Love...Chance or Choice?  

steamyandsexybi 45F
3170 posts
8/3/2006 9:16 pm

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8/5/2006 8:39 pm

Love...Chance or Choice?

When Love...



When we meet the right person to love when we're at the right place at

the right time. That's chance.



When you meet someone you you're

attracted to,that's not a choice. That's chance. Being caught up in a

moment (and there's a lot of couples who get together because of this)

is not a choice. That's also a chance.



The difference is what happens afterward. When will you take that

infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next

level? That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate

whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a

fling.



If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not a

chance. That's choice. When you choose to be with a person, no matter

what, that's choice. Even if you know there are many people out there

who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet,

you decide to love your mate just the same, that's choice.

Infatuation, crushes, attraction comes to us by chance. But true love

that lasts is truly a choice. A choice that we make.

Regarding soulmates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I believe

is so true about this: "Fate brings you together, but it's still up to

you to make it happen."



I do believe that soulmates do exist. That there is truly someone made

for you. But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're going

to do something about it or not. We may meet our soulmates by chance,

but loving and staying true and faithful with our soulmate is still a

choice we have to make. if u love each other, no time will be wasted

to be with each other, that's a concrete relationship.




phoenix639 50F

8/4/2006 12:35 am

How very true.

Youve changed lately in your blogs....youre opening up & mellowing lots.

Its lovely.


steamyandsexybi 45F
2784 posts
8/4/2006 6:05 am

phoenix,

Yes,I guess I've been letting myself wander a little more than usual when it comes to the 'softer' things. In fact, I've had it be a huge downfall for most of my life. -sometimes I'm better at keeping the wall up and other times I feel as if I need to just let it down. The last few days, I just needed to let the wall break;so to speak...
I'll always have my sarcasm and I'll always keep my filthy, perverted mind (lol) but I'm just as human as the next.
We all have feelings.Some are just better at blocking them out at times.
Thanks!


phoenix639 50F

8/4/2006 8:43 am

    Quoting steamyandsexybi:
    phoenix,

    Yes,I guess I've been letting myself wander a little more than usual when it comes to the 'softer' things. In fact, I've had it be a huge downfall for most of my life. -sometimes I'm better at keeping the wall up and other times I feel as if I need to just let it down. The last few days, I just needed to let the wall break;so to speak...
    I'll always have my sarcasm and I'll always keep my filthy, perverted mind (lol) but I'm just as human as the next.
    We all have feelings.Some are just better at blocking them out at times.
    Thanks!
Ahhhh those pesky walls...

My walled mow blog posting has actually taught me a fair bit about myself you know, never expected that at all.

A strange sense of calm came over me yesterday....feels good.


steamyandsexybi 45F
2784 posts
8/5/2006 8:39 pm

phoenix,
I've noticed you made a little switch a roo in your profile...and.....ya do seem a bit more at ease in your change of heart of wanting a man! Good for you!

Sometimes, we all need that time...even if its just a little...to just gather our thoughts back and 'get through' something we had high hopes on.

I really do wish you the best of luck with everything! YOU deserve it!!


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