Lazy People Who Don  

solwhiskey 42M
35 posts
1/22/2006 8:59 pm

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Lazy People Who Don

I haven't answered every single question on my profile, but at least I wrote something that gives some idea of who I am and where I'm coming from. So I want to know what kind of a response a person expects when the entirety of their profile is about two lines and/or says nothing more than what is completely obvious.

For instance, what's with these people who clearly aren't comfortable posting a profile on this site to begin with, and feel the need to make it absolutely clear that they're "just curious" and they're just here for laughs, even though they've checked 1-on-1 sex and discreet relationship as their goals?

Or how about the ones that tell you nothing at all about themselves, except that they're "looking for fun", or "want to meet new people"? Oh good, I'm glad you clarified that, because I had no idea what your purpose was in posting a profile on AdultFriendFinder.

But by far the most frustrating are the canned profiles. "My idea of a great date is to start out with a plan and see where the night takes us." "I'm not changing my life, I'm changing how I live it." "I'm a little on the quiet side, but I thaw fairly quickly once I get to know you." Sound familiar? If so, it's because these phrases appear on about one in five profiles on this site! There must be some kind of automatic profile machine people are using to come up with these things. ProfileBot 2000 or something.

I'm talking about women's profiles here. Men may do the same things, I just don't know about it because I don't generally browse men's profiles.

But you know what gets me? The women who put no effort at all into their profiles will probably get just about the same level of response as the women who worked hard to let a little of themselves shine through. Because you know there are many, many guys on here who write to everybody within 50 miles with a pussy, saying shit like "u R hot!!1! wan 2 fuxx0rz??!!1?!!??1?!"

angelgrrl 49F

1/22/2006 9:44 pm

I'm guilty of using the "profile helper" for my self description -- one of those phrases are very familiar. I've thought about changing it, but I'm not sure what to say. However, what I'm looking for is all me, as is my blog. And I suspect you're right; you would not believe how many e-mails I've gotten saying "your eye is so beautiful! I bet the rest of you is just as beautiful."

solwhiskey 42M
19 posts
1/23/2006 9:19 am

angelgrrl, I must have viewed your profile twenty times and I never noticed that. Your profile isn't one of the ones I was talking about, even with the "profile helper" phrase, because it gives an idea of who you are in other ways. Plus, there's a blog attached, and that always helps.

Mainly, I'm talking about people who are either afraid of putting themselves out there, or not willing to expend the effort.

angelgrrl 49F

1/23/2006 10:00 am

solwhiskey, I know you weren't referring to me in this. And I probably should make an effort to change my profile. I used the profile helper the night I signed up just to get it out of the way and never did update it. Everything I write about myself just sounds more fake than what is up there now, though, which is a big part of the reason it still stands I need to just direct people to my blog.

angelgrrl 49F

1/23/2006 2:33 pm

Try one of my addendum was denied. I'm on try two

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