Why do some people join AFF?  

rm_somar70 48M
21 posts
4/5/2005 5:06 pm

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7/29/2007 4:39 am

Why do some people join AFF?

I don't know if it's just me or the country I'm from,but a lot of people join this site to fulfill some sort of voyeur fetish.They try to blow your mind with all kinds of sexy stuff they feel you want to hear,just to provoke a response.I've met some really nice genuine people on this site,but I've also spoken to a lot of people who I know for a fact are never going to do anything more than chat if you're lucky,some don't even respond.I understand that especially with women,there are security and trust issues,but my point is why visit the pool if you don't want to get wet?

keithcancook 61M
18138 posts
4/5/2005 5:33 pm

Some times it is better to test the waters by starting with observation before putting a toe in.

1 post
4/5/2005 7:33 pm

I kind of wonder the same thing. I have only hooed up with one girl from here in a year of trying. are the girls here really swingers? or they all looking for Long term relationships??

hotandhorny107 60F

4/5/2005 11:25 pm

I joined about a year ago hoping to find like minded men, that is pretty much friends with benefits. I have had a reasonable amount of sucess, but also a lot of players too. It can be rather irritating to be contacted by men that show some promise of being fun only to have them duck out or not contact you further. I like a bit of pursuit and make it clear that to assure my safety and peace of mind we chat first then do a face to face somewhere public. If there is a chemistry between us then we take it further. If not maybe I have a new friend...

bigpiggy25 35M
2 posts
6/9/2005 5:44 pm

yeah man i totally agree.. ive only been here for 4 days.. ive corresponded with a few interesting people but for the most part i think people are just leeching my pictures.

rich33_lonely 45F

7/15/2005 7:52 pm

I think some people join without really knowing or understanding what this network is all about and at the end of the day I think most people are probably looking for a serious long term relationship

1 post
8/27/2005 4:15 pm

As we say here in local terms"playin' and 'fraid powder" seem to be very typical of the Trinis who "present" themselves here. I get the distinct impression that there is a lack of maturity with regard to one's sense of ease with their true sexual feeling and expressions. Guys want to hook with guys, but beat around the bush. The women on the other hand , seem to making a little more headway thought.

newpositionpls 46F  
110 posts
7/2/2007 6:59 am

I think most of the women on this site knows what they want, but they do not know how 2 go about getting it. they fear what others (friends, family, co-workers) would think if they were seen or known 2 b in the company of swingers. & so they keep putting of the meetings.

rm_somar70 48M
7 posts
7/2/2007 2:58 pm

If I had to live my life wondering what people would think if I did this or said that,I couldn't be true to myself.What kind of life would that be?
I've learned to consider my happiness first and f--k the rest.I'm at the age where I can remember that when I was younger men were ashamed to admit that they eat pussy.They used to look at me funny,cuz they all did,but could not voice it openly.Now men in Trinidad boast that they do it and I hear Jamaican men dislike us for it.
So I believe that this too will pass,it's all part of the maturing process.

rm_joyjuice11 44F
4 posts
7/9/2007 10:46 am

intrestingly I believe that once a woman gets to meet the person face to face, the interaction will be different. It has a lot to do with chemistry and also the fact that if I am a freak with you it can be kept discreet. After all some of us still care what others may think or say about us.

sexymysticvamp 32F
12 posts
7/27/2007 10:59 am

The bottom line is that men and women think differently, men can and will meet a woman they find attractive have sex with them and then sa bye bye without a backwards glance, that does not mean they did not enjoy the encounter but for men no strings mean NO STRINGS...women on the other hand are seeking some kind of self validation or affection, they simply cannot have that cut and dried approach to sex that men do, being attracted to someone physically is only one aspect of sex for women and there are a lot more psychological hangups. Men need to understand this simple thing about women. of course there are the few exceptions but then, the exception proves the rule....


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