Random Bitching..cause I feel like it..  

softnlush 54F
878 posts
7/2/2006 4:22 pm

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7/13/2006 7:47 pm

Random Bitching..cause I feel like it..

I have so much to say and have to word it carefully..as everyone knows I never name names and I try to be as vague as possible..or if I have to use names I make them up..trust me the people I am talking about if they read this,already KNOW it is about THEM..so I do not need to embarrass them further by mentioning names..ya know what I mean?? Good.

As I said I love to peruse blogs,and how I usually find a new one is if a blogger whom I never met comes to mine and I,in turn,go to theirs and from there someone else my catch my eye and I will go to theirs and so on and so on.

I have to say there are some wonderful writers out there..I would say 90% of the ones I read I find very interesting..then I see the drama on others..total drama..and everyone taking it so seriously that I really wonder if they are so wrapped up in others drama simply because they have no form of life outside of the blogs,and I know there are some that are..when I am bored..I too find that I am sucked into it..but I keep it in its proper perspective,alot of people use these blogs to write what is bothering them,what moves them,what causes them happiness or sorrow,and I take that into account as I read,I rarely leave a comment because sometimes I simply do not have the words to help,or at least I do not think I do. I commend people who can write what they feel..I have been commended for the same in private emails..I am happy when someone enjoys what I write and although I love comments,I do not take it personal if someone just came to read and go..I hear it is impolite in blogville to read someones blog and not comment..who the fuck made up that rule??..give me a break..but I read that very statement on several blogs..that it is considered rude to read and go/hit and run..that has to be the funniest and dumbest thing I ever read..so what if someone is not commenting..ever hear it is best to say nothing at all if you haven't got anything nice to say?? I live that rule..I appreciate it being used towards me as well..but if I am so moved,it is because something touched me enough or I felt I went through the same thing and I can give my experience,if I haven't I will not just say something so that someone thinks it is not rude to hit and run on a blog..or read and go..IT IS NOT RUDE TO READ AND NOT COMMENT OK???!!!

I also get a tiny charge from the blog to blog flirtations..love affairs and fights..the whole someone telling someone off but not saying who it is..it is like eavesdropping in a way..but hey..there are real people behind the computer..and if someone pissed them off and they are unable to actually say it..best to let lose on the blog..but if you do not want people to read it..then write it elsewhere..cause people are naturally curious (or as I call it..NOSY lol )..and some like to live vicariously through others..or read something that makes them go..wow,I am glad I am not that person..whew.

I left a group I was part of for about a year over drama..not even MY own drama..other peoples drama..because I watch enough soap operas,do not need to experience them in my real life..there are many people that I consider friends and nothing has changed for me,except I miss them..my former group went on a recent outing and because of maybe 3 people..even if I had wanted to go..I would have declined..simply because I choose not to be around drama,and who said what about whom and whom is not talking to who..and who is starting shit..lots of shit stirrers..lots..then there are the genuinely good people and because the not so good ones are so loud and bold and have to be the center of the universe,I cannot block them out to concentrate on whom I wish to concentrate on..so again,it was probably best I made the decision I did to back off. Until the element in question just ups and leaves the group..which I do not see happening..I will be just a person who used to be part of it.

My best friend left the group way before I did,I know some of the reasons have NOTHING to do with the group,but some do..some things she just did not appreciate and the way someone rudely dismissed her at an event..when I give her my personal recaps..all I hear from her is..see this is why I am so glad I do not go anymore..and I gave it a few chances before I too realized,yep,maybe this is just something I needed to do for a moment in my life and then leave before I really started have serious issues with the people I was beginning to dislike very much..very very much.

I made a wonderful female friend from TASA and she and I hit it off pretty immediatly,she is my type of person,blunt,honest and straight forward..but she likes to go to the group functions,tries to convince me to go anyway and when I ask..will so and so and such and such be there..she says yes and I say..sorry. But I am going to try to plan a by invitation only get together for the folks I met that I really do miss alot..my best friend will also feel more comfortable in that type of scenario as well..I know some when they find out will think they are on my "can't stand" list but that may not be the case at all..it may simply be I invited who I knew pretty well and that is just as simple as that...honestly there are only 3 people on my can't stand to be in the same room with them list..just 3..not 10..not 1/2 the group..3 people only..but they are "favorites" or at least as I see it..they come to every meet and greet and most outside the meet and greet functions..so,well,ewww..lol.

I also am very aware of couples..ex couples and recent coupling and exes of people and hurt feelings and the way others treat them..I witnessed it at the last meet and greet and I was astounded at the level of rudeness..I wonder if the people who treated that person that way,were even aware of how obvious it was? Obviously they did not care one iota about it either..real nice.

I guess I should not be surprised,after all in a large group of like minded people,this will happen,people will hook up and break up and then hook up with someone else from the group..and break up and hook up with someone else from the group and so on..although I find that gross..I see how it happens..I choose not to be part of the intermingling..I rather not follow a friend or an enemy on the list of who to do next..not my style..most of the people in my life feel the same way,but the group itself admittedly is a dysfunctional family at best..I just don't do family LOL.

Anyway..just some bitching I felt like doing..since I am yet again waiting on my best bud who has NO concept of time,to get my happy ass and take me for some FOOD!!

I hope your Sunday was fan-fucking-tastic


rm_bucfannn 62M/61F
2110 posts
7/2/2006 8:54 pm

This post made me laugh just as hard, as when you read it to me.

Since I am still going to these functions, I am trying like HELL to steer clear of the bullshit. I find it easy to do. But, I am sure there will come a time, when I won't. Annnnnnnnnnnd, unlike you, (being nice), I probably won't be. But, that's just the way I am, as you are well aware I can handle the drama, as long as I am not dragged, (kicking and screaming, I might add), into it. Distancing myself is pretty easy to do. I'll look, roll my eyes, and turn away.

Watching this crap can be amusing. I find it PATHETIC as shit, that there are those that HAVE to be the center of attention... Sorry, but, they definitely ain't all that and a bag of chips, either. But, why is it, some CANNOT see that? I don't get it. They see what they want. Period.

Am I being petty? Nah, I don't think so. But, then again, I don't view this bullshit through rose-colored, (or is that blond??), glasses.

When I first became active with this group, for the first couple of times, I sat back and watched the interactions. The dynamics were/are something to behold. I knew instinctively who I could trust, and who I couldn't. Annnnnnnnnnd, who I could get to know, and those I wanted no part of. Ya know, it's easy to avoid those that acutely make my stomach turn

Ok, now I've typed out a novel, I'll let everyone get back to their regularly scheduled blog

AND, BTW... my day was not fan-fucking-tastic. I worked a double. Bleah....

AltumHunksUnite 54M

7/2/2006 9:24 pm

Yes, there will be conflict in any group. It's a bummer that some of it had to touch you.

Let me drive. I like the view

Xeryien 53M
1448 posts
7/3/2006 7:44 am

Well, at least I am pretty sure that it's not me... Seeings I have never been to a M&G or any other function of the unsaid group...

However, I guess I would then be classed as an oblivious outsider - having no clue as to whom you are referring to... But then again - I've never met any of you in 'real life' so I still play the happy go lucky card, and hope not too step on too many toes....

But as an "admittedly is a dysfunctional family" isn't this type of drama always going on? Especially with this many people? I mean, growing up - I only had two sisters and the drama never stopped then - with 800+ people? Oooo - I can't wait to sit back and watch!

Anyway, just dropped in to say 'Hi'! And if anyone wants to lift the veil of cloudiness from my tiny little pea brain and tell me what's going on - email me at the yahoo.... If not I will continue to play the dumb blonde.... (But then again - I'm not blonde!)


leegs55 56M

7/3/2006 10:01 pm

hope u were fan-fucking..have fun happy 4th!!

rm_JohnMacLaine 51M
585 posts
7/3/2006 10:30 pm

As I stated in my first post on my blog in a month this evening, I try to go out of my way to avoid drama at all costs. I try not to have any in my personal life, and I certainly dont need it in my professional life. You get involed with drama in my business and you go broke real fast.

When drama tries to reach its ugly head my way I do the same thing 'fann does, roll my eyes and walk away. But in my case I also close my eyes and think of a song that takes me away to a nice place....

It's 5 o'clock somewhere"


"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi

LovableAscending 60F

7/3/2006 11:35 pm

Who says reading someone's blog and not commenting is rude? Must be in the fine print because I've never seen that rule before. And that makes me rude, according to the blog-reading-rule-makers. Well you, or anyone else for that matter, may read my blog with or without comment. If anyone else has a problem with that it's, well, their problem.

Regarding the drama and attention-seeking behavior - every group has at least one...some have more. You have to do what is best for you, but we sure miss you.

heavensent11236 53F

7/5/2006 4:10 am

Let me know when you guys are planning your next outing/luch, sorry, been so damn busy working lately I forgot what having a life actually is.

rm_BanginBunni 41F

7/13/2006 1:57 pm

i have nothing ta add but just ta let u know i read ur blog and feel ya!

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