Inter Play  

somethingelse40 76M
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7/3/2006 5:14 pm

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Inter Play

“Getting anywhere at all on the ocean of life ...

calls for a complicated kind of navigation known as Human Relations. The hazards to be faced … may be as large as an armada of friends and neighbors, or as small as a single spouse. Regardless of your plans, it always helps to know your position (if you have one), and to be aware of which way the wind is blowing.

“People have of course been relating to each other for thousands of years, but for some reason, that does not seem to have made it any easier to do. Over the ages, various “Golden Rules” have been proposed (including the one that says, “Whoever has the Gold makes the Rules”, but we have not yet eliminated all conflicts, possibly because of pressure from novelists and dramatists, who would otherwise have nothing left to write about.

“On the other hand, and in view of all our differences, we probably deserve some credit as a species just for tolerating each other as much as we do, particularly within such stressful settings as the typical family, where, even in the absence of a written constitution, internal business is nevertheless usually conducted without much bloodshed.

“Obviously it is not only laws and armaments which keep us from each other’s throats. Deep down in every one of us there may lurk a sneaking suspicion that we are indeed all somehow part of one big family. But if this idea does not appeal to you, I hope that, in suggesting it, I have not totally ruined your day.

From the introduction to chapter V, p. 67, of WE’VE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH TOGETHER, AND MOST OF IT WAS YOUR FAULT by Ashleigh Brilliant.




EroticaXTC 51F

7/3/2006 11:39 pm

keeping an open mind, being able to consider another point of view, and allowing room for respect...yeah, toleration too.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/4/2006 4:29 am:
I know I was born with certain rights, but where did all my obligations come from.

MamChelle 49F
1443 posts
7/3/2006 11:56 pm

some days i am thankful for family,,,,other days i am begging "Just let me out!" *grins* can't pick em but damn sure have to put up with them. not totally ruinedday here...*giggles*


somethingelse40 replies on 7/4/2006 4:31 am:
It's best to love some people at a safe distance.

moonfire2u 71F
2602 posts
7/4/2006 7:41 am

You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose but you can't pick your family....hahaha!!

On the other hand, in some of the metiphysical books...there is a theory that we do pick our family to be born into for our life lessons.

on a personal note: I feel sometimes we all feel we are entitled to too many rights...and we infringe on other peoples because of it...my obligation is to myself...to work on me...to help me to be the best possible me that I can be...I am a work in progress.

kind thoughts,
Moonfire


somethingelse40 replies on 7/4/2006 9:24 am:
Perhaps the biggest mistake one can make is to believe that we work for someone else; or that we exist or work only for ourselves. Indeed, there's some metaphysical/parapsychological evidence that sometimes we do have a choice in what family we invade.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/4/2006 3:49 pm

Perhaps the biggest mistake one can make is to believe that we work for someone else; or that we exist or work only for ourselves. Indeed, there's some metaphysical/parapsychological evidence that sometimes we do have a choice in what family we invade.

indeed, there is...but more than "sometimes"... more like, every time. A master plan with multiple choice alternatives at every moment...so vastly complex that our human minds cannot comprehend it in it's whole, and with good reason...we're not allowed to see the endings, we must learn through our experiences.

Your obligations come from the fact of your existence, they were applied when you, as the merest mote, evolved into being.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/4/2006 5:22 pm:
Well gosh, XTC, I hope I didn’t sign anything. Did you? The good news is, if you enjoy living: almost everybody alive today can reasonably expect to be alive tomorrow. The bad news is: that doesn’t apply to everybody.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/4/2006 5:56 pm

Not only did you sign it...you designed it...


somethingelse40 replies on 7/4/2006 7:38 pm:
Oh! Well surely there could be occasional mistakes in the works?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/5/2006 3:59 am

precisely...we're supposed to make mistakes all along the way...that's the whole point


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 10:42 am:
Serious mistakes can be severely costly ... even expensive at times.

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
7/5/2006 7:23 am

They say we are all connected by no more than 6 people!

Purry {=}

Purry


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 10:40 am:
That sounds like an awful lot of people at one time, Purry. Is there a trick to it?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/5/2006 11:09 am

true...but sooner or later you work your way through it...discover why it was made and begin to grow from it. You cannot let it become a rule for your life, to box you in...no one is perfect, no one is immune.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 4:19 pm:
Indeed, the secret of being a good lover is not knowing when to stop.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/5/2006 1:17 pm

and one other thing...adapt and overcome


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 4:23 pm:
Yes, but why should I be sensible, if it prevents me from being happy?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/5/2006 6:01 pm

I'm thoroughly confused now.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 6:50 pm:
Attraction is everything ... heavenly bodies … gravity … magnetism … electricity … chemistry … poetry … madness … you.

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
7/5/2006 6:48 pm

"in view of all our differences, we probably deserve some credit as a species just for tolerating each other as much as we do"

I agree!!!

Whisper... {=}


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 6:57 pm:
Have I got something for you? How can I wake you up without shattering your dreams? I hope your recurring wet dreams are the kind you like to go back to.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/5/2006 6:58 pm

finally...something I completely understand..


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 7:27 pm:
Are there others with such a complete understanding?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/5/2006 7:42 pm

nope


somethingelse40 replies on 7/5/2006 7:50 pm:
When you plan a journey from your mind into mine, remember to allow for the dimension and time differentials and keep your eyes on the center of the galaxy.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/5/2006 8:05 pm

oh, I don't plan journeys...they just sort of happen


somethingelse40 replies on 7/6/2006 4:30 am:
I think I know the feeling. It's all in the feeling, once the attraction invades our psyche.

MaggiesWishes 61F

7/5/2006 8:43 pm

*taking her "day pass" and passing up the train ride*

I may have been born into a family by accident, but I never took the price of admission for granted.
There's such things as "breaking the chain" and preventing the same occurrences to continue or trickle down the lineages. That is our choice.

warm wishes 2ya


somethingelse40 replies on 7/6/2006 4:33 am:
Well said. Should I abide ny the rules until they're changed, or help speed the change by breaking them? Are you sure we're ready for intimacy?

MaggiesWishes 61F

7/6/2006 4:39 am

Break out, claim your responsibility and live life as if you may never get another chance. Everything else is bendable.

moi? intimate?
Let me check my calendar *giggles*

warm huggies 2ya


somethingelse40 replies on 7/6/2006 4:46 am:
That was quick but unfortunately for me I have to go to work now rather stay and play with dolls. Hopefully you won't change your mind before I can get back here and go ape over you?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/6/2006 11:41 am

I don't think the attraction invades our psyche...I think it's born there


somethingelse40 replies on 7/6/2006 4:11 pm:
Now that’s an interesting concept, are we talking prenatal or fatal? The more I learn about myself, the more I become a different self. Be careful or I’ll include you in my plans.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/6/2006 4:17 pm

oh wow...maybe a little bit of both? like, say a "predisposition"? This is one of those touch and go topics.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/6/2006 5:02 pm:
Actually I think I prefer touch and stay topics. What's the significance of the pointed toe in the photo? Are you a ballerina?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/6/2006 5:38 pm

I am not a ballerina. However, the pointed toe is not the point at all...it's the secondary occurrence from my spreading my leg open.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/6/2006 6:47 pm:
My problem
is not
controlling
my desires,
it's
controlling
yours.

For me,
it's always easy to choose
between
the Ultimate,
the Infinite,
the Chocolate.
the Intimate,
and You.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/7/2006 1:43 am

controlling my desires? odd, that, since they're always pointed in one direction


somethingelse40 replies on 7/7/2006 3:57 am:
But of course there are many other options, amenities, and dimensions that one might wish to exercise or optimize, and many accelerations, momentums, and heart throbs other than stop and wide open.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/7/2006 3:22 pm

quite so


somethingelse40 replies on 7/7/2006 3:48 pm:
Desires are so wonderful, they shouldn’t be wasted on someone who is too dense to enjoy them.

florallei 100F

7/7/2006 3:50 pm

At times it is really terrifying to think why mankind has not ceased to exist...for it seems we haven't learned from past history...how can we achieve peace when even in one's home in any part of the world the family is divided within itself...


somethingelse40 replies on 7/7/2006 3:57 pm:
Reality has such a big face that it’s impossible to face all of it at once.

EroticaXTC 51F

7/7/2006 5:03 pm

which is why I haven't wasted them in quite a while


somethingelse40 replies on 7/7/2006 7:32 pm:
But it's something about the way you look tonight ...

lustcurious42 58F

7/7/2006 9:18 pm

Is this what you spend your time reading? I'm just curious......I think a certain amount of it is great. But some of it is just hogwash. Don't ya think?
Oh damn, unless of course you know this person really, really well....then it is of course brilliant. Actually, it just may be my frame of mind tonight. If I were to sit down and read this book, it would probably be different. Damn, I'm rambling......


somethingelse40 replies on 7/8/2006 3:26 am:
Why should we be sensible if it prevents us from being happy? Hogwash is my perhaps favorite subject, now that you mention it. I simply must blog more often on that topic. I’m grateful for your discovery. Talk about rambling: you should see some of my other hogwash. I don’t care what the world knows about me but I sure hope my mother never finds out.

somethingelse40 replies on 7/8/2006 3:40 am:
In fact, curious, you've just won the golden hogwash goose egg by having attained the rather dubious honor of posting the first ever of my comments that ever went onto a second page. I’ve always been extremely lucky if I got one or two comments; and I usually had to beg, borrow, or steel those. Take care, love, I’ll let you know when to expect the goose egg. It’s coming from another galaxy.

somethingelse40 replies on 7/8/2006 7:58 am:
Why should we be sensible if it prevents us from being happy?

TonyPlays 65M

7/8/2006 5:03 am

About being part of one big family: Genetically all humans share a common parent. And spiritually it seems to me we all probably come from the same energy battery in the sky.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/8/2006 5:12 am:
I'd say that's a very good guess. If you like this world you'll love the next one. Just you wait and see.

TonyPlays 65M

7/8/2006 5:24 am

Well I'm into reincarnation. So I think I'll be sticking to this world, just in a different body.

I hope I'm a man again although it probably feels really nice to be a young sexy woman.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/8/2006 5:35 am:
Then perhaps I should rephrase the aphorism: If you like this life you’ll love the next one, although in fact you may never know the difference.

TonyPlays 65M

7/8/2006 5:41 am

Perhaps that is very apropo.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/9/2006 8:06 am:
Indeed, had you ever wondered why STIFF HAPPENS … or imagined a more engaging spectacle, suspense or mystery, than the common f**k in folk lore?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/8/2006 5:46 pm

me and how many others?


somethingelse40 replies on 7/9/2006 12:23 am:
Feeling bad makes me look bad. But knowing that I look bad makes me feel worse. What's a guy to do who when primarily interested in you?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/9/2006 2:13 am

a "guy" or a 64 year old man who is the same age as my father? lol. Surely a guy who's primarily interested in me knows exactly what to do...and how to go about it.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/9/2006 6:26 am:
So I'm old enough to know better, huh? Maybe? Maybe Not? Let's not jump to conclusions before jumping to conslusions? I believe that, for every why, there must somewhere be a why not. Why not?

EroticaXTC 51F

7/9/2006 4:35 pm

um no...that's not what I said. No jumping to conclusions either, just going by the printed word.


somethingelse40 replies on 7/9/2006 6:05 pm:
Most of my desires do me do good at all, if I have to carry them out.

curvymeli 40F

7/14/2006 12:26 am

"The more I learn about myself the more I become a different self"

Doesn't that apply across the board? The more I learn about anyone the more they change, and the more I think I am becoming myself my world convulses.

Our capacity as a people to absorb and grow from our relations with others and events in our lives is so obvious that it is taken for granted. Sometimes I want that pat on the back for not letting it bother me that my plans were ruined bc of someone's idiocy, or for my amazing powers of respectful attention through yet another bitchfest from my sister/mother/best friend...

But what? Maybe the sneaking suspicion is more than just the underlying interconnectedness of mankind, more than our tolerance of one another in brotherly love or social politeness, maybe it's that niggling awareness that yes, YOU are exactly like that, too, and if you want someone to put up with your shit you better damn well get forgiving right now!


somethingelse40 replies on 7/14/2006 4:35 am:
Indeed, curvy, that’s a hell of a comment you’ve fingered there. I may have to reread it endlessly to merely grasp a superficial savvyness with it. Perhaps the problem is the more I learn about myself. My biggest problem with myself seems to be related to my skin, in trying to control what’s inside it. I’m not really disorderly … it’s just that, for my kind of order, there’s never enough space. Gosh I’m so taken with your comment I may be falling for you as well.

adbacula 38M

7/15/2006 6:52 pm

Hi somethingelse,

I want to thank you for refraining from hesitation, and posting your mind stimulating comments. Fearfully, I invite you to comment in my blog, as I'm unexpectedly intrigued by yours.


"Why should we be sensible if it prevents us from being happy?"

I suggest we are not happy now. I suggest, for 90% of us, we will never be happy. Who's the 10%? I'll tell you who I think it is. Simply. The rich and powerful of course. "They" are the ones with the "resources", to evade "our" demise (and eventually "evolve" in which direction?).

Are you a guru, or googler? I picture your voice, like one of those late night radio hosts.

@Huny~Why is the truth dangerous?Ya think it is better to lie?

I don't believe in lying, but I do believe some people require a little more sensitivity than others. We're not ALL ready to hear the truth sometimes. Even loved ones kill each other. Emotions are dangerous. (Plus, remember those 10%.)

I often wonder if I should be expressing myself so freely. (And, so naively. If I disappear after making this post... nah... I'm no shepherd... lol. I'm an idiot at worst.)

Cheers, and good luck,
ad


somethingelse40 replies on 7/15/2006 7:33 pm:
I'm neither psychic nor guru ... merely an unlicensed, untrained, and perhaps charlatan shaman. Best regards in your search of relevance and contentment. By best guess is that it comes from without but profoundly affects us on the inside.

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