What is it about someone that makes you want them?  

so_much_trouble 39F
86 posts
8/12/2005 12:39 pm

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What is it about someone that makes you want them?

Why is it that sometimes you can look at a person, and before they even look you in the eyes, or say anything, you can be completely hooked? I have known plenty of men in my life, and this has only happened to me 3 times. Do pheromones really work? Is it as simple as a chemical imbalance? Or sometimes, do you just know? I have always been able to tell if someone is good in bed the first time I meet them, and I have never been wrong. I also always go with my first impression of people. It has never let me down and it saves the time of giving people second changes just so that they can reaffirm my initial misconceptions I had of them.
When it comes to selecting someone to share your bed or your life, are there ground rules or is it a balance of what you can live with and what you can live without?

clicker9 68M  
16 posts
8/12/2005 3:19 pm

100% is what you have to give to any relationship if it will last. ive had women that i just knew were going to be in my bed and were and then others that had that bit of hesitation and you could tell ....probably not. as far as pheromones i dont know but i do know that when two like people get together there IS something that happens and like you say you just know. as far as sexually from my point of view if the man can get the woman off and turns her on and she doesnt lose her desire for him then he might be a keeper. AND for the man the female must be passionate and have a desire for him and be able to keep him interested because i believe that the male species was made to roam and that staying one on one is something that has come in the last few centuries and as society dictates. other things include being able to enjoy each others company,,,if you can do things together then there is potential AND keep doing things together. i suppose im rambling but then again relationships have so many things that can create friction in them in the fast paced world that we live in. i guess its the balance that people can work out between them and the interests that they have together that can keep things going for long periods of time..

rm_DiscreteCzar 40M
2 posts
8/12/2005 4:16 pm

Usually when a woman catches my eye she has a glow of sorts to her. You know what I mean, like she is happy and feeling good about herself. That itself just makes me more comfortable with her. I think you can tell the beauty and beast in a person over time, but that first impression is a prime indicator of one of the facets that make up that person. Sexual desire or maybe interest, for a woman, is dictated by that first impression. Which for men sucks, because we rarely are prepared or have our stuff together for that moment. But, reflecting on that situation a beautiful woman is somewhat accustomed to advances from men. And like those Internet Porn addicts they are a little de-sensitized to the process. But, Cupid's arrow does not get sent with choices and photos in an email from a mail server unfortunately. It is a kind of give and take. Because our mate may not be that soul mate that we have been trained to so desire. And, commonly we find our soul mate and they are so much like us we can not stand them, think about it. Either way love's box of chocolates does have a few salt rocks in them, but even those can be flavorful if you lick them right.

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