Something I must address..  

softnlush 54F
878 posts
3/9/2006 7:54 am

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3/20/2006 2:32 pm

Something I must address..

I just got off the phone with a male friend of mine,well I guess we are not friends anymore..years later and nothing changes,he is just an asshole incarnate,and we have shared so many times he and I,but after I spoke to him I felt like what is the point?..And this is not the first it makes me want to say this...

Why is it that some people are incapable of remaining friends,after other things do not work out?

Lets just say,you are someone who was attracted to me,as a friend and maybe more and one thing led to another and we shared a moment,not a great earthshattering,life altering moment,but a significant one..why does that automatically negate the whole attracted to you as a friend thing? Seriously I do not get it..especially if we talked about it before taking the step of sharing.(and in this case YEARS after).and agreed that in the end the most important thing is the friendship. What could possibly negate that? I am curious to know this.

My feelings for that person did not change friendwise..I may not be interested in the sharing of bodily fluids for whatever reason(in this case distance and his asshole incarnate qualities,if I even was tempted my next trip to NY no way NOW),but hey..I still want to know you,still want to know how you are doing and if all is well? I will even make an attempt to show my good faith in wanting a friendship,I may call you or email you..but to get no reply?..not even a fuck off? Or worse to seem like I am an annoyance to you? Not cool..leaves a bad taste in the mouth if you want to know the truth and the longer it goes on,the least likely I will even care what happens to you..that is not very friendly now is it? And it goes against everything I am about.

Perhaps men and women are just truly so different that they will never truly meet on any neutral ground,I remember in Jr High and High School,if you kissed a boy and then did not like him that way anymore,you even stopped looking at him,would turn around and walk the other way to avoid them..guess what,I do not do fact,I would have and have done the exact opposite,acknowledged them,smiled at them,waved to them,only to be looked away from,stepped away from..but now here we are adults and it has not changed??? Give me a break..shit happens,if it did not work out,think about what you did enjoy in them before you stepped over the line,did you laugh alot around them,did you find interest in what they had to say,if you did,you had the makings of a great potential friendship..too bad the maturity level flew out the window..

just a vent..something that popped up and I wanted to get off my may continue to ignore my blogs and go on with your days *giggles*

rm_bucfannn 62M/61F
2110 posts
3/9/2006 8:15 am

yeah well.. I have just two words, (and not taken in the literal sense, either)... FUCK 'EM

Amazing how many bs games are still being played.

rm_JohnMacLaine 51M
585 posts
3/9/2006 6:23 pm


Some people just cant separate the intamacy and the friendship part. Most ofthe time it is theman thatcant separate it, due to the fact a lot of men relate sex to love. there ar a lot of us that can separate the two, but there are many that have a hard time with it. I am with bucfann in that Fuck-Em and go on with your life.



"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi

digdug41 50M

3/9/2006 6:28 pm

hey if ppl cant get a grip then just like bucfannn said fuck'em

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rm_keywest106 58M

3/11/2006 5:40 am

Not much help here but I've noticed my oldest and "best" friends are thinning out as I get older. Haven't heard from some in months and calls go unanswered. Those that are still around I've gotten much more close with. Age?

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