spielmitmir72 45F
37 posts
8/31/2006 11:19 am

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two weeks ago, i went to my local pub to meet my dad and friends whom i go to the football with, nothing strange there, but i looked to my right as i entered the pub and was sur ei saw my we brothe (whom we had a disagreement with the week before)
I mentioned it to my friend and was told i was imagining things.
Never thought anything more of it, went to the game, which was good, we won and proceeded back to our local afterwards.

Now, when we have home games my day is spent in my local afterwards which i love!

Next morning 1st thing my mobile rang -it was my dad - i ignored it as i thot it was irrelivent.
then my house phone rang and i instantly got worried so answered the phone . . .my dad was in tears on the other end and i instantly knew what was wrong, my brother had died the day before and i was devastated!

Then i began to remember the image i had of him in our local the day before and put that to a few people, he was already dead by then but this has given me much sleepless nights since.

I cant sleep or eat, without thinking of him, he was so funny and i find myself goin from hysterical crying to hysterical laughter in a split second! iv had a few close bereavements in the last year but this has got me bad . . . .are thr any people out thr who cud put my mind at rest and let me know he is ok etc??

silverhawk762 52M/48F

8/31/2006 11:38 am

I think he already let you know that by showing himself at the pub - I don't think that seeing him was an imagined experience... {=}

n1c3guyJB 38M
13 posts
8/31/2006 1:01 pm

Defo you haven't imagined things.
That was his way to say good bye.
No worries... he is in a better place - no doubt about it - no matter what you belive in.
My very close friend died couple of years back and I still feel his presence and even more - his guidance to my life.
It might be foolish, but sometimes I'm dreaming a real conversation with him... we talk about things, laugh, have a drink... then I wake up with new energy to struggle through the life.

My advice - think about him as much as you can. Talk to him in your moments of joy and moments of sadnes... and look at the sky often.
Take care.
He is thinking about you, defo.

Hope there was more I could do to ease your pain...
Don't moarn about him - remember the good things.

rm_puff144 66M
256 posts
8/31/2006 2:00 pm

Well said n1c3guyJB,my grand father died in 1957 and has been with me in tough times.

GuyFromEK 50M

8/31/2006 4:05 pm

I have had something similar happen to me, when I was younger, a girlfriend of mines died and I saw her, only difference was I knew at the time she had died and found seeing her hurt still, I turned away and when i looked back she was gone, will never forget the smile on her face either.

When I look back now I feel it was her saying goodbye.

I dont think you should worry about your brother, but think about how he is now going to be looking out for you and may give you strength when you need it through your life. Try instead of tryign to sleep but perhaps think of your brother and the love you had for him and let it envelope you and you may find sleep comes easier.

Take good care

Frankie x

rmrlt1 68M

9/1/2006 7:26 am

This was not your imagination - don't lose any sleep over this - he is telling you he is OK - later on the night my wife died I heard her voice telling me she loved me - so treasure that memory


spielmitmir72 45F

9/1/2006 2:04 pm

well i must say a huge thankyou to you all, I am so glad you dont all think ive lost my marbles!his friend actually died the same week and were both buried on the same day, i kinda take some comfort from the fact he might have been with him, we lost our mum recently too, so we know he is in good company!
I think about him all the time and constantly call my son by his name.

Im not religous at all, but i am very spiritual, although i dont feel him with me.

n1c3guyJB I dont miss my mum at all, as like you, i dream about her every night. My dreams are always mental and make no sense, but when i dream of her they make perfect sense!

Glad to know im not alone, take care one and all . . . .. so pleased you responded.

tracy_de_lacy 106F
9268 posts
9/8/2006 6:40 am

This happens a lot when people pass over. He was there to say goodbye to you. Because you had a fight before he died, he wouldn't be able to pass over without letting you know he still loved you. He obviously loved you very much, cos you were the one out of all your family he just had to see before moving on. You are very lucky, seeing him there is now your last memory of him, rather than the fight, that was the point of his visit.

He is definately ok and if ya haven't seen him since he has moved over quite happily.

There is a chance you might dream about him over the next few weeks, if you do, pay real close attention to the dream, his message will be in it.

Bye everyone, it was a blast

spielmitmir72 45F

9/8/2006 10:57 am

tracey, im writing this through tears at the moment, everyone who replied has been so kind and i take great comfort in what you had to say!

Iv been dreaming about him and my mum (who we also lost recently) every night and the dreams make total sense to me . . . . .and always with a bit of humour thrown in! found some fab pictures of him today and been a bit upset . . .but i have plans for them!!!! lol

rm_lustygirl71 46F

9/9/2006 1:14 am

I had a dream a few weeks after losing my dad that he ewas standing on a bridge with his wee dog, I was on the other side of the bridge, and the sun was reflecting on the water. He was waving at me, before he went onto the bridge. I told my mum about this and she told me that the dog had gone missing, she hadn't wanted to say as I had wanted the dog but she thought it best to give him to a friend of my dad's. Anyway, the dog never turned up again, wierd eh, but I got a lot of comfort from that dream. Hope you're ok hun. x

rm_foxed35 107M
7 posts
9/11/2006 3:50 am

i had a dream after my dad died and really felt him with me even after i woke i believe he just wanted me to know he would always be with me and crazy though it may sound i say morning to him as his picture is in my kitchen and feel so much closer to him since i started doing this take care !!

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