Cautionary Tale!  

splinkee 33F
561 posts
3/15/2005 8:23 pm

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8/22/2006 9:17 pm

Cautionary Tale!

About a year ago I met this guy thru AdultFriendFinder. He was everything I was looking for: mature, rich, handsome, charming, literate and intelligent and very sexy. We started seeing each other - so far so good. In fact it was awesome. He opened me up to experiences and sensations I'd never thought possible and helped me to express myself sexually without feeling guilty and ashamed of my nasty desires and fantasies. And then the dream became a nightmare. One day his wife turned up and confronted me. She was news to me. He'd told me he was a long time separated but it turned out he was going home to her every night and this was just a line he spun me to get me into bed. I felt pretty used and I guess I was naive, but to other guys out there who lie on AdultFriendFinder ‒ those lies will catch up with you and you fuck it up for gals like me who end up having to be really cautious about meeting and trusting people they meet online.

rm_ClearWater51 66M
5 posts
3/15/2005 9:15 pm

Sorry to hear your story, but many guys ot here neither lie nor are married, just keep trying!

rm_JustKurious 65M

3/16/2005 12:49 am

It's a shame ... an experience like that .. [and I am sure you are not alone] ... impact those of us who are just trying to fulfill desires with those of like minds ...

I would love to have time with you ... but ... could not do it .. if it meant that someone was destined to get hurt or fucked up because of it ...

Keep the faith ... there are guys in here .. that are honest about who they are ...

Good luck ...

xmplifyx 42M

3/16/2005 4:33 am

Just take it this way: you have made a further experience in your life, although it ended up in a desaster. Unfortunately, we all tend to increase our expectations with each experiences, thus, the next persons will be measured on your high expectations. Therefore, just take your time. When the men shows real interest in you he won't push you to fast into something. However, you can only trust on that he is telling the truth and this is the basis for each relationship...

rm_digits1000 63M

3/16/2005 4:34 am

I'm saddened to hear your tale splinkee , , , cyber (((hugs))) for 'ya , , , , I will be checking back keep up with your daily posting toodles

SigEp4U 43M

3/16/2005 5:49 am

Sorry... that just sucks.

Hope your able to move on... and find whatever you are looking for. I am sure there are times where you wish you could just kill this dude... that is if his wife hasn't already done so... lol!

Anyway... hope all's going well for you now.


LimesMastsAvoid 71M
456 posts
3/16/2005 6:42 am

Dearest Lady , some clues: 1) Get his home number 2) check out his wallet 3) look in the glove compartment 4)never around when you need him 5) doesn't return messages at night 6) does't introduce you to his friends....

splinkee 33F

3/16/2005 6:56 pm

Thanx for the huGz everyone! It was a fucken FREAKY experience, the way she looked at me - I never want another human being to look at me like that again. This all happened in the middle of my mid-year exams too. A mega stressful time. But I guess I am all the better for it now and the relationship did kinda bring me outa my shell sexually (the sex was AWESOME!!). I can ALMOST look back and laugh now!!!

THanks for the clues 4plait. Great advice and I've written it down on a postitnote which i've put in my purse.

Jerosd 48M

3/17/2005 5:07 am

well 4 plait u just described 99% of us i think u have to narrow it down a

splinkee 33F

3/22/2005 9:29 pm

Does that mean only 1% of you are decent and honest?

rm_toohotque 51M
179 posts
3/23/2005 5:46 am

I'm single. I'll take you kayaking this summer. I enjoy RSVP Boner-Tanning. No wife, just paws.


rm_JustKurious 65M

3/24/2005 2:12 am

I HAVE to believe it is more than 1% of us ...

SingleRebel4U 35M

3/25/2005 3:15 pm

I do too, but I consider myself in that 1%: Young single, , sexy grad student seeking young, open, sexy, intelligent, and very sexual female. Open to a relationship, but no strings attached!

now_wenchless 49M
3 posts
7/17/2005 7:15 am

As always it only takes a few assholes to screw things up for everyone. Sorry you had to meet one.

justaguy21357 61M

8/14/2005 2:12 pm to listen, listen, listen from the start and ask questions, check them out. if they are honest they will be willing to sort things out and spend some time, if not they may be hiding something. several years ago i had a few mfm 3somes with a couple and when we first met we spent the whole day together just talking and getting to know each other. we set up the 3some a week later ...time and observation of behavior is the best way i know to find out about someone. in the end i'd say the wife did you a favor, would you really want to invest any more time with someone like that?

herestherub 65M
31 posts
11/12/2005 10:39 pm

You're no orphan I'm willing to bet!
Better Luck next time.
At least you've helped to create his much deserved LIVING HELL.

woofff 42F

2/21/2006 7:25 am

Dear S
Am so sorry to hear you got hurt.Is happening with me so I know you must've felt helplessly angry at being used.

With a polite sniff,

MisterHankyPanky 57M
1 post
2/24/2006 3:01 pm

Hi Splinkee,
Sorry to hear about your bad experience. Some men can be pigs and they give the rest of us a bad name, but don't give up hope, there are still some of us here who are genuine. I wish you all the best for the future and in your quest.

HorsesGoneWild 49M

8/22/2006 8:50 pm

    Quoting splinkee:
    Does that mean only 1% of you are decent and honest?
Yes Miss, you are correct.

HorsesGoneWild 49M

8/22/2006 9:00 pm

    Quoting splinkee:
    Does that mean only 1% of you are decent and honest?
You must feel used and unworthy, but your not at all, speeking from experience, what dont kill you makes you stronger bla bla bla , It still makes you PISSED, do you want me to get even for you? My X-W and him should get what they diserve.

turq6969 71M
553 posts
9/5/2006 2:44 am

I hope she realized that you were also a victim of this scum. The ratio of men to women on this site makes it difficult for us honest guys to meet a woman. Now we have another example of a guy passing himself off as being available. I hope you are still open minded for us other honest guys.

Peace and Love,
Turq {=}

Peace and Love,

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