spunky11961 56M
37213 posts
8/28/2006 10:20 am

Around one year ago today,My mom fell down the stairs,crushing her ankle.Two surgeries,26 screws,2 rods and a plate later,I had to put her in the home.She knew just as well as I,that I wasn't able to see to her needs.The 30th is her birthday,and last year she spent it there. Four months later I finally brought her home,it took that long for her to heal and to learn walk again.She was more than glad to be back in her own house!
I'm my moms caregiver,between her stroke and the fall,she has continual needs. what with work and all her needs,I find little time for much else. But in the time between,I've found a great place to escape,a place to enjoy,a place to scream,rant and to rave, And a great place just to have fun. That place is here!

I'm behind as all hell in my comments,I hope to reply to all those tonight,Sorry!~

I just spell checked this,no mistakes at all


lustcurious42 57F

8/29/2006 10:21 pm

Ahhhh, my first visit to your blog and you just endeared me to your heart!!

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 3:07 pm:
Well Thank You and welcome here!That was very touching and very kind of You ~Always welcome here anytime~

digdug41 50M

8/29/2006 8:53 am

She's lucky to have you, glad you have a place to go and reach the outside world from right at home

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 3:02 pm:
Thanx Dig,That means a lot to me coming from you,I'm glad I got that place as well,don't know what I'd do with out it!~

ThatDamnCowboy 62M
10812 posts
8/29/2006 3:28 am

You're a helluva man, Spunky. I'm looking at a similar situation in the future as my Mom's getting on a bit. Thankfully she's vibrant and self-sufficient right now. She'll never leave the home she raised 6 kids in unless there's no other way. All my siblings have their own homes and families and would try and force her to come live with them. That leaves it down to me to respect her wishes and return to Space City when the time comes. I hope I can boast the same love, patience and determination that you have when it does.

Wish me luck

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spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:59 pm:
Thank You C, And I do wisgh You luck there,But You're a good man,You've already thought this out,Many never even consider it! And truth be known I don't always do this with Love and compassion,Some days I let it all drag me down! You'll do fine I can tell!~keep in touch on that~

tadpudgy 57M

8/29/2006 2:09 am

I appreciate your comments Spunky. Thanks for email too. It isn't easy for us to add to our lives like that, but when it comes to our mom's, it's a no-brainer!!!! you a good man too!!!

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:56 pm:
Thank you Tad, As I do yours and email as well,You're also a good man there My friend!~

LONELY5207 49M
261 posts
8/28/2006 10:50 pm

Hey Bro,

You are a good man and she is lucky to have you as a son. Most people put there parent's in a home and see them once a year, the way I see it is they spent the time to change your diper's and care for us when they get old it become's our time to do the same.


spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:54 pm:
Thanx Bro,That means a lot to me there, and you're right More should take the time to pay back what they've gotten from their parents!~

Passion247000 47F
3195 posts
8/28/2006 9:09 pm

    Quoting LipsSayAll:
    It's weird how almost guilty we feel when "real life" and our obligations mess up with this addictive pastime of ours....the good thing is we all understand that it happens to each and every one of us once in while...

    Spunky, you're doing good!
Dido what Lips said.... so true....

Bless you, spunky for taking care of your mom....I know it is extremely difficult to see someone dear to you in so much pain.... Take care and don't feel bad about spending time on the blog...You need your time too....

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:51 pm:
Passion,Thank You! I really don't feel so bad about the time spent here as much as I do about not replying to the comments left for me,I've always replied to each one and visited the commenter as well,and I'm behind in that right now!~ Your kind words here really mean a lot to me,Thanx

countryheart_71 46F
8081 posts
8/28/2006 7:36 pm

Spunky, you are the best!

You're there when you are needed
No matter what the cost
You care so deeply
Your heart is never a loss
You will get your reward
When the time is right
You are a great man
Your love is bright


spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:45 pm:
Hey Country,Thank You for the poem! That was very nice(The poem was great!)I'm honored by your words and that you wrote that for me

sexyariesgirl 58F

8/28/2006 6:24 pm

I so agree with all that has been said already! And like you, I am so thankful to have this place to run away to!

Power To FOK

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:42 pm:
Thank You Sexyaries,And I do agree,without this place to run away to,I don't know what I'd do.There is no where else quite like here! And I'm thankful for it!~

twirly_girl 48F

8/28/2006 5:34 pm

You don't even realize how alike we are.
I'm in a similar situation. It's hard,
It's confining, It's exhausting and
undeniably depressing at times. LOL
It's even harder to hide those things from
the one you are caring for. For me, it's always
a smile, always a laugh and always a helping hand
at the ready.

Despite all the stress involved we are doing a
wonderful thing. We still do it out of love and respect.




spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:37 pm:
Well Nic, That is surprising,But yet it doesn't surprise me where you're concerned, I can see you doing just that. It reallly helps to know there are others out there as well,maybe we could talk about this some time~ Thank You so much for sharing that{=}

rm_Smile_My_Way 60M
1519 posts
8/28/2006 5:13 pm

Spunky I'm proud of you, your a good son.

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:32 pm:
Smile, Thank You,that means a lot to me coming from you friend~

Sweetpickles69 48F

8/28/2006 4:59 pm

Hopefully, there will be a special reward waiting for you in heaven, for taking care of your mom! I have a great respect for guys who take care of their relatives. I know it can be challenging at times, but hang in there!



spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:28 pm:
Thanx Pickles, That really was nice there,means a lot to me as well

rm_sexxikritter 53F
2715 posts
8/28/2006 4:13 pm

Well, Spunky, don't you worry too much about the commenting. You do what you have to for your mom and just give us a story once in awhile on here. We're all understanding folks. Bless your heart for taking care of her and for caring abouyt our feelings. You're a doll!


spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 2:25 pm:
Thank You Kritter,That means a lot to me,your kind words there But I do it because it I'm the only one in my family that will or can, it's either that or the home and I can't see that!~

Balibabe19 43F

8/28/2006 2:48 pm

What you are doing is an admirable and selfless act. Well Done!

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 10:21 am:
Well Thanx Balibabe,I see it as just something I have to do though,But Your kind words mean a lot to me here Really!

IAmRubytuesday 56F
3193 posts
8/28/2006 2:22 pm

You're a good guy Spunky, and a brilliant story teller. xxx

Q.2 flies in an airing cupboard. Which one's the soldier?
A.The one on the tank.

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 10:18 am:
Roobs, Thank You for both of those That means a lot to me

VCF1962 106F

8/28/2006 1:29 pm

You're a good man Spunky and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I openly admit that I don't know if I could do it in my current situation. If I gave up my job to look after her, then I would lose my own home - would take some re arraning that's for sure.

I hope your own health is improving too.

Take care of you and you know we love your stories of Tat boy, Henri and Tiffy and the farm. You spin a great yarn !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 10:13 am:
hey You V, That means a lot to me!I know what ya mean,I was lucky there,My ex to be had recently left so I was able to do this without losing much,the rearranging was still difficult though! And yes my health is improving,I'm back to work again.Thank You for all your kind words and glad you like my stories

eclecticsoul4u 58F
942 posts
8/28/2006 1:01 pm

that's really great that you brought her home after she was well alot of people would have left her there.

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 10:08 am:
Thank you,I know what ya mean,those places are usually just warehouses for those waiting to die,I wish more would do the same,that's no way or place to live

lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/28/2006 12:07 pm

And I know you know that about your mom...just stating the obvious again

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 10:06 am:
Thanx Lis,Not a problem, I knew just what ya meant

lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/28/2006 12:05 pm

now don't you be worrying about your comments. You do just fine.

And your are so blessed to have her. I know it's a lot of time but it's worth it...every minute. Truly it is.

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 10:04 am:
Thanx Lis,that was very nice!It's good to have friends like you,that really helps

ButteryDelight 59F

8/28/2006 12:05 pm

Taking care of a relative is never easy,Spunky. I did it for my mom when she had lung cancer. I am so glad that I gave up my time to take care of her. It brought us closer together.

It is great that you do it. I wish more could or would.

Buttery Delight

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 10:02 am:
Thanx Buttery,It does help ya get to know them better that's for sure!
It can be tough but is well worth it in the end. Sorry to hear your mom had cancer but at least she had you instead of the rest home,Good job there

silverbreeze2 66F

8/28/2006 11:54 am

I know where your coming from Spunky, I am my husband's caregiver too. If it wasn't for this computer and talking with friends here, I hate to think what life would be like. We do what we have to do, but everyone needs some little piece of space, to do something just for them. I am so very grateful for meeting people here, reading the Blogs, and being able to make comments and read what others have said.

It is something I look forward too every day.

Special THANKS to all the caregivers in the world, and THANKS to all of you for giving people something to look forward too.

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 9:59 am:
Thanx Pat,I agree with that! You're doing a great as a caregiver there! Thanx for our talks as well

Cozy_Red 51F

8/28/2006 11:30 am

Your mom is lucky to have ya Spunky

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 9:56 am:
Thanx Cozy,that means alot, But your mom is lucky to have you as well good thing you're doing there!~

lovemetouchme5 52F
2102 posts
8/28/2006 11:28 am

Spunky, You are a good man for doing this! I know it's hard a times, but you're mom really appreciates it..


spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 9:54 am:
Thanx Loveme,Yea it's tough at times,just as we've discussed,but it's still something I feel I need to do!~

goodatpoetry2 68M
16569 posts
8/28/2006 11:16 am

That's so decent of you to watch over her. So many people nowdays are callous. Mom's are special, as you seem to know.

spunky11961 replies on 8/30/2006 9:52 am:
Thanx Man,It just seems better than letting her go to the home,she's still to young for that!

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