 52M
10 posts
3/22/2006 4:22 pm

Hey curvy:

You definitely should be proud of that cuddly body! From what I can see, that is; will definitely have to see more sometime.

But, yeah, that is an innocent thought. Unfortunately, it looks like a scam. AdultFriendFinder doesn't have a good reputation, spam-wise, and it looks like they are playing fast and lose with our posts.

Here is where I saw my stuff, there are probably others:


of course, all of these are those D O T calm addys.

BTW: a new job and moving at the same time! You are one brave lady...good luck with both.

sxcurves4u 53F

3/25/2006 4:55 am

Thanks for the encouragement Calig!

I have been quite busy tackling both for the past month. Believe me though, I prefer to be busy doing these positive changes than staying put in crappy circumstances. I believe that I'm the creator of my reality and I deserve better settings work wise and living conditions wise. I'm moving closer to my new work to a cheaper place... All better! If you feel up to it, I do need help with moving some furniture by the end of March... lol!

P.S. Thanks for the links.

Take care now!


smackyman 47M
3849 posts
3/29/2006 11:50 pm

Comments like 'Lets fuck lady ok?' are just plain disrespectful to yourself and women in general. I can honestly say I don't get anything like that, but I certainly sympathize with you.
I haven't met anyone from AdultFriendFinder - it simply isn't why I am here. Having said that though - I wouldn't rule out the right person, place and experience if it were come to pass.
Do you really feel on here that if a woman is interested in having sex that she is made to feel by men as sleezy or a tramp? I certainly hope not because there is nothing wrong with wanting to have fun and get laid! Good luck with it all...
BTW - someone said something about you having a new job - congrats on that and the move!

sxcurves4u 53F

3/30/2006 5:24 am

Hi Smacky,

I chose to change my settings to the max so I wouldn't get these messages from the low life kinds... I have identified them but don't need to point them out.

That said, I have met many very classy men here but they seem to enjoy the one time hit and I never see them or hear from them again so I end up losing interest in meeting anyone, to be honest.

Men seem to think, on this site, that others don't have feelings, they are just bodies to have fun with. I beg to differ. On the other hand, I met a much younger guy that called me every 2 days after we met, for a long time. I knew it was not a serious thing but I seemed to be the item to call when he was bored. He had nothing to do with his Sunday nights so I was to be there for him. What am I missing here?

I feel like there is no perfect way to have a sexual partner that cares about the other without have some kind of devious attachment.
That's why women are scarce on this site. Men can't seem to know where to draw the line. Or please tell me, did I miss something?

I lived as a single woman in Montreal for many years and had a few loyal fuck friends which were great friends and still are to this day. Why is it not like that here? I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Ok enough venting now.

BTW, thanks for the support! I sure need it these days as so much is going on. Can't wait to be stable and bored again... hahahaha!


smackyman 47M
3849 posts
4/1/2006 8:24 am

Quick note - I saw your post to the Toronto Masterbation group and your move date of April 1st. If you are still moving some of your furniture tomorrow I can help you out. I aplogize for the late notice. (chances are you won't have your computer up and running in the middle of a move! *grin*) Don't need anything in exchange - all on the up and up of just wanting to help.
Take care!

rm_pagan801229 67M

4/15/2006 8:38 pm

You certainly seem interesting and confident. Sex and relationships have many dimentions.,.,would like to talk more but not in an open forum. I'm attrative, intelligent, fit and well equiped male.

30 posts
10/16/2006 2:39 pm

I have played the game here for sometime.

Emails,phone calls ect..

Usually starts out all intense and peeters out.

Not to mention the outright lies and being stood up on numerous occasions.

You seem to be the only person here who gets it..

Not all men here are dip shits who send emails like "lets fuck!"

It is a small minority that makes the rest look bad.

sxcurves4u 53F

10/16/2006 6:09 pm

I agree Andy.

I have to admit that I got stood up many times too. It hurts my ego just as bad but Iam a collector by trade and don't take no for an answer: meaning I never give up/ I know what I'm worth and figure it's their loss if they have no manners when they don't follow thru.

I desevre better.

You know Andy, I was answering deep's discussion about whether I knew what I wanted. Do I push away the good guys because I am scared of getting hurt and just hang out with the one nighers?

I'm still meditating that one.

What do others think?

Thanks for giving me hope Andy!
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