no strings???  

sweetemotion661 56F
24 posts
3/22/2006 8:45 pm

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3/30/2006 10:47 pm

no strings???

The other day I was reading a post from Safira & it made me really think about something I had thought of before. On her 100 things about her she said that for those looking for a no strings relationship, with her they could count on at least a few strings.

We read here all the time about people looking for a no strings relationship. I question if it is really possible for most people. After all, for no strings to work it would mean that BOTH parties know the relationship is only about sex, and there never could be any sort of binds that could potentially tie them together down the road.

Here's the thing, I believe most people ARE looking for something more than just a sexual thing. I believe most are looking for something deeper, more meaningful and long lasting then just a good romp. I mean, start a "no strings relationhsip" you intend for it to be just sexual....but what happens when the two people click, find they like each other...then it potentially can turn into something one, the other or both consider to be more than a "no strings" thing.

In my opinion, be it right or wrong, the only way 2 people could truly have a no strings thing is if they KNOW there isn't any potential long term chemistry there. Sexual chemistry, yes...but no emotional chemistry, they know they couldn't be together for anything more than sex.

Sure...all of us have had one night stands (haven't we???) but that seems to differ from the no strings posts I read here. There are really people out there who believe they can have a "fuck buddy" they don't know well and not expect any emotional feelings to grow? I can't help but imagine people would fall into the "what if" this person & I grow into something more?

What do you it truly possible for two people who don't know each other well to have a true no strings relationship? Or could I be right, that a relationship could only be had like that with someone you KNEW you had no "future" with?

Sorceror07 55M

3/22/2006 10:55 pm

i think that's really only possible with a one nighter, or one weekender deal. any more than that and bonds start forming, it happens whether you seek them or not.

...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!...

_Safira 55F
11260 posts
3/23/2006 9:49 am

Sweet ~ Thanks for the shout-out, my dear. For me it's all about the friendship and trust. I am so very careful as to whom I let into my life that they are most assuredly friends before things progress to a physical level. Does that happen sooner sometimes than others. Yes ... but not lately.

And if you couldn't at least be friends with someone with whom you're having sex ... why bother?

Not a sermon ... Just my own skewed view on reality.

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.


sweetemotion661 56F

3/24/2006 6:27 am

couldn't agree with you more Safira.........friends yes, but I can't help but believe that "no strings" for real is very very rare. That's why I'm so amazed so many "say" they are looking for "no strings".

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