Mean Spirited people....  

softnlush 54F
878 posts
6/12/2006 7:04 am

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7/2/2006 6:56 am

Mean Spirited people....

There is one thing to be opinionated,it is another to be just mean for the fuck of it..we have a member of our group and I am not naming names,who I believe falls under this category,they will not say to your face,or in a personal note to you what they feel,but take the time to hint at it on the open forum,they do not name names..always saying you know who you are..and ZING,we all know we have several people in the group with less than perfect esteem issues(myself included),so I would think anyone who is in that category would have thought it was directed at them..really nice.

I for one,am sick of it..there are many many cliques in this group..most of which I want no part of..some of the folks in our group (not most..some)have real issues,real issues and I prefer not to associate myself with it,my perogative,but the phoniness astounds me..let me say this,if anyone said anything negative to or about this particular poster..I would see 99% jumping to their defense,but not one person acknowledged it on the thread itself..I was going me..but I decided I will blog it instead.

Was it directed at me because "gasp" they saw me in that halter twice in 4 months? Was it directed at the many baseball cap wearers? Was it directed at men with ponytails? Men in shorts? Men in flip flops? Men in cowboy hats?? Who exactly is this person..see where I am getting at?? If this poster would have sent a private email..maybe that would be wrong but it would be private..obviously it bothers this person enuf that they just HAD to comment on it..why do it on the threads?? Why has not one person asked about it?? Myself included? well I did it here!!

With that,I am saying this officially..I am no longer a part of TASA,the drama,the intergroup minglings,the phoniness and unhealthiness is too great for me..I tried everytime but when I leave feeling disgusting it is a sign I need to go..I will continue to blog..anyone who wants to continue the friendship,is more than happy to contact me,Mr Frumpy,nastee,bucfannn,heavensent,PhoenixBlu have my yahoo name..but I am not doing this anymore..there are several of you I wish not to lose contact with..I will email you directly..and hope to see you at gatherings other than meet and greets..or perhaps on a lark I will have a by invite only get together on one of those off saturdays..I would never want to do it on an official meet and greet.

If you cannot respect my feelings..all I can say is I wish you well,and hope there are no hard feelings but I need to be around people that are making me smile..not making me upset and it is happening waaaaaaaay too frequently..I apologize if I offended friends of the poster but come on,not everyone is going to like everyone and I am not a phony..and I cannot be around unhealthy is just too much for me..I thought I could do it..I gave it my best I am done!!


AltumHunksUnite 54M

6/12/2006 8:06 am

Hmmm... I didn't see this coming.

Hope you change your mind.

Let me drive. I like the view

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 6:32 am:
Not likely,how I see it..better to lose one unhappy person,than to lose the people that are preferred..I never really felt all that preferred anyway and that is maybe just my feeling..but,I decided after being on the fence on and off for the last 4 was time I decided what I was going to do..I decided to hop off is all..and I hope we keep in touch my are one of the ones I really like


TabithaElectra79 39F

6/12/2006 8:57 am

It is a real shame when people can make you feel this way by their actions...

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 6:31 am:
well this particular poster,well,she is rather vain and rather shallow and while I am not certain who she was referring too,the fact that it bothered her so much that she had to put it in what was originally a positive post..well,leads me to believe she is just not a nice person..not where it counts..on the inside..and I normally would let it go,hey she did not mention my name but who knows..but it just was the last straw for me is all.

rm_MisterFrumpy 47M
428 posts
6/12/2006 2:32 pm

was this the 'take of off and bury it' commment? i dont even remember who said it, but wondered who they were talking about. Not because i care, hell people could come wearing flip flops and shorts for all i care.

Hope you change your mind, i'm already low on people i can sit back and make fun of other people with.

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 6:29 am:
yep that is the exact post that broke the camels back with the straw thingie

rm_freaksinheat 40M/40F
12 posts
6/12/2006 7:28 pm

I am very sorry to see you go. I do hope you reconsider. If not, you still have my im and will very soon have Courtney's also.


softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 6:36 am:
I look forward to chatting with you both on yee haww

rm_freaksinheat 40M/40F
12 posts
6/12/2006 7:33 pm

BTW, I forgot to mention something. I did see that halter top again...and it made me smile...again.

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 6:37 am:
I decided to wear that one after I saw your post,cause I always thought that top displayed inga and olga quite well,not one glance..maybe they are not as pretty as I thought LOL LOL

LovableAscending 60F

6/12/2006 10:15 pm

I hate to see you leave TASA. I didn't see the post you are referring to, but I know it must have been very upsetting to you if you are leaving. Let's keep in touch - I've always loved your upbeat personality! See you in Yeehaw

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 6:25 am:
It was not just the post was the fact that this person always does crap like this,it was a whole culmination of things past and present that just all came down to a tiny thing that normally I would let go,but it was the proverbial straw that broke the camels to speak


LookandWink 64M

6/13/2006 12:00 am

Unfortunately, I never got the chance to meet you. Your comments and ideas have been welcomed and inspiring! I hope that somewhere, sometime, somehow we will meet again and become real-life friends too! Thank you!

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 6:26 am:
LOL you did meet me..I introduced myself to you twice,which is probably a sign that my absence will be no big shakes to everyone LOL LOL is all good though,it was a pleasure meeting you even if you did not remember me


_Bound4Pleasure 52F
204 posts
6/13/2006 8:37 am

SNL- I just logged on and didnt see your smiling face next to my pix.....I have spent 30 minutes, trying to find your profile, so I could get to ur blog (I'm sure there is an easier way- one day I'll find it)
I'm sad to see you leave! Although I have never talked much to you, I have always enjoyed your posts and ur times in the chat room, you always make me laugh!
I have had a few people in the past few months come up to me....saying I hear you are having problems with "---" NEWS to me!
I wasn't aware I didnt care for that person- Kinda funny cause I thought if I didn't like them I should be the first to know! People like to start trouble... but their Karma comes back to bite them
I try not to let that stuff bother me. and actually I feel bad for people that have have such a small existence in life, they have to speak poorly about someone to make themselves look good.
Honestly I thought I kept up pretty good on all threads......but I guess I have missed the one that you speak of.
I hope things change for you, but I can appreciate where you are coming from.
Best of luck to you... I will Miss you!

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 5:25 pm:
I appreciate this more than you can ever know..thanks alot susan


LovableAscending 60F

6/13/2006 9:13 am

I understand about the last straw thing soft...still hate to see a good, genuine person like you leave this group. I think it is good sometimes to take a break from things here, especially when a situation such as this arises. I hope you will come back soon. I know we will stay in touch, but it won't be the same without your enthusiastic welcome at the M&G - the warm hugs and smiles. Be happy...and you know where I am if you need me.

softnlush replies on 6/13/2006 5:26 pm:
Yep I am an IM away my friend..I will miss you too,but I just really cannot do it anymore..maybe a few months I will stop by one for a quick hello..but I would not place any bets on it..I am unfortunately or fortunately one of those,when I say I am gone..I am gone LOL

rm_Kingcat4U2 66M
2799 posts
6/13/2006 6:01 pm

Damn, I finally get to meet you and now you announce that won't be going to anymore M&Gs. Sometimes I think if it wasn't for bad luck I wouldn't have any at all! I confess that I don't know what happened. But if you have those feelings, you have to do whatever is necessary to protect yourself so you can feel happy and at ease again. Wishing you the best.
At least I still get to look forward to reading your blog!

heavensent1123 53F

6/15/2006 1:01 pm


You my friend know that I am going to miss you terribly. It's been my experience that what goes around comes around.
I did not see the post you were referring to, maybe have to go check it out. Just realize that those that pretend to be something they are not, well eventually the truth comes out.
Also, not for nothing *wink* maybe she really wasn't referring to you at all? People can be so vague, Cleavis had a post recently where I was sure he was referring to me, turns out he wasn't. Also, if you read some of my past blogs and stuff, I'm also guilty of saying... you know who you are... and I very definately know you aren't referring to me. It's all in the conception I suppose, now if she had said that girl in the ____ top, that pretty much would have cememnted the whole thing.
I almost did the same thing you did, let one or two people dictate whether or not I attended a M&G, after the last M&G I decided enough was enough, if you like me fine if you don't thats fine to.
Call me sometime, I hear theres a dinner in the very near future and guess what, I can go!!!

softnlush replies on 6/15/2006 7:14 pm:
the comment was not directed at me..and for all I know..the comment is directed at joe/jane from idaho..I just do not like using public threads for dumping on someone..and is not the was everything including the way I felt YOU were treated..I am a very sympathetic person and I feel when someone is hurting and I hated every second of it..but I did not leave just because of that either..I was ready I guess..just ready

lookin4girth 51F

6/15/2006 5:13 pm

Well dang it.

I did not see anything, hear anything, or obviously know anything. I signed on and knew a pic was gone and then Dan told me that you'd left. I was like "What!?!?!!"

I am sorry to see you leave. You and I didn't hang out too much together, but we got along which was cool with me

Well anyway.. if you want... my YIM is neonlady31966. Keep in touch and I'm sure we'll see you around.


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